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SUMMER SCHOOL 2018: June 18th-July 12th Monday-Thursday 8:00AM-12:30PM

APRIL Counseling Tip of the Month

Does your teen turn to you to solve his peer-problems? Does your teen struggle with issues at school but detests your intervention?

1.Identify the Problem

The first step is to teach your child to identify the problem. Ask him about the current situation and how he wants it to turn out. Also, encourage him to approach the problem with a positive attitude.

2. Focus

Tell him to focus on the issue, not the person or the emotion. It will help him face the problem bravely rather than suffer from anxiety and frustration

3. Listen

Listening is very critical to problem-solving skills. Tell your child to listen without arguing or debating. Encourage him to use statements like ‘I need, I want, I feel’.

4. Generate a Solution

Sit down with your teenager and encourage him think about all the possible ways to solve the problem at hand. Ask your child to reflect on his experience during an earlier crisis. Your child may come up with a variety of solutions. Some of them will also be unrealistic. Let him explore his creative abilities. Do not discourage him.

5. Evaluate the Solution

Teach your child to evaluate the pros and cons of each of the possible solutions. Help him omit the options in which the negatives outweigh the positives. It will help your child sort out the most promising solution.

6. Put the idea into Practice

Now tell your child to implement the idea that can resolve the crisis. Encourage him to give his best and see how it works. Your goal should be to allow your child to solve the problems independently, without much intervention.

7. Evaluate the Outcome

Lastly, evaluate the outcome of the solution. The solution may take time to work. Also, at times you cannot solve problems in one attempt. So tell him to try all the possible solutions and prepare backup plans. It will also teach your child to not give up easily in life. Then ask your child the following questions:

  • What has or hasn’t worked well?
  • What can be done differently to make the solution work more smoothly?