How can I support my child?
Understanding behaviour
My Family Journal App
Find patterns and triggers to make sense of your child’s behaviour and find helpful ideas to try with our free journal app. Your journal is completely confidential to you. We don’t offer prescriptions, just more ideas to consider to help you understand the reasons behind the behaviours you’re seeing.
Enjoy the benefits of journaling with all the advantages of our free app. Using the power of the My Family Journal, we can help you find and tackle the reasons behind the behaviour.
With so many benefits to journaling, why not start today?
It’s free to download the My Family Journal app from Apple and Google Play stores. https://www.myfamilycoach.com/journal/
Being a parent is hard. You may well ask yourself.....Is this behaviour normal?' How can I support my child?; Where can I find the expert help I need?
At Baysgarth School we recommend using My Family Coach to help parents and carers understand their children’s behaviour. My Family Coach is a free website written by behaviour experts with 20 years’ experience working with over 5,000 schools. My Family Coach offer quick reads, podcasts and free classes.
My Family Coach will support you through the tough times, inspire you with new ideas, and share practical tips to make parenting that little bit easier. Choose from topics which include:-
School life
Communication
Mental Wellbeing
Healthy Living
At risk behaviour
Friendships
Relationships
Calming down
Screen time
Bullying
Parenting advice from child mental health experts
Practical tips to support children’s wellbeing and behaviour
Explore the Parenting Smart site filled with practical tips to support children’s wellbeing and behaviour
Mental health and wellbeing
Schools have an important role to play in supporting the mental health and wellbeing of their students, by developing approaches tailored to the particular needs of the students. Taking a coordinated and evidence-informed approach to mental health and wellbeing in schools can also help foster readiness to learn.
All schools have a statutory duty to promote the welfare of their students, which includes preventing impairment of children’s health or development and taking action to enable all children to have the best outcomes. This is why the DfE is encouraging schools to identify a senior mental health lead who will have strategic oversight of their setting’s whole school approach to mental health and wellbeing.
Our designated mental health lead is Mrs Donna Hennell. This post comes with a high degree of training and professional development. This post is focused on coordinating the whole school approach which is the role of both Mrs Hennell and Mr Roberts.
The whole school strategy encompasses these 8 principles:
School staff are not expected to, and should not, diagnose mental health conditions or perform mental health interventions. That advice is very clear from DfE and NHS. School staff are trained to a identify need and provide cultural support but their remit must stop there as there is a risk of exacerbating any mental health issue or blocking referrals to specialist services.
It is important that schools commission appropriately qualified and experienced external providers, as this will provide assurance they are properly trained, supported, professionally supervised, insured and working within agreed policy frameworks and standards, and accountable to a professional body with a clearly articulated complaints procedure. We are proud to be working alongside With Me in Mind at Baysgarth to enhance the support already in place at school.
In school there is a clear process for seeking mental health support where there is an identified need. This is through the inclusion team who have received the necessary training for identification. Tutors are designed to be a point of contact but their role is to signpost to the inclusion team as they have not had relevant training.
Parents have a role to play in supporting the mental health of their child and the pastoral team can support parents with advice and strategies to support their child and direct them to the appropriate specialist service if needed.
We recommend the websites below for you as parents to assist with finding out more about appropriate strategies to support your child with all aspects of their mental health and wellbeing.
When your child is suffering, parenthood can be tough, lonely and frightening. When the cause of that suffering is hard to understand, as is so often the case with mental health, it becomes more difficult still.
At Charlie Waller, we understand that. Led by parents who have experienced this challenge themselves, our parent and carer programme offers practical advice, training and support to parents, carers and families. This is delivered both face-to-face and online, primarily through our PLACE Network, a rapidly developing national network of parent support groups and training workshops.
We also produce a wealth of expert, evidence-based resources for parents and carers, on a range of topics relating to the mental health of children and young people.
Eating Disorders
If your child is experiencing difficulties with eating or has been diagnosed with an eating disorder, it can be a worrying, isolating and distressing time for you as a parent or carer.
Charlie Waller have produced a booklet to provide you with the knowledge and skills you need to support your child. We hope it reassures you that you are not alone and gives you hope that people do recover from an eating disorder.
Support for Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID)
Parent/Carer resource created by the North East and North Cumbria (NENC) Provider Collaborative. They are for the benefit of all those living with ARFID/suspected ARFID and their carers across the region. Resources on this website have been co-produced with experts from other national services, and with those with lived experience.
The services we provide
SEED’s mission is to create a facility that provides sufferers and carers alike with confidential independent and non judgemental advice and support to ensure they are aided by the best possible network of care and support to facilitate recovery.
All services can be accessed through self-referral. We provide support and services for people living in Hull East Riding and Out of Area.
What we do
Our national Helpline exists to encourage and empower people to get help quickly, because we know the sooner someone starts treatment, the greater their chance of recovery. People can contact us online or by phone. We listen to them, help them to understand the illness, and support them to take positive steps towards recovery. We also support family and friends, equipping them with essential skills and advice, so they can help their loved ones recover whilst also looking after their own mental health. And we campaign to increase knowledge among healthcare and other relevant professionals, and for better funding for high-quality treatment, so that when people are brave enough to take vital steps towards recovery, the right help is available to them.
We partner with the NHS to provide services for those with an eating disorder, their carers - such as family and friends - and training for healthcare professionals. You can find out more about this on our Commission us page.
The work we do means that every year lives are saved, families are kept together, and people are able to live free of eating disorders.
Family support
The North Lincolnshire children and families team can help you over the phone or arrange a visit if you prefer.
The Family Support team can be contacted on 01724 296500 during office hours.
They are able to offer:-
Information, advice and guidance
Outreach, community and family support
Safe North Lincs have a host of online resources if you need advice about coping with :-
When the Parent changes
Your behaviour is the only behaviour over which you have absolute control. To change your children’s behaviour, you first need to change your own.
The culture of any home is determined by the parents. If you can remain unflappably calm in the face of every supermarket tantrum and sarcastic eye-roll, order will soon follow.
Here, Paul Dix – Britain’s leading children’s behaviour expert – reveals how to build a culture of calm consistency into your home, starting today. He explains how you really can maintain a sense of Zen-like serenity in the face of even the most chaotic behaviour, from school-gate screaming matches to mealtime Armageddon. And he offers a set of simple strategies for coolly getting the behaviour you want – without a barked instruction, psychopathic punishment or cold, hard cash-bribe in sight.
His tried-and-tested method will change what your child does by first changing what you do. You will never need to raise your voice again
How to Hug a cactus? Reflective parenting with teenagers in mind
Have you ever wondered what’s going on in your teenager’s mind? This engaging book will give you the tools to understand just that to ultimately help you keep the close connection you both need during these tricky years.
Following on from her acclaimed book for parents of younger children, Sheila Redfern brings the reflective parenting model to parents of teenagers. Teenagers can be experienced as prickly and hard to get close to – like a cactus – but Dr. Redfern shows us how this stage of your child's life can be more enjoyable and connected than you'd imagined. Rather than focusing on their behaviours, this book emphasises how we can teach teenagers to manage their feelings and relationships in safe ways. It advocates theories underpinning reflective parenting – mentalizing, attachment and neuroscience – as essential for building resilience and security in young people, which is crucial through the storm and stress of adolescence. Chapters are filled with everyday, relatable scenarios and practical advice on pressing issues such as self-harm, social media and gaming, risk and ASD. There is also a chapter devoted to adoptive parents and foster carers.
This practical guide aims to help readers become more reflective and available as parents and understand what might be in their teenager’s head. It also serves as an essential resource for clinicians working with families.
How to have a difficult conversation with your teenager
Parental separation - separating better app
Separating better will equip parents with the practical information and emotional skills they need to put arrangements in place that work in the best interests of their children. The app is available to download for free now, and offers an accessible and sustainable solution to supporting parents through many of the practical steps of separation to help them to co-parent effectively.
The evidence-based app has been created by relationships experts at OnePlusOne, a leading relationship research and innovation charity, with funding from the Department for Work and Pensions’ (DWP) ReducingParental Conflict Challenge Fund 2.
Alongside practical tools which offer help with budgeting and legal arrangements, parents can also use Separating better to create their own parenting plan, considering the different needs their children may have.
Other features include:
A series of specially created Work it out videos showing typical co-parenting situations and the impact of poorly handled conflict on children. The videos use Behaviour Modelling Training techniques to help parents learn better conflict management and communication skills.
Evidence-based articles offering expert advice on many aspects of separation and co-parenting.
An emotional readiness quiz to help parents reflect on where they are emotionally in their separation journey and set personal goals to help them as they progress through the app.