Involvement

At this stage, TCKs feel comfortable and connected to their community. They are focused on the present moment; the past and future are not of major concern at the time.

Leaving

TCKs begin to mentally prepare for leaving their home. This can include detaching from friendships, denying feelings of grief (so that leaving can feel less painful) and recognizing that all relationships eventually end. They may feel heightened feelings of vulnerability and a lack of control.

Transition

Without sufficient support and an established social network, TCKs may withdraw and disengage at this stage. They become less expressive with their emotions and may experience loss of self-esteem because they’re learning everything over again. Making a cultural or linguistic mistake can lead to greater stress, anxiety and shame.

Entering

TCKs begin to grow accustomed to their new environment, where they fluctuate between feeling excited about new life prospects and missing the familiarity of their previous home. Feeling less chaotic and unstable, TCKs consciously integrate into their new community. They may exaggerate parts of their personality when adjusting.

Reinvolvement

Back to being focused on the present, TCKs are more connected to their new community and tend to reminisce on their past less frequently. They’re able to take pride in their ability to adapt and settle into different environments.

External link - Five stages of transition that adolescent TCKs experience (PDF, 266 KB).