Keeping the Honey Flowing After the Honeymoon

When the honeymoon is over, nothing can compare to the initial sweet feelings that blossom between young couples. But the real question is: How many couples are willing to maintain that sweetness until the end?

It is natural for new relationships to flourish with romance during the honeymoon period. During this time, couples are experts at wooing one another. They can sound the words "I love you" a hundred times before the day is done, and they often hang around each other like a baby clinging to its mother. The wife can go to any length to do anything for her husband, and the husband can go any length to do anything for the wife.

The Honey Loses Its Sweetness

After the honeymoon ends, however, that intense, overwhelming sweetness often seems to vanish. Over time, that initial "honey" will begin to lose its flavor, and many couples are left wondering where the romance went.

Love is supposed to be sweet, intense, warming, and endlessly wooing. Love was designed to be an eternal thing, but it is unfortunate that most people don’t truly understand what genuine love means.

Here is the reality: The truth of love does not start with the honeymoon; it begins after the honeymoon has ended. There will come a time when the moon will not surface, and the honey will have lost its sweetness.

The Foundation of True Love

Hear this, couples: Even though the honeymoon is over, you must keep the honey flowing. When it seems as if your marriage is surrounded by darkness, do not allow that darkness to overshadow your love for one another.

Love is the most powerful thing I have ever seen upon the earth. Let me take you to Song of Solomon 8:7, which says:

...many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it: if a man would give all the wealth of his house for love, it would utterly be rejected.

This is the foundation upon which true love was supposed to be laid. Solomon explained that if love were a fire, no amount of water could quench it. If love were an object, nothing on earth could drown it. If love were a person, no amount of wealth or riches could conquer him.

Love Must Be Strong as Death

Are these words true when it comes to marriage today?

What we see in today’s marriages is different: a situation where a little water quenches love, a situation where love is drowned by hatred, and a situation where wealth conquers love. If two lovers fail on their journey of love, it simply means they have never truly loved each other. Either one partner truly loved, and the other never did, or both were only operating in honeymoon fantasy.

What can be stronger than death? No matter how strong a person may be, when death comes for them, death always knocks them down. Death doesn’t have sympathy for anything. Death conquers the strong and the weak, the beautiful and the ugly, the rich and the poor. Tell me anything that death cannot conquer.

That is how strong love was made to be. I don't mean what we call 'love' today, but true and genuine love.

Song of Solomon 8:6: ...for love is as strong as death...

True love was supposed to knock down all challenges and tests placed before it. But what we see today is the opposite: any little thing conquers love.

From Fantasy to Reality

Before I leave you, hear this again: The reality of love does not start with the honeymoon; it begins after the honeymoon has ended.

• During the honeymoon, love is a fantasy.

• After the honeymoon, love becomes a reality.

The battle of love is in your hands. You can either make love a winner in that relationship, or you can allow it to be defeated. My advice for you is that you should make love win—not just once, but always.

Shalom!