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Marital rape is sexual violence by a spouse when one partner forces the other into sex without consent. Legally and morally, it's rape but culturally, its often dismissed. In many places, its still excluded from rape laws, as if marriage gives permanent sexual permission. The legal treatment of marital rape varies dramatically across the globe, reflecting a mix of cultural traditions, religious influences, and levels of gender equality.
Historically, many legal systems operated under the “marital rape exemption” — a doctrine rooted in 18th century British common law, particularly from the writings of Sir Matthew Hale, who claimed that by marrying,a woman gave irrevocable consent to sexual relations. This notion lingered well into the 20th century and still influences some contemporary legal frameworks.
"For years, I thought it was just my duty. I didnt even know I could say no." An anonymous survivor from Delhi.
According to the United Nations Women (UN Women) and the World Bank’s Women, Business and the Law (2023) database: Countries like Germany, Sweden, the UK, France, and Norway have criminalised marital rape for decades.
• Canada outlawed it in 1983, stressing individual bodily autonomy regardless of marital status.
• South Africa criminalised it in 1993, recognising it under the broader commitment to address gender based violence post-apartheid.
• Australia and New Zealand reformed their criminal laws in the 1990s to include spousal rape.
• Nepal was among the first South Asian countries to criminalise it in 2002.These countries have increasingly recognised that marriage should not nullify a person’s right to say “no”.
• India is a major democracy where marital rape is still not considered a crime under the Indian Penal Code, except in certain situations (e.g., if the wife is under 18 or if the couple is separated). Despite recommendations by various committees and international criticism, legal reform has been slow due to socio-cultural sensitivities and perceived threats to the sanctity of marriage.
• Pakistan, Bangladesh, and Sri Lanka also lack comprehensive legal recognition, though ongoing debates and court challenges suggest rising awareness.
• In many Middle Eastern countries, spousal rape is not criminalised, largely due to conservative interpretations of religious and family laws.
• Russia, China, and some Latin American countries still do not have explicit legal provisions criminalising marital rape.
According to a 2021 Amnesty International report, over 100 countries still do not explicitly criminalise marital rape.
In India, the NFHS 2019–21 survey found that 6% of women aged 18–49 had experienced sexual violence in marriage—and among them, 83% named their current husband as the assailant .Around 84% reported “physically forced” sex from husbands. 3–5 out of every 5 domestic violence cases reported in some regions like Tamil Nadu include forced sex. Globally, an estimated 3–8% of women have experienced marital rape at some point. Underreporting is massive—globally 80–99% of cases are never "I never imagined telling anyone, until I read another womans story online." Survivor in Mumbai.
The trauma of marital rape often leads to PTSD, depression, and suicide. Historical case: In 1889 in colonial India, Phulmoni Dasi, a just 10‑year‑old forced into marriage and raped by her adult husband, died from her injuries. Modern horrors: In Sudan, Noura Hussein, a teenage bride, stabbed her husband to death while defending herself from repeated rape. She was sentenced to death—later commuted—showing how survivors can still be punished.
While exact numbers of deaths tied to marital rape aren’t systematically tracked, these stories show how lethal non-consensual sex in marriage can be—especially for young or powerless brides.
Patriarchy, religious misinterpretations, and silence allow this violence to continue. In India, 99% of survivors never report marital rape.
1. Patriarchal Beliefs and Gender Roles : Many societies still operate under the belief that wives owe sex to their husbands as part of marriage. This idea strips women of autonomy and makes consent seem unnecessary within marriage.
➢ “My mother told me to just accept it—that all wives go through this. “In such mindsets, a woman’s body is seen as a husband’s “right,” not her own.
2. Legal Exemptions and Weak Laws: In over 30 countries—including India, Pakistan, and parts of the Middle East—marital rape is not even considered a crime under law. This legal immunity sends the message that rape in marriage is either acceptable or doesn’t exist. Even where it’s outlawed, convictions are extremely rare due to poor implementation, low reporting, and lack of evidence collection.
3. Cultural and Religious Norms : In some communities, religion and tradition are interpreted to mean that a wife must always submit to her husband. Challenging this is seen as a threat to the family structure. This prevents women from speaking up, and even judges or police may carry these biases.
4. Stigma and Silence : Victims often fear being blamed, disbelieved, or ostracised if they come forward. Many don’t even realise that what they’re experiencing is rape, because it’s never discussed.
➢ Pune Survivor: “For years, I thought it was just my duty. I didn’t know I could say no.”Families often pressure women to stay silent to “protect honour.”
5. Lack of Awareness and Education: Inadequate education about consent and sexual rights means that many people—including victims—don’t understand that rape can happen within marriage. This ignorance extends to police, doctors, and even judges
• Legal reform: Remove exemptions, align with human rights; e.g., Singapore repealed its exemption in 2020 .
• Awareness campaigns: Spread messages like “marriage ≠ consent.”
• Survivor support: Invest in hospitals, shelters, counselling, and justice institutions.
• Community education: Teach consent from early age; create male ally networks.
• Collect data: Track femicides and sexual violence in marriage to measure and prevent deaths .
Global organisations such as the United Nations, CEDAW (Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination Against Women), and World Health Organization (WHO) have repeatedly urged nations to criminalise marital rape and treat it as a serious violation of human rights. The Sustainable Development Goal 5 (gender equality) also emphasises eliminating violence against women in both public and private spheres.
Legal recognition of marital rape is a critical step toward upholding the dignity, autonomy, and safety of individuals within marriage. As countries evolve socially and politically, the need to align domestic laws with international human rights standards becomes increasingly pressing. While progress is visible in many parts of the world, a significant legal and cultural shift is still needed in several regions. Marital rape is not merely a legal issue—it is a moral and societal one that tests how we value consent, equality, and justice within intimate relationships.
• UN Women – https://www.unwomen.org/
• Amnesty International Reports (2021-2023)
• World Bank’s Women, Business and the Law (2023) – https://wbl.worldbank.org/
• Human Rights Watch – https://www.hrw.org/
• WHO Reports on Gender-Based Violence (2021-2022)
• CEDAW Committee Recommendations
• National legal databases and journals (India, UK, South Africa)