November 17, 2025
By Kai Dailey
Ecstatic dance teachers remind us to dance as if no one is watching. No easy feat if we're in a room with 25 or 100 people. My approximate expression of this is to maintain a space bubble around myself as best as I can and avoid eye contact so as not to invite attention or invitations to dance with others. But this is very different than actually stepping completely outside of my ego and allowing myself to move every which way because I am at that moment unconcerned about what others think or I am so caught up that I am somehow oblivious. There are also the practicalities of maintaining awareness of proximity. Depending on the size of the space, I'm aware of others so I don't accidentally slam into someone.
Every now and then, I do get to a place where I am so focused on the present because I am following the musical bread crumbs to the next movement that I do not realize that I've traveled halfway across the room. I often dance with my eyes closed. It helps to keep my focus on my own inner dance.
Challenges of Dance in Community
Dancing in a large group with all of its energies and social dynamics is grist for growing into the relational aspects of dance. Can we hold onto ourselves while being open to the experience of both rejection and invitation by others? Large dance venues contain the natural affordance of creating a space where watching and being watched is a part of the challenge. It's like trying to maintain dietary sobriety at a pastry tasting festival. And, if that's not enough, many dance venues, perhaps most, give sanctuary to their fair share of male (and some female) lotharios. Lonely souls fall prey to these folks while seeking healing, community, and solace in ecstatic dance communities.
Hidden Dogma and Other Influences
I've found the ecstatic dance "scene" in Spokane/CDA area to be heavily influenced by conservative Christian perspectives. No doubt attended by those who consider themselves progressive and enjoy community with like-minded others. But compared to ultra-liberal, perennialist/pan-theist urban dance spaces, local Inland Northwest dance generally doesn't afford the safety to slip into a selfless state of consciousness. I've had the experience of being physically slammed into multiple times by the same person while dancing in trance. I stopped attending dance in Spokane for more than 15 years after that. The dance leader simply lacked the ability to recognize it as a problem or hold the space. And again, conservative Christian influence, no matter how progressive its flavor, generally precludes dance for this purpose. I simply began traveling elsewhere for dance, taking workshops and learning from more welcoming communities in other parts of the country. Local dance options were simply not a fit for my sensibilities and goals for dance. I had to go find something somewhere else that was a better fit.
There are always unexamined dominate assumptions and belief systems that underpin every ecstatic dance community, no matter how diverse its membership. The pioneers who formalized ecstatic dance approaches in the U.S. and taught them from the 1970s through the early 2000s didn't advocate a formal religious faith or any specific spiritual tradition but left it open to each dancer or community of dancers to decide. Yet these teachers did hold beliefs that influenced what they taught and how they conceptualized the purpose, meaning, and progress in dance. Ecstatic dance communities grew in popularity at precisely the time that so many abandoned traditional Christianity in search of non-dogmatic spiritual communities. There were plenty of recovering Catholics and Protestants present in every group I've visited. It's no accident that many communities hold weekly ecstatic dance on Sunday mornings.
Urban centers tend toward communities of members with very different religious and spiritual faiths, so much diversity in numbers alone that the communal practice necessarily transcends any particular faith. I don't think this is as true of rural dance communities that tend to be far more homogeneous in their collective beliefs. I concede that I am likely overgeneralizing but the ecstatic dance urban/rural divide is quite real.
Dancing Alone with Others
What if the social grist is eliminated? Is the large social venue with the DJ really needed to grow spiritually in dance? Or could dancing in relative solitude offer a royal road rarely taken? Last week I noticed that since beginning Short Wave in May my dance has changed and I also noticed it has changed for my partner as well. There is a relaxed, fluidity of movement and a consistent sense of presence I've not experienced perhaps ever in dance. We are dancing as if no one is watching because no one is watching. Months of practice in this quiet venue has lightened our practice to a lean and authentic essence.
Setting aside for a moment the benefits and good times that come with good music and dancing with friends...I wonder if what keeps so many returning again and again to Sunday morning ecstatic dance is the misunderstanding that being noticed by others cannot satisfy the need to be seen. To be watched is to be taken notice of by another who signals his or her rejection, approval, or indifference. This superficial exchange cannot satisfy our deep human hunger to be truly seen and valued by another. If we dance long enough to grow into ourselves and our practice, can we leave this behind? Or at least find another way to satisfy the need? Could it be enough to dance in relative solitude and truly see and approve of one's self instead?
October 19, 2025
By Kai Dailey
So far I can report that for me the biggest challenge of a short wave is dropping into communion with interiority in such a short time. I bring a full week of worries, deadlines, and stress with me into the studio. I've meditated for more than 20 years. Yet it can take me at least 30 minutes to settle into meditation (on a good day). It's a continual challenge to integrate sitting meditation into a busy householder life. I watch the busy goings on of my mind until it wears itself out and slows into quiet. So too with dance. For this reason a gradual transition to the present has become the essence of a 45-minute wave for me. A mix that intones a long invocation to movement (as much as 20 to 25 minutes) and then unhurriedly acquires a mellow yet compelling groove is exceptionally effective when time is short.
Revisiting the question in my previous post about what qualities of a Short Wave are essential,
a long invocation to movement
immersion facilitated by good sound within the room
artful transitions that maintain flow
musical texture (in the form of complex layered compositions or unusual juxtaposition of rhythms and genres in a single piece)
mellow and unhurried energy
I intentionally omitted the traditional 5R wave format from this list. It turns out it's not needed and in fact doesn't work well in a condensed format. Instead of the classic bell curve, a good Short Wave looks more like a gradual assent and slow glide down.
A mellow and unhurried flow easily accommodates all 5 Rhythms yet maintains a sustained intensity. This may sound contradictory at first but in fact a gentle tempo seems to allow for entering a deeper state of presence. This makes sense as each of the rhythms contain within them all the other rhythms. Note that rhythms are not the same as tempo.
Tempo refers to the speed of the music, often measured in beats per minute. A piece's overall speed is its tempo, and it can be fast (e.g., allegro) or slow (e.g., adagio). Rhythm is the pattern of sounds and silences within the time frame set by the tempo. Different rhythmic patterns can be played at the same tempo, and the same rhythm can be played at different tempos.
The term "staccato," the Italian musical term for "detached" describes notes that are played with short, crisp attacks, leaving a small silence between each note. We may think of staccato as tribal drumming used in the frenzied peak of a 5R classic wave. But staccato may also be interspersed throughout a multi-layered fusion composition to punctuate a syncopated beat.
Two qualities I find useful in Short Wave music selections are complexity (musical texture) and sustained repetition of rhythms within progressive compositions. In a rhythmically complex piece, I can shift my focus from one rhythm to another moving among the many layers. Progressive compositions, unlike the standard 3-minute pop song (intro-verse-chorus), are extended, multi-part compositions with complex and shifting rhythms, changes in tempo, ironic key changes, and unexpected variations. Every time I audition a potential extended dance mix to add to a Short Wave set, I ask does it take me somewhere interesting or surprising?
Opening invocation selections can be as simple as falling rain, ocean sounds, or traditional yoga-type music with Indian flutes, sitar, singing bowls, handpans, rainsticks. These flow into more complex but gentle soundscapes. Either a faster tempo or rhythmic complexity works surprisingly well for a Short Wave peak. The descent whether used to lighten the intensity or momentarily increase it flows into five minutes of silence at the end. I've tried adding music to create a period of decompression at the end of the mix but it doesn't work well. It ends up making the middle of the mix feel short. Complex compositions work best to create a sustained invocation. While a Short Wave never reaches the climax of a 5R wave, this is a feature not a bug. After all these months of experimentation, I've come to the conclusion that continual invocation is the defining aspect of a compelling Short Wave. When mixed with creativity and care, it can be a remarkably profound 45-minutes.
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September 3, 2025
By Kai Dailey
At month three of our Short Wave experiment, we are settling into our new studio home (and loving it!) as we continue working to discover the essential qualities of a short ecstatic wave.
My experience so far is that it is a blessing to attend a weekly dance that I can easily fit into my schedule. I also love how focused on the work it is. While longer dances with a larger number of attendees adds a social element and requires a greater investment in time, I experience Short Waves as a quick dance work out and personal check in. I've also discovered the music mix takes on a greater importance than with longer dance formats. If you've only got 45 minutes, what is the most important part of the wave? Warm up, peak staccato, lyrical to pull it all together? Something else?
And should the musical space be a blank canvas to bring our inner work or should it offer a message or challenge us to experience the moment differently than when we first arrived? In a two and a half hour wave, there is time to create many experiences and dimensions in real time. But by focusing and condensing practice into less than an hour, the creative choices narrow and become deliberate. Options that may have otherwise been improvised and explored in a longer dance are cut off. Yet this limitation is what I find refreshing in its simplicity. I dance. I reflect. I continue with my Saturday.
Even though the format is simple, I've found that creating a mix is not. How is a successful Short Wave measured? Feedback from dancers opens a dialog that makes clear that dance is different for everyone and yet a "sucessful" dance also has an resonate quality for most people in attendance.
I've been experimenting with basic qualities of a Short Wave mix that facilitates ecstatic floor time but have yet to define these in depth:
invitation to movement (danceable quality?)
message (direct or indirect?)
surprises - challenge
facilitates self-reflection or self-connection
wave (journey - emotional - mood)
flow of mix
immersion
Do all of these qualities need to be present in every mix? Or is it good enough within the context of regular weekly practice that some or most of these are present, while others make an appearance at regular intervals week to week?
For example, I would expect that some quality of "danceability" be present in a mix, though moving ones body to sound is what I mean by dance. As esctatic dancers, we are sometimes moved to linger in a long sigh or stretch or gentle sway or to lay upon the floor. So perhaps it is the invitation to movement rather than dancibility that all mixes must possess, as one can be called to move through spoken word as well as through music.
I've no interest in cultivating a formula just a better understanding of my own experience and the qualities that make a Short Wave beneficial for others. Each week brings new ideas and depth to these questions.
Share your ideas or feedback at kai@thesacredcrane.org.