Hi. I'm Ley (she/they). It's pronounced "Lee."
When I'm feeling fancy, I go by Ley David Elliette Cray, PhD, CSC, ABS, RYT. I'm an autistic, asexual, aromantic, non-binary transgender woman living in Las Cruces, New Mexico.
I'm other things, too.
For example, I'm a sexologist, author, educator, bodyworker, coach, and consultant specializing in gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity.
Additionally, I'm a researcher working in philosophical aesthetics and comics studies. Currently, I'm serving as the Vice President of the American Society for Aesthetics, Rocky Mountain Division.
My full CV is available here.
Note! If you ever read anything by Wesley D. Cray: that's me, too! 'Wesley' is still my name, but unless you're either citing me or dating me, please don't use it.
Ph.D., Philosophy (with over a decade of teaching and research experience)
Certified Sexologist (certified through the American Board of Sexology)
Sexuality Counselor (certified through the Sexual Health Alliance)
Mindfulness Instructor (certified through the Center for Koru Mindfulness)
Philosophical Consultant (certified through the Logic-Based Therapy & Consultation Institute and National Philosophical Counseling Association)
Therapeutic Game Master (certified through Geek Therapeutics)
Trauma-Informed & Accessible/Adaptive Yoga Instructor (RYT-200, registered through the Yoga Alliance)
If you're an organization or solo professional looking for education or aid as you work toward building and sustaining affirming and inclusive work practices, please feel free to reach out.
Over the last several years, I have developed and delivered dozens of (synchronous and asychronous) group trainings and educational experiences for a variety of organizations; and provided accessible and enriching consultation on LGBTQIA+ concepts, communities, and care to hundreds of professionals in a variety of fields. (both clinical and non-clinical).
Some examples of group trainings and educational experiences I currently offer include:
Cultivating and Maintaining an Affective, Curious, Effective Allyship Practice
Debunking the Social Contagion Conjecture: Gender Dysphoria, Epistemic Injustice, and the Life-Saving Importance of Affirming Care
Gender and Transition in the Workplace
How to Talk to Your Kids About Consent
Navigating LGBTQIA+ Affirming Care and Personal Ethics
Pride: Past, Present, and Future
Pronoun Proficiency and Why It Matters
All rates are negotiable, and I can likely work within your budget—especially if you are a small organization or mutual aid group.
To set up a time to discuss ways we can work together, please reach out here.
Are you struggling with questions of identity? Of meaning and relation, of purpose and place? Do you want to cultivate a more radical and aligned sense of self and of community?
Through queer-affirming, sex-positive, trauma-informed coaching and consulting sessions, we can explore:
Gender Identity & Expression
Sexuality & Sexual Identity (including kink & BDSM)
Relationship Dynamics (including non-monogamy)
General existential malaise stemming from late-stage capitalism and dominant cultures of shame.
As a coach, I neither diagnose nor pathologize. Instead, you can expect our sessions to integrate mindfulness, contemplative embodiment, and philosophical exploration in an individualized combination that best suits your particular needs.
When you're reading to start our work together—or just want to chat to see if we're a good fit—you can schedule a free initial consultation through my Calendly.
All sessions are held on Zoom.
Session pricing is available in three tiers:
Community (C): for clients who would benefit from a little financial assistance.
Regular (R): default price.
Benefactor (B): for clients who would like to chip in and aid in others receiving affordable care.
Per Session — $50 (C) | $70 (R) | $90 (B)
4 Sessions — $175 (C) | $245 (R) | $315 (B)
8 Sessions — $325 (C) | $455 (R) | $585 (B)
Public yoga classes can often be very conventionally gendered spaces, rendering them less accessible or even inaccessible to those of us who struggle with gender dysphoria.
Similarly, mindfulness practices—including that which is often incorporated into public yoga classes—are often facilitated in manners that center neurotypicality and leave many persons of other neurotypes (autism, ADHD, etc.) feeling excluded or left behind.
As a mindfulness and yoga instructor, I have specialized for years in practices centered on transgender communities. And as an autistic person with ADHD, I ahve spent much time adapting mindfulness practices for purposes of neuroinclusivity.
I'm happy to offer these practices and this expertise to my neurodivergent and gender-expansive community, either in person at Downtown Desert Yoga or virtually, no matter where you are.
To get started, just book an initial consultation and we can go from there. Alternatively, you can DM me over on my instagram dedicated to this work.
I also offer personal Reiki sessions by appointment at Downtown Desert Yoga. Pricing is negotiatiable, with a suggestion of $60-75 for an hour session and $35-50 for a half-hour session.
To book, please DM me here.
For more yoga and mindfulness practices, see "Classes & Events" below.
Classes & Events
Virtual Meditation Practice
Every 1st & 3rd Wednesday, 6:00 - 7:00 PM Mountain
Mindfulness for Kinksters
Virtual Meditation Practice
Every 2nd & 4th Wednesday, 6:00 - 7:00 PM Mountain
•Other Scheduled Events•
Mindful Kink and Kinky Mindfulness
Virtual Class w/Pragmatically Kinking
June 14th, 6:00 - 8:00 PM Mountain
Intro to Lifestyle BDSM: Solo-Play & Self-Consent
Open Class at Dungeon Hell Paso
June 17th, 4:00 - 7:00 PM Mountain
Register through DHP website
Negotiation Basics and Beyond: Power, Consent, and Meta-Negotiation
June 23rd, 6:30 - 8:00 PM Mountain
Buddhism and BDSM
Virtual Class w/Pragmatically Kinking
August 24th, Time TBA
Sex Coaching: How and Why to Get Started
Virtual Class w/Pragmatically Kinking
November 25th, Time TBA
More events available to members of the Transentience Patreon community.
Research & Scholarship
Philosophy of Comics: An Introduction (with Sam Cowling). 2022. Bloomsbury Press
LGBGTQIA+ Adapted Telehealth Intensive Outpatient Program for Youth and Young Adults: Subgroup Analysis of Acuity and Improvement Following Treatment (with Kate Gliske, Katie Berry, Claire Schmidt, Michael Killian, and Caroline Fenkel). 2023. JMIR Formative Research. doi: 10.2196/45796
Batman: A Case Study in Ontology and Appreciation. 2022. Bloomsbury Contemporary Aesthetics
Some Considerations Regarding Adornment, the Gender "Binary," and Gender Expression. 2021. Journal of Aesthetics and Art Criticism 79(4): 488-492
Aesthetics from the Closet. 2021. American Society for Aesthetics Newsletter 41(1): 1-3
Some Ideas About the Metaphysics of Stories. 2019. British Journal of Aesthetics 59(2): 147-160
Transparent and Opaque Performance Personas. 2019. Journal of Aesthetics of Art Criticism 77(2): 181-191
Psychologism about Artistic Plans: A Response to Rohrbaugh. 2018. Journal of Aesthetics and Art Criticism 76(1): 101-104
How to Be Omnipresent (with Sam Cowling). 2017. American Philosophical Quarterly 54(3): 223-234
Abstract Generationation: A Response to Friedell. 2017. Journal of Aesthetics and Art Criticism 75(3): 289-292
A Return to Musical Idealism (with Carl Matheson). 2017. Australasian Journal of Philosophy 95(3): 702-715
Unperformable Works and the Ontology of Music. 2016. British Journal of Aesthetics 56(1): 67-81
An Ontology of Ideas (with Timothy Schroeder). 2015. Journal of the American Philosophical Association 1(4): 757-775
Yellowism and Ontology: A Skeptical Analysis. 2015. Contemporary Aesthetics 13
Conceptual Art, Ideas, and Ontology. 2014. Journal of Aesthetics and Art Criticism 72(3): 235-245
Team-Teaching the Atheism-Theism Debate (with Steven Brown). 2014. Teaching Philosophy 37(4): 465-480
Inconstancy and Content. 2014. Dialectica 68(3): 337-353
Omniscience and Worthiness of Worship. 2011. International Journal for Philosophy of Religion 70(2): 147-153
•Scholarly Book Chapters•
The Karmic Tragedy of Bruce Wayne: Batman as Anti-Buddha. 2022. In Theology and Batman, Brake and Robertson, eds., Lexington Press
Sabbath Doesn't Need the Ozzman. 2012. In Black Sabbath and Philosophy: Mastering Reality, Irwin, ed., Wiley-Blackwell. pp. 126-139
•Scholarly Book Reviews•
Review of Uncommon Sense: Jeremy Bentham, Queer Aesthetics, and the Politics of Taste. 2023. British Journal of Aesthetics. https://doi.org/10.1093/aesthj/ayac051
Review of Sonic Flux: Sound, Art, and Metaphysics. 2020. Journal of Aesthetics and Art Criticism 78(1): 126-129
Review of The Aesthetics of Videogames. 2018. Notre Dame Philosophical Reviews
Review of The Aesthetics and Ethics of Copying. 2017. Notre Dame Philosophical Reviews
"Rights, Not Rescue: Acknowleding and Honoring International Sex Workers' Day." 2023. Nymphomedia
"How Can Allies Show Up for International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia, and Transphobia?" 2023. Nymphomedia
"Is Capitalism a Threat to Sexual Health?" 2023. Nymphomedia
"'Where Were You When We Lost the Culture War?' — Trauma and Fascism in Alison Rumfitt's Tell Me I'm Worthless." 2023. Anomalous Press.
"Trans Day of Visibility and Advocacy — Today and Every Day." 2023. Nymphomedia
"Why Sex-Positivity Requires Aromantic Inclusion." 2023. Nymphomedia
"Nine Scholars Discuss the Philosophy of Comics" (contributing author). 2023. Aesthetics for Birds
"We've Never Felt Whole" — Non-Binary Binaries in Season 2 of Chucky. 2022. Anomalous Press
"Enough is a Myth" — Kink, Consent, and Trans Representation in Hellraiser. 2022. Anomalous Press
An Open Letter to New Parents of Transgender Children. 2022. Clarity Child Guidance Center Blog
"Don't Let Anyone Make You Disappear"— Heartstopper and the (Re)Discovery of Queer Youth. 2022. Anomalous Press
Minimizing Misgendering: A Plea for Better Pronoun Practices. 2021. Aesthetics for Birds
Why Genderfucking is Awesome. 2021. Aesthetics for Birds
Bald and Genderless. 2021. Just Femme & Dandy 1
Interviews & Press
•Videos & Podcasts•
A Fleeting Exhibition.. 2023. Cum with KC
Transentience Rising.. 2023. The Flaming Yoni
Sexplorations with Sexologists. 2022. Sacred Sexual Science
Gender Euphoria, Queer Magic. 2022. Wild & Sublime
Personas, Bowie, and Taylor's Versions. 2022. Philosophers Discussing Art
Autosadomasochism and Self-Consent. 2022. Consent Dojo with Midori
Raising LGBTQIA+ Kids & Fostering Resilience. 2022. Be a Part of the Conversation
The Search for Identity (and Freedom from Expectations). 2022. Be a Part of the Conversation
The Metaphysics of Bands (Part 1 & Part 2). 2021. Philosophers Discussing Art
The Metaphysics of Fictional Characters (Part 1 & Part 2). 2021. Philosophers Discussing Art
Why LGBT+ Kids Need Out LGBT+ Teachers and Mentors. 2022. Healthline
Interview: Meet Ley David Elliette Cray, PhD. 2022. Canvas Rebel
Yoga & Gender-Affirming Care for Trans Youth. 2022. Yoga Digest
Gender Creative Parenting: What is it and is it Right for You? 2022. Care.com
Reflecting on Pride Month, Industry Leaders See Progress—and Persistent Challenges—for Better LGBTQIA+ Healthcare. 2022. Fierce Healthcare
What Does It Mean to Be Panromantic? Sexuality Experts Explain. 2022. Mindbodygreen
6 Science-Backed Reasons Why Trans Youth Need Gender-Affirming Care. 2022. Verywell Health
A Guide to Neopronouns, From Experts & People Who Use Them. 2022. Mindbodygreen
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