Sexual
The "Sexual" Perspective is about those who incorporate kink into their sexual activities, often with the goal of more orgasms or more intense orgasms. Respondents with high scores in this perspective often report that their sex life is enhanced by the use of kink roles, tools, or scenarios. They often purchase kink items that can be directly used in sexual ways as well, such as spanking benches that also allow for penetration, vibrators and dildos, or restraints. Kinksters with high scores in the Sexual perspective also commonly report a series of physical sensations that are unusual for them to experience outside of kink, especially focusing on arousal, orgasms, or heightened awareness of touch. Although many kinksters do relate their sex acts to kink, for others, kink is wholly separate from sex, or kink acts may lead to sexual acts, but they keep them in separate headspaces. This perspective is about those who deliberately enjoy blending kink spaces and sexual spaces, often for the enhancement of both experiences.
SEXUAL FAQs
Q: My partner and I like to kink, but when we finish our scene and end up in the bedroom, we tend to have more 'vanilla' actual sex?
So a question that comes up a lot is "When does sex start?" and for some kinksters, it starts the second a scene begins, or even before then, when they begin planning a scene. For others, kink scenes are not, in and of themselves, a sexual act, but they awaken a sexual desire in the person. We
Q: We just started, and we started with rope or impact. What's next for us, and keep it sexy!
Oh boy, are you in the right place! Though we often talk about rope and impact as the "gateways" to kink, there is a big broad world out there, and much of it leads right into fulfilling sex and sexual play. Check out the LINKS page to see the Sexuality Map and the Periodic Table of Kink!
Q: I get a lot of pleasure from kink, but I'm not sure if it sexual pleasure?
Pleasure is an entire spectrum, feels incredibly different for different people, and sexual pleasure is a very large subset. There's no one right answer here... for some, getting cropped is a sexual feeling. For others, it is pleasurable, but not sexual. For others, it is painful and unpleasant. For others, it is pleasant, but not painful nor sexual. The key to this perspective is that kink can be used to deliberately enhance sexual play.
Q: Kink can be non-sexual!
Absolutely! And if your kink is primarily non-sexual, you probably don't have a high score in this perspective!
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Play Tips for Sexual Perspective
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Link to Sexual Story
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Non-fiction writing about Sexual in Kink
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Songs for Sexual