Partner Pleasing
For some kinksters, the best part of kink is pleasing their partner. For tops, this often means setting up scenes, toys, or situations that get their partner deeply engrossed in subspace or having fantastic sensations and orgasms. For bottoms, it is often about letting their partner experience a fetish or kink with a willing partner, engaging in play that they know pleases their partner, or offering sensations or pleasure to their partner through their own bodies or activities. People with high scores in the "partner pleasing" perspective tend to define their kink activities less by the toys, activities, or props used in a scene, and more by how the other people in the scene reacted or felt. High scores in this perspective tend to enjoy scenes that focus on the connection between two individuals. Some examples are Pet/Handler scenes, sexual/worship kink scenes, and trying out new toys or fetish activities that have been prompted by a partner.
PARTNER PLEASING FAQs
Q: Can a Top or Dom be high in "Partner Pleasing"?
Absolutely! Many tops and doms score high in this category, and they often refer to the thrill of making their partner experience intense sensations or go to headspaces that are unique to their kink pleasure.
Q: My partner and I seem to both want to please each other, what do we do?
Try some "double blind" scenarios (no blindfolds involved, unless you want that)! To do this, each of you should get a form {we have an example on our Supplements page} and fill it out, at the same time. Then, switch them and compare, but talk together to negotiate a new scene that incorporates aspects of what both of you put down.
Q: How is "Partner Pleasing" not just something everyone should do?
There are a wide variety of dynamics in kink, but one important spectrum is giving-recieving. People who are into partner pleasing have an aspect of their kink identity that involves giving to others the experience that other person desires.
Did you have a high score in "Partner Pleasing"? Click the "Contribute Your Thoughts" above (or click here) to add your thoughts, resources, experience, writings, or artwork to help other users understand the Partner Pleasing perspective! We regularly review these forms and integrate them into our other resources. Please let us know your scene name so we can credit your work.
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Play Tips for Partner Pleasing Perspective
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Link to Partner Pleasing Story
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Non-fiction writing about Partner Pleasing in Kink
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Songs for Partner Pleasing