People have relationships with drugs. Some are relaxing to be around, others make you the life of the party. At times, they get possessive and controlling.
Sometimes making changes in using can be like giving up a lover; perhaps it's best to walk away completely, only have occasional hookups, or keep a continual platonic connection going.
Let's find a way to relate to substances that is workable for you, whether that involves managed use, targeted abstinence from one compound, or full abstinence from all.