to separate words in a list, for example:
- a bouquet of yellow, red and pink tulips (BE);
to separate phrases or clauses, for example:
- He came in, took off his coat, went to the bathroom and washed his hands.
before and after a clause (non-defining relative clause) or phrase that gives additional, but not essential, information about the noun it follows:
- My godmother, who is dead now, spent most of her life in America.
!!!NOTE!!! DO NOT use a comma in a defining relative clause! This clause gives important information which tells us exactly what is being referred to:
*The book you've lent me is really weighty.
to separate main clauses, especially long ones, linked by a conjunction such as and, as, but, for, or;
to separate an introductory word or phrase, or an adverb or adverbial phrase that applies to the whole sentence, from the rest of the sentence:
- Oh, it's you.
- By the way, have you seen my wallet?
- I must say, however, that I have never thought of that myself.
to separate a tag question from the rest of the sentence:
- You're new here, aren’t you?
before or after 'she said', etc. when writing down conversation:
- 'Come in,' said the doctor.
The Oxford (or serial) comma is the final comma in a list of things. In British English the comma before and is often omitted, while according to APA style, it should also be used before and and or in a series of three or more items:
a bouquet of yellow, red, and pink tulips (APA)
The Oxford comma: grammarly.com
Rules on how to use the comma in APA style see: APA style
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