Grief

Grief is a natural reaction to loss that can influence the emotional, physical, social, cognitive, behavioral, and spiritual aspects of a person's life. People experience grief in response to a variety of loss-related events such as the death, separation or divorce, the loss of a sense of safety or predictability, physical disability, or the loss of one's home or community due to a natural disaster.

People cope with grief and loss in many different ways. Some people prefer to talk about it with people they trust, whereas others might prefer to be alone. The intensity and duration of the the grieving process is also different for each person. It is not uncommon for the experience to last weeks or even months for some.

Eventually as time passes, most people learn to cope with their grief and are able to go about their daily lives. Some people with complex grief, however, may require professional support to assist them with the grieving process.

"The Invisible String" is a children's book by Patrice Karst about being apart from the people we love.

Symptoms of Grief

Emotional

  • Sadness

  • Anger

  • Guilt and remorse

  • Anxiety

  • Loneliness

  • Helplessness

  • Shock or disbelief

  • A sense of yearning

  • Relief

Cognitive

  • Trouble concentrating

  • Preoccupation with the loss

  • Confusion

  • Vivid dreams or nightmares

  • Loss of interest in enjoyable activities

Physical / Behavioral

  • Muscle tightness

  • Tired/less energy

  • Sleep problems

  • Social withdrawal

  • Changes in appetite

  • Crying/tearful

  • Restlessness

  • Avoiding people or places that are reminders of loss

  • Treasuring objects related to loss

Seeking Help & Treatment

If you are having difficulty coping with grief and loss, a mental health professional may be able to help. Psychologists and mental health professionals are trained to provide targeted psychological treatments and strategies to assist with grief, including cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), strengthening relationships, focusing on personal goals, and finding meaning and significance in the loss.

Please contact your primary care physician, psychologist, or mental health professional if you think you need support with managing your grief.

Tips for Helping Yourself

  • Remember to ask for help if you need it. Don't be afraid to speak up and tell someone that you are struggling with to cope with your loss.

  • Be honest with family and friends about how you are feeling and be open to accepting their help.

  • Allow yourself time to grieve your loss.

  • Talk to others who share a similar experience.

  • Take care of your physical health.

  • Participate in enjoyable activities, hobbies, or interests regularly.

  • Maintain normal sleep patterns.

  • Practice relaxation or mindfulness activities to help calm the mind and body.

  • Reflect on your religious or spiritual beliefs.

  • Be patient, kind, and calm with yourself and with others.

Videos for kids

Explaining Grief to Children

Read Aloud - "The Invisible String" by Patrice Karst

Updated May 18, 2020