While it is wonderful for your child's sponsor to be present at the celebration of Confirmation, the sponsor does not have to be present (at the Sacrament of Confirmation on the day it takes place) ~ if a sponsor cannot be there in person, you will find a "proxy" stand in. Your child's sponsor is still "their sponsor" but another adult called a "proxy" stands with your child when they are confirmed. Many parents have asked friends, teachers and other parents of children in our class to be a proxy.
Your child can have 1 or 2 sponsors. However, if your child is having 2 sponsors, one must be female and one must be male. Sponsors bring rich background and faith life experiences to your child's life - if your child is going to have two, your child should benefit from multiple gender perspectives. If having 2 sponsors, they DO NOT need to be a married couple. A child's parent may NOT sponsor her/his own child.
A sponsor must be at the end of their 16 year, Baptized, Confirmed and has received their First Holy Eucharist in the Catholic faith.
A sponsor must be an active Catholic: “An active Catholic is one who attends Sunday and Holy Day Masses regularly and participated in the Sacramental life of the Church,” and living in the state of grace and not be bound by any canonical penalty (excommunication)
A sponsor should be a godparent(s) from baptism (can. 893 §2), especially if they are still an important part of their life and practicing Catholic. If not, please find a family member or a member of the community that will support your child in their Catholic faith journey.