You may have a number of questions and what is below may answer some of them. I am very happy to discuss anything further with you either via telephone, email or at an initial video session. This can be an opportunity to put a voice or face to a name and to explore what you are looking for and whether I am the person to help you.
Counselling and psychotherapy are both talking therapies and both take place in a helping relationship.
The process of counselling/psychotherapy is a collaborative one and can facilitate you in resolving difficulties in your life and if you wish can help you to make more fundamental changes in yourself.
In all cases change can only happen if you want it, engage willingly in the process and agree to the outcomes you want.
You are given a space in which it is safe to reflect and talk, to explore your thoughts, feelings and actions without being judged. My role is to understand you, your life and your perspective and to help you to identify ways in which you might resolve an issue or difficulties or to identify patterns which you may wish to change. It is not a place for you to be given advice or told what to do.
What is my background/experience in counselling?
I started training in counselling and psychotherapy in 1998 graduating as a counsellor in 2000 while continuing training in psychotherapy. The difference? Well the answer could entail a long discussion, but in brief, (and in my opinion - there is not universal agreement in our profession about this):
Counselling supports you to have a better life using your existing self. Psychotherapy facilitates you in understanding how your existing self and way of being helps and even hinders you and how you might change with a view to a better life. Both take place in the context of a helping relationship with someone appropriately trained.
There are many different types of counselling help available. Some are more analytical, others focus on helping to achieve changes in thinking and behaviour quickly. The differences are too numerous to explain satisfactorily here and there are some useful links to sites that do offer descriptions of the major counselling models.
I am trained in an integrative way of working that is humanistic in philosophy - see core beliefs below. I believe all techniques and theories are limited and should not be allowed to get in the way of an individual's experiencing of life.
My further training in Transactional Analysis TA offers the potential to use this as a powerful way of understanding how we function and interact, and supports making significant changes in this.
I believe these following principles are helpful and important in the context of assisting people in change:
People are worthy of respect, understanding and acceptance because they are human
People are responsible for the decisions they make and how they think and feel and can change their decisions if they wish
People are responsible for making their own meaning and for the beliefs about themselves and others
People are experts on themselves
People have a tendency to realise their full potential once they have the right conditions or recognise and change the ways in which they stop themselves.
My professional development as a Counsellor/Psychotherapist has included substantial personal therapy - I consider this important in training and developing therapists for a number of reasons including: it gives an appreciation of what it is like to be a client, and an assurance that having worked on their own lives and selves the therapist can understand better the difference between their own material and that of their clients.
I work with a wide range of differing issues and these include:
Relationship difficulties; anxiety; panic attacks; self esteem; stress; trauma and abuse including PTSD [both past and more recent]; sexuality, gender identity and gender expression; feelings of emptiness; body image. Sometimes I will work with people who require a more coaching style of help to assist with determining future plans for life or work, or to develop new skills in dealing with people or problems.
I am not specialised in working with eating disorders, and children but can assist with referral to colleagues who are.
I accept referrals from GP's, Psychologists, Psychiatrists and invidividuals themselves.
I work across cultural backgrounds and boundaries in the English language.
I have worked developmentally with people for over twenty five years, initially in organisational settings both individually and in groups and since 1999 in the therapeutic and clinical context. My background until the early 90's was working in large organisations in senior managerial roles, and over time my interest in how people functioned both within an organisational context and in their lives outside of the workplace, grew. I decided to take this interest further and graduated from a two year Diploma in Humanistic Integrative Counselling course in 2000 at Wealden College in Crowborough. I also completed clinical training in Transactional Analysis psychotherapy. My additional professional training includes forensic counselling, trauma, online working and supervision.
I have worked in a variety of settings including prisons and for social services, for the Terrance Higgins Trust and Brighton Switchboard and since 2000 in private practice. In addition to my private practice I have been a Director of an independent accredited college training professional counsellors and psychotherapists, and am an external moderator for independent training course.
I am an individual registered member of the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy.
I am more than happy to discuss my training and way of working further at an initial meeting.
Physically I am located in Eastbourne, East Sussex in the UK. In practice I work online with clients who may be located anywhere in the UK and overseas.
My normal fee scale is £60 - £80 per session with places available at reduced rate depending on availability and circumstances. Sessions are 50-60 minutes in duration.
If we decide to work together I usually suggest working initially for 6 sessions and reviewing. This process of review is helpful to allow us to check and confirm how we are working together. At the stage we plan to work together I will provide you with written details of the boundaries around our work, fees agreed, payment details, and if appropriate, some guidelines for managing the online connection in a way that supports confidentiality and safety for you.