Habit 4: Think Win Win

Think Win-Win explains that it is important to look for mutual benefits in every interaction, rather than just focusing in on the victory of one and the defeat of the other. Covey explains that “Think Win-Win” is a philosophy of life that prioritizes cooperation over competition, so that all sides can feel mutually benefited and valued. In this chapter, Covey emphasizes that think win-win is the only highly effective approach in a mutually dependent relationship, because if only one side wins, eventually distrust, jealousy, and even hatred will arise.

The main quote reflecting the essence of this habit is: “Win-Win is a frame of mind and heart that constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions. It’s not your way or my way, it’s a better way, a higher way.” – Dr. Stephen R. Covey

The values implied in this habit include integrity (upholding one’s own values), maturity (balancing courage and concern), and an abundance mentality (the belief that there is enough wealth and opportunity for everyone). This habit also requires the courage to fight for one’s own interests without sacrificing the interests of others, as well as empathy to understand the needs of others.

For an ELT student, “Think Win-Win” is very important. Because practicing this habit will build trusting relationships with students, create a collaborative classroom environment, and enable fair conflict resolution. 

As future teachers, we can also become role models in fostering healthy communication and respecting differences, so that students learn to collaborate rather than undermine one another. Therefore, this habit significantly contributes to creating a positive and effective learning environment.