Queer Munch began in 2023 when our organizers identified a gap in the Connecticut kink scene: there were no munches in Central Connecticut specifically geared toward the LGBTQ+ community.  Our desire to make a space where queer folks interested in kink can be on the same page together inspired us to found Queer Munch CT. The first event got such a good response that we decided to host them every month.

Fast forward over a year and there are two monthly queer munches in different locations, with a third one in the works! There are four co-organizers; one for Queer Munch East, one for Queer Munch Central, and two for special events and marketing.

Join us at the next Queer Munch! It's fun, low-pressure, and queer centered. That being said, straight and cisgender allies are welcome.

Our Organizers

Our Hosts:

Babette, Lady_Jotun,  Dhafir, Sayge, and Jesse

Interested in becoming an organizer or host? Apply here!

Frequently Asked Questions

Q. What is a munch?

A. A munch is a social gathering in a public space for folks in the kink community to meet each other, discuss kink topics, learn, and socialize in a low-pressure vanilla setting. You can find a detailed outline of what to expect at Queer Munch here. 

Q. What makes a munch queer?

A. Queer Munch centers queer folks. That means that our events are aimed at an LGBTQ+ audience and intended to create a comfortable, queer-first atmosphere. Straight and cisgender allies are welcome to attend, but should bear in mind that queer experiences and identities are the central purpose of the munch.

Q. Will people be wearing kink clothes?

A. No - a munch is a vanilla setting where people will wear their regular clothes! There is no kink or sex play at a munch. It is for social interaction, support, and learning.

Q. Are Queer Munches accessible?

A. Each location has different accessibility features. Our Instagram posts always include comprehensive accessibility information in the description.

Q. Do you have a code of conduct?

A. We take respect and inclusion very seriously at our munches. Please click here to view our code of conduct and accountability process.  If you attended a munch and feel that the code of conduct was violated, please make a report to the organizers here.

Q. I'm nervous about going to a munch for the first time. Do you have any tips?

A. Yes! It's okay to be nervous. Here are some tips and strategies in no particular order: 

• Most initial discussion that happens at a munch is not kink or BDSM related, just polite conversation or about mutual interests.

• Pick a seat and stay there. Or do the opposite- move and mingle frequently

• Bring an easy card game or board game to share and spark discussion

• Come prepared with a book on BDSM or a social media post that can generate discussion

• Feel free to ask for resources that pertain to your unique situation. Folks generally like to problem-solve!

Q. How does confidentiality work?

A. i) Your identity. A commonly accepted practice is to use a "scene name" when attending munches and other kink events. These can be common names or silly names. Many folks are only known by their scene names. You would write this on your name tag and introduce yourself to others as this name. 

ii) Photography is prohibited at munches.

iii) Munches held in public spaces take precautions to appear like a typical gathering. Our munches held at public bars do not allow obvious kink wear and caution guests to keep discussions low when other patrons are in ear shot. We also book tables to achieve as secluded a section as possible. 

iv) If you see someone you work with or know outside of the munch, it is common practice to not acknowledge that connection. It is also common practice to not ask what folks do for work.