Everyone grieves differently

All of us grieve in our own way when we lose a loved one. The grieving process is unique to everyone. Everyone has experienced a loss before so you might think that you understand what someone is going through, but it might be completely different! It's important to accept that your grief is unique to you and your journey is unique to you.

With that said, if you are a friend of someone who is experiencing a loss, then the best thing you can do for your friend is be there for them when they need you, and listen. Try not to say you know what they are going through, because the way they grieve may be different than yours. Recognize those differences, and offer your support and love. The best thing you can do is show your friend that you care.

Take as long as you need.

No one has the ability to tell you to stop grieving or that you are not allowed to grieve. It's important to take you time with the grieving process. You never truly get over the loss of a loved one, and that's okay. Don't let anyone tell you to "let it go."

Take care of yourself.

Grief can be brutal at times, so it's important not to forget to take care of yourself. Maintain your routine, and do things that will relax you and bring you bits of joy; things you enjoy. Take a walk, go for a bike ride, do crafts, go out with friends. Eat and maintain hygiene, but take care of yourself.

Educate yourself.

Take the time to read about the grieving process. Look at the resources offered to you that can help you through your loss and the programs that you could attend.

Most importantly... TALK!

The most important thing that you can do is talk! Don't keep anything in. Find a friend, a counselor, an adviser, or a parent and talk to them about what you are feeling and what you are going through. Share memories about your loved one or just talk to someone close to take your mind off of everything going on around you. The most important thing is not to close in on yourself. You are not alone with your grief so share your experiences and feelings with those around you to help you with your loss.

If you are the friend of someone who is grieving, encourage them to talk. Don't force them to talk, but make sure your friend is aware that you are willing to listen if they need you.