People who have been made to believe certain things about themselves by their families and society often reach a point where they stop fighting or crying about it and begin to accept it. They realise that if they don’t, they won’t be able to move forward. This acceptance of what is seen as a “problem” eventually becomes the starting point for seeking solutions and overcoming it. And once a solution is found, it becomes even harder to convince them that there was no problem in the first place.

So how do you convince someone that the entire process was a sham, that there was never a problem to begin with?

I think that’s why much of marketing is essentially displacement, a kind of lie. It creates the illusion of a problem where none really exists. Now, if even a siginficant portion of marketing is done by brands and businesses across the world that are selling solutions to “non-problems,” just imagine the kind of deep, dark pit society has fallen into, and how much cleansing is needed.

17.03.26

humare ye recruiter log check karte hai ki, humari "trajectory" kitni seedhi hai. jab na ye system seedha, na tum, na hum, na aapke collegues aur boss, aur na hi ye zindagi...jab zindagi khud hi kitni tedi hai, chatpati toh kabhi ek dumm "fuss," naram-garam, khati-meethi hai, toh kisi ki bhi CV, kitni hi seedhi kyun na dikhe, vo kaise bhala sach mein seedhi ho sakti hai? #thoughts #forcedtofeelguilty #careergap #nostalgia (i deleted from linkedin, idk why). | 28.02.26

As I look back, I can’t thank enough each and every man in my life who has supported me, rejected me, competed with me, listened to me, respected me, disrespected me, and at times, “jhelofied” me, all while navigating their own struggles.

Interestingly, most of my conflicts, traumas, and confrontations seemed to arise from women.

Despite being educated and vocal about gender conflicts in society, I realized rather late that 'am a "working woman" with a "designation" who was dancing her way through corridors that were still operating within patriarchal compromises.

Perhaps my "chillaxed," "hyper self-aware," and "simply working" (cuz ghar mein zarurat thi) attitude did not fit how most men and women functioned in teams. I was strategizing to earn, to build an identity, almost instinctively. I neither differentiated nor used anyone, and I consciously avoided competition.

What I lacked, however, was the awareness of how influential that stance could be or how threatening it might appear to others.

What felt natural to me was perhaps read as rebellion, as boastfulness, as boldness. I was simply being myself. And, somewhere, now, I feel fortunate to have been nurtured with thoughts and values that shaped those interpretations, even if the adjectives were misplaced.

Maybe that's intimidating. But most leaders would agree, it's okay.

17.02.2026

My reputation over SM and Writing apps over the years has gone from "afghan jalebi" to "dooron dooron main" from my audience. Thanks to my unintentionally induced artistic ways to better understand "what was I made for?" Lesson experienced: Waqt hai, guzar jata hai 🐧.

16.02.26