Modern dating can be exhausting, and relationship patterns often repeat until we understand the 'why' behind them. At JJP Counselling in Medway, I help individuals explore their attachment styles, set healthier boundaries, and move past the anxiety of the dating world. Whether you are struggling with a current partner or finding it hard to start something new, our sessions in Medway provide a safe space to find clarity and connection 

Helping you understand patterns in dating, attachment, self worth and emotional availability so you can build healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Dating can bring up feelings of anxiety, rejection, confusion and self doubt. Through counselling, I offer a supportive space to explore your relationship patterns, attachment style, boundaries, and emotional readiness for connection. Together we can work towards healing past experiences, building confidence, and creating healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

My own experience in the world of dating

My own experience of on-and-off dating for many years, I came to realise that the biggest shift wasnt finding the right app or saying the perfect thing - it was the emotional work I did on myself. My counselling training transformed how I saw relationships, boundaries, and self worth, and ultimately helped me become open to receiving a healthy connection. From early childhood experiences I developed an anxious attachment style but with personal development, personal counselling I have managed to find a partner with a secure attachment which combats my anxious attachment. I am now in a healthy relationship for the first time in many years. 

Understanding your attachment style can offer valuable insight into the way you expeirence datiung and relationships. Our attachment patterns are often shaped by early life expeirenes and can influence how we respond to closeness, trust communicaiton, and emotional needs in adulthood. Whether you find yourself worrying about rejection, seeking reassurance, or pulling away when things become more seious, these responses often have deeper roots. Exploring your attachment style through counselling can help you recognise patterns, increase self-awreness, and begin to build healthier, more secure relationships.

Anxious attachment can often show up in dating and relationships as a deep fear of rejection, abandonment, or not feeling "enough" for the other person. People with this attachement style may find themselves overthinking messages, seeking constant reassurance, or feeling highly sensitive to changes in communication or cloesness, even small shifts, such as a delayed reply or cancelled plans, can trigger intense worry and self doubt. These patterns often develop from early relationship experiences and can continue into adult relationships making dating feel emotionally exhausting. Through counselling, we can gently explore these patterns, build self-awreness and work towards creating a stronger sense of security and trust within yourself and your relationships. 

Avoidant attachment can present in relationships as a strong need for independence and emotional distance, even when there is a genuine desire for connection. People with this attachment style may find intimacy uncomfortable struggle to open up about their feelings, or pyull away when relationship begin to feel more serious. They may value self-reliance and find it diffuclt to gtrust others enough to be vulnerable, sometimes creating distance when closeness is offered. In dating, this can show up as mixed signals, difficulty committing, or ending relationships when emotions begin to deepen. These patterns often stem from earlier expeirences where emotional needs were not consistently met. through counselling we can explore these protective responses with compassion and work towards developing healther ways of connection and feeling safe within relationships.

Dating Confident & Relationship Readiness Counselling

Support for:

• anxious or avoidant attachement

• repeated unhealthy dating patterns

• attracting emotionally unavailble partners

• low self worth in relationships

• dating anxiety

• fear of rejection

• repeated unhealthy patterns 

• post-breakup healing

• confidence after long periods of being single 

• navigating dating apps

How Counselling Can Help with Dating and Relationship Patterns

Dating and relationships can bring up some of our deepest emotions, fears, and hopes. If you find yourself stuck in repeated cycles, struggling with trust, of feeling overwhelmed by anxiety and self-doubt, counselling can provide a safe and supportive space to explore what may be happening beneath the surface.

Together, we can work to understand your attachment style, relationship history, boundaries, emotional triggers and the beliefs you may hold about yourself and others. By increasing self-awareness and exploring these patterns with compassion, counselling can help you move towards healthier ways of connecting and relating.

The aim is to help you feel more secure within yourself, more confident in your choices, and better able to build meaningful fulfilling relationships.

If any of this resonates with you, please feel free to get in touch to discuss how counselling may support you. Please click here for my contact details.