Anger

This can be the most intense of our feelings ..other than, of course, our pain. It can take us unaware…and frighten us. It is natural at times like these, to feel angry. At first grief feels like being lost in an unfamiliar place, in the midst of a dense fog…we have no connection to anyone or anything. Then we become angry at someone, maybe a person who didn’t attend the funeral, maybe a person who isn’t around, maybe a person who is different now that your loved one has died. This anger is born of pain, it is just another indication of the intensity of your love. The truth is that anger can extend not only to your friends, the doctors, your family, yourself and your loved one who died, but also to God. You may ask, “Where ARE you God? How could you allow this to happen? Please remember, underneath this anger is pain. A deep, sometimes unbearable pain. Speak what is in your heart to God. No matter what it is.