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You have a series of complications that requires expert guidance. You have a lot of assets at risk, and any decisions you make now can and will affect you for years. The quoted estimate of fess from this attorney seems reasonable considering the problems you face. Frankly, I would not trust any paralegal, including myself to assist you in this. We just don't have the legal "pull" that an Attorney has. You need strong, reliable and experienced representation. Go with the attorney and listen to her guidance. It will cost you plenty, but it's worth it!