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Received: June 2, 2024

"Do boys lose feelings if you show too much affection? I need to know."

reply:

Obviously, I ain't a boy, but according to some of the boys I asked, it really depends if they like you too and are comfortable with you. Most of the time, according to them, they love receiving affection. However, "poor quality boys" (their words, not mine) would find it annoying. If you're going to take my word, I say go for a man who loves your company and not a boy who disregards you.

Received: May 5, 2024

"ur emotionally intelligent. I hope you'll find someone as emotionally intelligent as you "

reply: 

Being told "you're emotionally intelligent" is such a big compliment, thank you so much. I do have people in my life who are even more emotionally intelligent and I'm glad I have them: my friends and family.

Sent by A**** 

Received: April 25, 2024

"have you ever experienced being gifted things? Where do you most of the time keep them? Cuz me, personally, I never received gifts but when I do I would protect it with all my life"

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I received gifts occasionally and I treasure every single one of them. For gifts that are meant to be used like clothes and other stuff, I use them quite often to show how much I like them. For gifts like flowers, I dry them and use them in creative ways. For gifts like letters, I keep them piled in a box and I read them more often than you can imagine. I even keep tickets and candy wrappers sometimes.

Received: April 24, 2024

"You are very intimidating. I see you laugh from time to time, and smile with your friends but I can't help but be intimidated by you. Maybe it's the way you carry yourself, you just seem to be confident in a good way. I really want to be close with you"

reply: 

I get that comment a lot, most of my friends said I looked mean when I first met them, but honestly, I am not that mean. I am a nerd who's obsessed with a series that ended years ago. I laugh at the most unfunny things, I even laugh during those times I shouldn't even laugh. If ever you did see me being mean, it's either I am 1. joking about being mean or 2. I am in a bad mood and I didn't intend to come off as mean (I am a human after all and from time to time, I cannot avoid feeling that way.)

I am always open to making new friends, so don't be shy to approach me.

Sent by H*****

Received: April 24, 2024

"In February, I felt a spark for him. I'll admit that it was just a happy crush, but through him, I found motivation. I was glad that even though we weren't close, just seeing him in the same room was a gift for me. Honestly, he saved me from the trauma I had been through in January.

Actually, my problem is, why have my feelings suddenly changed? I thought it was just a happy crush, but why? Every time I see him glance at the girl who also used to have a crush on him, I can tell by his eyes. When I see how different I am from that girl, I feel so small. I want to cry, but why? Is this feeling more than just a happy crush?"

reply: 

I feel honored to know you trust me enough with this information and I am so happy that you've found motivation— you found light in darkness. He has become your motivation/inspiration but please don't be discouraged, 'wag bababa tingin mo sa sarili mo because of the other people who like(d) him. I know it's easier said than done but please do not compare yourself to others, you are your own person. If only I can lend you my eyes to let you see for yourself how amazing you are. 

Received: April 23, 2024

"I want to stop liking him, but my feelings won't budge, kasi nga nasa isip ko pa rin na there's a possibility, I don't want to believe anyone saying na there's someone na, believe me, I try to stop thinking abt him, there's this point na I feel like wala na pero meron pa pala.. I hate feeling this way, and I know we're at the same page, kilala mo ko tas nakaabot pa ko dito😵. Just as what I said the possibility of him, outweighs the actuality of anyone else. Sana, there would be someone out there to stop this feeling. Sana ibigay na satin ang karapat-dapat sa atin. "

reply:

 Despite you not mentioning your name, I have a strong feeling I know who you are. I know it's hard to like someone who's "unavailable", (trust me, I've been there quite a lot of times already) especially if you've already developed feelings for them before you learned that they're "unavailable". Your feelings won't fade that easily, that's something I learned after experiencing it quite a lot of times. You can't and you don't need to force yourself to not like someone as much as you can't force yourself to like someone you don't like. Take your time, don't beat yourself up that much with how you feel as well. As long as you're not hurting other people, there's nothing wrong with how you feel. And yes, I do agree, "Sana ibigay na satin ang karapat-dapat sa atin." Maybe someday, love... someday.

Received: April 23, 2024

"I'm struggling to know what I feel. I feel like crying but at the same time, I feel like there's no valid reason for me to cry about."

reply:

 You don't need a "valid reason" to cry. It's okay to cry if you think crying will help release negativity. However, here are some other things I also recommend to clear your mind and possibly help you sort out your thoughts:

1. Take a break and do the things you love and are productive like reading, going for a walk, journaling, etc.

2. Spend time with people that you're comfortable with and bring you joy.

3. If you can't express your thoughts and feelings through words, maybe you can through artistic decisions like painting how you feel, crocheting, crafting, dancing, etc.

In times of confusion, always resort to positive choices.

Received: April 23, 2024

"I just want to say that I love your cosplays! When are your next cosplay going to be posted?"

reply:

 Thank you so much! It's always flattering to know people appreciate my work. I am currently on a cosplay break for I am prioritizing my studies. I have a lot to submit as of now and I can't squeeze in cosplaying to my schedule. The temperature is also not suitable for cosplaying; I don't want to pass out while being dressed like Annabeth Chase, do I? I will try to get back to cosplaying as soon as I can though, I really missed doing that too.