Familial love is a special type of love that comes with unique feelings, behaviors, challenges, and rewards. Once you understand what it truly is, you can learn how to build stronger and healthier family relationships.

A family in modern society isn’t necessarily about blood relations. Instead, it’s a group of people that function as a unit. Often, this includes parents and children. But there are many different types of family to consider. Your family of origin (the family unit in which you are raised) may not necessarily be your biological family. Whether it includes a brother, a sister, cousins, grandparents, an aunt, uncles, nieces, nephews, in-laws, or stepsiblings, no family is the same.

Having a family can result from one's desire to fulfill their love and belonging needs. Family can also mean all the descendants of a common ancestor. Some people consider their friends like family. However, when we speak of family love, your love for your friends may or may not fit, depending on your relationship.

 Having a family can result from one's desire to fulfill their love and belonging needs. Family can also mean all the descendants of a common ancestor. Some people consider their friends like family. However, when we speak of family love, your love for your friends may or may not fit, depending on your relationship.  

What Is Love?

Love is a word that’s used in so many ways, it’s nearly lost its meaning. We may say we love ice cream or skiing when what we mean is that we enjoy it. Love is commonly used to describe romantic or sexual feelings and behaviors in a romantic relationship. Some people believe love comes from God or is necessary for survival.

In the context of family love, the term “love” refers to bonds characterized by deep affection, respect, loyalty, and healthy attachment. Family relationships are different from other types of bonds. 

Some people get tattoos to show their love for their family, others post on their Instagram page, and some show their kids love by spending quality time with them or buying them gifts. Only you can determine how you show love by doing what feels authentic to you.

Building Family Love

Healthy family love is a choice that starts with the parents. It isn’t something that happens without thought and dedication. There are several ways to build healthy family love throughout the lifespan of the family.

Form Healthy Attachments

Parents have a unique opportunity to teach their children how to have a healthy, stable attachment. By being a responsive caregiver, you can start the secure attachment that research has shown leads to higher social functioning later in life. Along with better mental and physical health, a strong attachment gives your child a greater capacity to form healthy attachments with others.