Every day, we interpret experiences through an inner lens---our sense of self. When you receive feedback on an assignment, do you think, "I’m so stupid for making that mistake" or "I can learn from this" ? This automatic way of relating to ourselves is called self-referential processing, and it plays a major role in shaping our thoughts, emotions, and mental well-being. When we engage in self-referential processing, it is usually in one of two ways: narrative self-reference or experiential self-reference.
One explanatory model for people experiencing depression is that they over-engage in narrative self-referencing. This can become a cycle of negativity, reinforcing feelings of hopelessness and self-criticism. Research suggests that mindfulness meditation may help reshape these thought patterns, promoting a healthier, more flexible sense of self.
In the brain, self-referential thinking is associated with the Default Mode Network (DMN): a set of brain regions that become active when we reflect on ourselves.
Key areas include the medial prefrontal cortex (MPFC), which is involved in personal meaning-making, and the posterior cingulate cortex (PCC), which is linked to rumination.
Consistent activity in these regions by engaging in narrative self-referencing can result in:
Rumination—repeating negative thoughts about the past or themselves.
Having difficulty shifting away from negative thought loops.
Over time, what fires together wires together and this pattern strengthens the neural connections that reinforce self-criticism, making it harder to see oneself or the world in a different light.
Mindfulness meditation offers a way to interrupt and rewire these patterns. Through regular practice, mindfulness helps individuals:
Reduce activity in the DMN, especially in regions linked to rumination.
Strengthen decentering skills, allowing thoughts to be observed as temporary experiences rather than absolute truths.
Promote a more adaptive, present-focused mode of self-reference, rather than being stuck in past regrets or future anxieties.
For university students, stress, academic pressures, and social challenges can amplify negative self-referencing. Learning to recognize and reshape these patterns can be a powerful tool for mental well-being.
Practicing mindfulness—even in small ways, like taking mindful breaths before studying—can help break cycles of overthinking and self-doubt. UofT, offer free mindfulness resources, guided meditations, and workshops for students looking to incorporate these practices into their daily lives.
The way we relate to ourselves is not set in stone. Research shows that our brain’s self-referencing patterns can be reshaped to foster healthier brain activity and disengage from negativity.
By integrating mindfulness into our daily lives, we can break free from rigid self-judgments, reduce rumination, and cultivate a healthier mental landscape. One where we are not trapped by our thoughts but able to engage with them in a way that supports growth and well-being.
To explore whether you have a negative self-referencing bias, be sure to check out the self-reference quiz! Although the self-referential bias quiz is based on a valid measure of self-referencing, it is not a diagnostic tool.
Potential resources:
Good2Talk – Free, 24/7 support for students in Ontario: good2talk.ca | 1-866-925-5454
Mindfulness & Meditation – Guided Zoom sessions from the Health & Counselling Centre through CLNx
CLNx – UTM's platform for workshops, career services, and wellness events: clnx.utoronto.ca
U of T Telus Health Student Support – 24/7 multilingual mental health counselling: 1-844-451-9700