Build Instant Trust With 101 Deep Questions to Ask

Small talk is fine… but it rarely makes someone fall in love with your mind. If you want to stand out, you need conversations that feel different—ones that make him think, “Wow, I can really be myself around her.”

That’s where deep, trust-building questions come in.

I’ve put together 101 powerful questions you can use to create instant emotional intimacy—whether you’re on a first date, texting late at night, or having a deep heart-to-heart.

Section 1 – Fun & Light Starters (1–15)

1. What’s your favorite way to spend a Sunday morning?
   
   

2. If you could eat only one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?
   
   

3. What’s your guilty pleasure TV show or movie?
   
   

4. Have you ever had a celebrity crush? Who was it?
   
   

5. What’s the weirdest food you’ve ever tried?
   
   

6. If you could live anywhere in the world for a year, where would it be?
   
   

7. What’s your favorite holiday tradition?
   
   

8. Dogs, cats… or something else?
   
   

9. If money wasn’t an issue, what’s the first thing you’d buy?
   
   

10. Do you believe in horoscopes?
    
    

11. What’s the best concert you’ve ever been to?
    
    

12. What’s your go-to comfort meal?
    
    

13. Which app on your phone do you use the most?
    
    

14. What’s one thing you can’t go a day without?
    
    

15. What’s your favorite childhood cartoon?
    
    

Section 2 – Childhood & Past Memories (16–30)

16. What’s your happiest childhood memory?
    
    

17. Did you have a favorite toy growing up?
    
    

18. Who was your childhood best friend?
    
    

19. What’s one lesson you learned early in life that stuck with you?
    
    

20. Did you ever get into trouble at school?
    
    

21. What’s a funny story your family still talks about?
    
    

22. What was your dream job as a kid?
    
    

23. Did you have a favorite teacher?
    
    

24. What’s the first trip you remember taking?
    
    

25. Were you closer to your mom or dad growing up?
    
    

26. Did you have a childhood nickname?
    
    

27. What was your favorite subject in school?
    
    

28. Did you believe in Santa Claus?
    
    

29. What’s one thing from your childhood you wish you could relive?
    
    

30. Did you have a family tradition you still love?
    
    

Section 3 – Dreams & Aspirations (31–45)

31. What’s your biggest goal right now?
    
    

32. Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
    
    

33. If you could master any skill instantly, what would it be?
    
    

34. What’s your dream travel destination?
    
    

35. What’s the biggest risk you’ve ever taken?
    
    

36. If you could write a book, what would it be about?
    
    

37. What’s your dream home like?
    
    

38. Do you want to learn a new language? Which one?
    
    

39. What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to try but haven’t?
    
    

40. Who inspires you the most in life?
    
    

41. If you could start any business, what would it be?
    
    

42. What’s your “bucket list” item?
    
    

43. What’s the most exciting thing you want to do this year?
    
    

44. Do you believe in fate or creating your own destiny?
    
    

45. What’s one passion you wish you had more time for?
    
    

Section 4 – Love & Relationships (46–60)

46. What’s your love language?
    
    

47. What’s your idea of a perfect date?
    
    

48. Do you believe in love at first sight?
    
    

49. Have you ever had your heart broken?
    
    

50. What’s the most romantic thing someone has done for you?
    
    

51. What’s one quality you always notice in a partner?
    
    

52. Do you prefer texting or calling in a relationship?
    
    

53. Have you ever been in love?
    
    

54. What’s your biggest relationship dealbreaker?
    
    

55. Do you think opposites attract?
    
    

56. What’s your biggest turn-on in someone’s personality?
    
    

57. Do you like public displays of affection?
    
    

58. What’s the sweetest compliment you’ve ever received?
    
    

59. Would you rather receive flowers or a handwritten letter?
    
    

60. Do you believe soulmates are real?
    
    

Section 5 – Life & Personal Values (61–75)

61. What’s your definition of success?
    
    

62. What’s your biggest fear in life?
    
    

63. What’s the most important value you live by?
    
    

64. If you could change one thing about the world, what would it be?
    
    

65. Do you believe people can truly change?
    
    

66. What’s your proudest accomplishment?
    
    

67. What’s your biggest pet peeve?
    
    

68. Do you believe in second chances?
    
    

69. How do you usually spend your weekends?
    
    

70. What motivates you the most?
    
    

71. Do you consider yourself an introvert or extrovert?
    
    

72. What’s one thing you wish more people understood about you?
    
    

73. How do you usually handle stress?
    
    

74. Do you prefer planning ahead or being spontaneous?
    
    

75. What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?
    
    

Section 6 – Emotional Depth & Vulnerability (76–90)

76. What’s the hardest decision you’ve ever made?
    
    

77. What’s one thing you wish you could tell your younger self?
    
    

78. When was the last time you cried?
    
    

79. What’s something you’ve never told anyone?
    
    

80. What’s your biggest insecurity?
    
    

81. How do you usually show someone you care?
    
    

82. What’s one thing you struggle to forgive?
    
    

83. What’s your happiest moment in the last year?
    
    

84. What’s one thing you want people to remember about you?
    
    

85. Do you find it easy or hard to trust people?
    
    

86. What’s one mistake that taught you a lot?
    
    

87. What’s your biggest regret?
    
    

88. What’s a fear you’ve overcome?
    
    

89. Who do you trust the most in your life?
    
    

90. What’s one dream you’re afraid to chase?
    
    

Section 7 – Random but Revealing (91–101)

91. If you won the lottery tomorrow, what’s the first thing you’d do?
    
    

92. If you could swap lives with someone for a day, who would it be?
    
    

93. What’s your go-to karaoke song?
    
    

94. Would you rather be famous or completely unknown?
    
    

95. What’s the weirdest dream you’ve ever had?
    
    

96. If you had a time machine, would you visit the past or future?
    
    

97. What’s your comfort movie?
    
    

98. If you could speak to your future self, what would you ask?
    
    

99. What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?
    
    

100. What’s your biggest “what if” in life?

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