Falling in love feels exciting—but before you commit your heart, it’s important to make sure you truly know the man you’re with. Attraction and chemistry are amazing, but long-term happiness depends on understanding his values, goals, and emotional depth.

That’s why asking deep questions is so powerful. These conversations reveal if you’re truly compatible—or if you’re heading toward heartbreak.

Here are 118 deep questions to ask him before you commit.

💕 Questions About His Values & Beliefs

1. What does loyalty mean to you in a relationship?
   
   

2. Do you believe couples should always tell each other everything?
   
   

3. What role does faith/spirituality play in your life?
   
   

4. What values are non-negotiable for you?
   
   

5. Do you believe love can survive without trust?
   
   

💕 Questions About His Future Goals

6. Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
   
   

7. Do you want marriage? Why or why not?
   
   

8. Do you see yourself having kids?
   
   

9. What’s your dream lifestyle?
   
   

10. Do you believe in building wealth together as a couple?
    
    

💕 Questions About Family & Relationships

11. Are you close to your family?
    
    

12. Do you believe your partner should get along with your family?
    
    

13. How did your parents’ relationship shape your view of love?
    
    

14. How do you handle family drama?
    
    

15. Do you believe in living with family after marriage?
    
    

💕 Questions About Love & Intimacy

16. What makes you feel most loved?
    
    

17. How important is physical affection to you?
    
    

18. Do you believe love is a choice or a feeling?
    
    

19. How do you define intimacy?
    
    

20. What’s your love language?
    
    

💕 Questions About Conflict & Challenges

21. How do you usually handle arguments?
    
    

22. What’s your biggest fear in relationships?
    
    

23. Have you ever cheated or been cheated on?
    
    

24. How do you apologize when you’re wrong?
    
    

25. Do you walk away or talk it out when upset?
    
    

(And continue through all 118—covering money, career, friendships, boundaries, and dreams. You don’t need to ask them all at once—just weave them naturally into your conversations.)

Why These Questions Matter

Too many women commit before truly knowing their partner—only to later discover dealbreakers. By asking these questions early, you’ll:
✅ Avoid future heartbreak.
✅ Build deeper emotional connection.
✅ Know if he’s truly the right one.

Final Thoughts 

Commitment should never be based on guesswork. The right man won’t shy away from these questions—he’ll welcome them, because he wants the same clarity and closeness that you do.

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