What are your events like?

• Our happy hours are organized on a monthly basis to provide an opportunity for like-minded people to get together and talk about our interests. It’s so much fun. Happy hours are hosted at a public bar with like-minded abdls, ageplayers, bigs, middles, littles, and curious folk. It’s a fantastic way to meet people; many have met some of their closest friends here. You should come check it out!

• Every 3 months we throw a big “Littles Party” at a kink friendly bar that lets us wear whatever we want. We have free pizza and other fun party accessories, coloring, face painting, video games on the tvs, and a changing station with free diaper samples from Tykables, ABU, and Northshore. 

• We have arts and crafts afternoons and little scouts outings like going to a bouncy castle, mini golf, cherry blossom picnics, and more. 

• If any of this sounds interesting you should follow our fetlife group page.

What should I wear to happy hours and little scouts outings?

• Happy hours and little scouts outings are held in public places instead of a private club so they’re more accessible to people who are shy or newbies. A lot of conduct that would be fine at a club or an event is not appropriate at a happy hour or little scouts outing - remember for happy hours you are in a bar that likes us and looks forward to having our business every month and we would like to keep it that way.

• We’d like to remind everyone of some rules that will stand you in good stead with any event that bills itself as a slosh, munch, or happy hour, or outing, not just ours:

• Unless otherwise noted, for happy hours and little scouts outings the dress code is VANILLA. Conduct is VANILLA. Conversation is DISCREET. What does that mean?

• Dressing in stuff that’s juvenile-themed but mainstream adults wear is great! I don’t think there’s anyone who doesn’t like dinosaurs or princesses. If Chuck Taylors fit your feet I’m jealous. ABU hats and the like (you know the ones - they have the mascot on them but no writing or anything that promotes curiosity among the public) are A-OK. 

• The Pull-Ups logo or “I’m a big kid now” slogan (no matter how ironically you may think you’re wearing it) will attract unwanted attention and doesn’t meet the “vanilla” requirement.

• Just as diapers ought to remain concealed (whether you are wearing them or they are in your purse or bag), public diaper changes or pants-checks are not okay, so too things like bibs and large stuffies are best left at home. Pacis, if they come, should be leashless and stay in your pocket. Bottles are a no-no. Sippy cups, while less obvious than a bottle, should stay in your car or at home.

• Keep the conversation to the low side of indoor voices. We are guests here. Be aware of your surroundings and who else is around you.

• If you have questions about whether something you are planning to do is in-bounds or not, you should ask around before doing it. If you’re told that your conduct, dress, or accessories are making someone uncomfortable you have an obligation to honor that, not argue the point.

• Thanks for doing your part to help keep the public CAPDL events an accepting and welcoming environment for everyone!

What should I wear to Littles Parties, the Big Diaper Fiesta, or other private event?

• Littles Parties are hosted at a kink friendly bar, and the Big Diaper Fiesta is hosted at a local BDSM dungeon, so ABDL and other kink gear is welcomed and encouraged, and people are free to wear anything they want. Please be aware of the specific event rules that reflect the spaces where they are hosted. Littles Parties do not allow nudity (other than in the changing station) and scenes are not allowed, but the Big Diaper Fiesta does allow nudity and scenes.

What are the rules?

• See our Rules!

What should I tell the bartenders or other patrons at a happy hour about why I'm here?

• Generally, unless the bar knows who our group is, we avoid volunteering any information about our group to the bartenders. Something like a gathering of overlapping friends is probably more than sufficient if they get pushy about asking why we are meeting. Overlapping meaning we have friends in the group who have other friends, etc. but have not all met each other. Unless otherwise noted, our general group rules apply to any public and vanilla space, so please be mindful of your surroundings and keep any conversations about kink discreet to create a safe and comfortable environment for all.

Can I attend your events if I'm 18?

• Anyone 18 or older is welcome to join CAPDL. Some event spaces require attendees to be 21+ because of liquor laws. Each of our events will note the minimum age requirement for it.

Do I have to be ABDL to attend?

• We aren’t a general kink event, we are specific to ageplay and ABDL: ageplayers (DDLG, MDLB, etc.) and diaper lovers. To be vetted, we need to know either that you have some connection to or interest in the abdl community. Please message us to let us know if it's not obvious!

What if I'm nervous?

• While these events are safe and fun, we totally understand being anxious. The first time  one of the co-founders went they almost turned around and went home before they walked in. Everyone was so welcoming though that after their nerves subsided they had so much fun!

What about privacy?

• For privacy and security we do not post the location of happy hours or widely share the location of littles parties. Instead the location and other attendees are only visible once we approve RSVPs after individually vetting them.  

• For safety we reserve the right to change our event locations and our happy hours are held at a public bar, which has a bouncer at the door and other patrons. 

• For further privacy, unless otherwise noted (ie the bar is a kink welcoming space) we ask people keep conversations discrete, and conduct and dress vanilla. Our group rules govern these happy hours and have been and will be enforced by the hosts, including no photo/video/audio recording, using preferred names, and respecting personal boundaries and privacy.

What about parking?

• Parking is limited and expensive so we encourage taking public transit, even parking at a nearby Metro station and taking Metrorail in. If you must park, there is limited street parking but please read all signs as parking is very tricky in DC. Another option is to use a public parking garage. You can find many of them on spothero. Please be aware of the hours, as not all are open 24 hours.

What if I want to join your Discord group?

• Attendees can join after attending one of our events. So we encourage you to attend an upcoming event!