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The only requirement for membership in CoDA is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. - Tradition Three of the Twelve Traditions of CoDA
Monday 7:30am PST: Men's "Patterns of recovery"
Monday 7:30am PST: Men's "Patterns of recovery"
7:30 AM PST - Men at Work - Monday - Patterns of Recovery
7:30 AM PST - Men at Work - Monday - Patterns of Recovery
A pattern is read each week from the Patterns of Recovery pages. Sharing is on the material read for that week.
CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE MEETING
ZOOM Meeting ID: 833 1068 3309
ZOOM Passcode: coda
Please have the Recovery Patterns of Codependence PDF available here: https://coda.org/wp-content/uploads/Patterns-of-Recovery.pdf
ATTENDEES - HOW OUR MEETINGS WORK:
#SHARING & GENERAL GUIDELINES
1) We do not raise our hands in the meeting, we just jump in when sharing opens.
2) We share our experience, strength and hope with all present in a GENERAL way and do not share lurid or graphic details or other such specifics. We share details with our sponsors.
3) To keep our meeting a safe space for all, please exclude naming: Religions and other institutions, other 12 step programs, mental health diagnoses or suicide.
4) Exclusive use of Co-Dependents Anonymous book(s) at meetings means that the CoDA message is not diluted in any way.
5) Stick around after the meeting for fellowship, especially if you are looking for a sponsor.
HOST SCRIPT/MEETING FORMAT
(Host follows the script, this is the group conscience.)
MONDAY MORNING THE PATTERNS OF RECOVERY | Zoom Version
OPENING
"Good morning and welcome to the Monday Men at Work Codependent's Anonymous PATTERNS OF RECOVERY meeting.
My name is _____________ and I am Codependent. I am your Host this morning."
(Host reads the Preamble)
PREAMBLE "Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of self-discovery -- learning to love the self. Living the program allows each of us to become increasingly honest with ourselves about our personal histories and our own codependent behaviors.
We rely upon the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions for knowledge and wisdom. These are the principles of our program and guides to developing honest and fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others. In CoDA, we each learn to build a bridge to a Higher Power of our own understanding, and we allow others the same privilege.
This renewal process is a gift of healing for us. By actively working the program of Co-Dependents Anonymous, we can each realize a new joy, acceptance and serenity in our lives."
(Host reads the following:)
"All of the following readings can be found on the main page of our website and in the Blue Book of CoDA.
This is a Men's CoDA meeting and we have a minimum age of 18. If you do not identify as male or are not 18, please find a meeting that suits your recovery."
Who would like to read the “Welcome”?
Who would like to read the 12 Steps?
Who would like to read the 12 Traditions?
We welcome any newcomers to the CoDA program or anyone attending this meeting for the first time. Please open your camera and introduce yourself by first name only.
Does anyone have 30, 60 or 90 days? 6 months or 9 months?
Is there anyone celebrating an annual CoDA Birthday?
TODAY'S TOPIC
This is a study of the PATTERNS OF RECOVERY. We rotate the patterns weekly and read from a shared screen on the PATTERNS OF RECOVERY. After the reading, members are invited to share on what these patterns look like in our codependent relationships, and how we practice recovery instead, or something else if they desire.
This is the link to view this material: https://coda.org/wp-content/uploads/Patterns-of-Recovery.pdf
Links to view and purchase other CoDA literature can be found on our website and CODA.ORG.
During Sharing:
We do not judge, offer advice or comment on what other people say in meetings, even if the comment is positive or solicited - this is 'feedback'.
We do not interrupt one another or engage in discussion - this is called 'crosstalk'. When sharing, we use 'I' statements and avoid using the word 'you', 'we', 'one' or addressing someone by ‘name’.
We share our experience, strength and hope with all present in a GENERAL way and do not share lurid or graphics details or other such specifics. We share those details with our sponsors.
Please MUTE your device while others are reading or sharing.
There is a share timer and it will be displayed on the zoom screen.
We do not raise hands in this meeting, we just jump in and share.
Sharing will end at 8:25.
Please stick around after the meeting has ended to share phone numbers and fellowship. We call this the "Parking Lot."
This week we are on the Patterns of_________, which will be shared on our zoom screen.
Can I ask for 2 volunteers: One person to read “In Co-dependency” and one to read “In Recovery”
DENIAL PATTERNS
DENIAL PATTERNS
LOW SELF ESTEEM PATTERNS
LOW SELF ESTEEM PATTERNS
COMPLIANCE PATTERNS
COMPLIANCE PATTERNS
CONTROL PATTERNS
CONTROL PATTERNS
AVOIDANCE PATTERNS
AVOIDANCE PATTERNS
HOST NOTE: There is an APP called TIMER - please start and stop it during shares
HOST NOTE: There is an APP called TIMER - please start and stop it during shares
SHARING - The host or another member starts the sharing on what was read.
OPEN SHARING
OPEN SHARING
HOST NOTE: Attendees share in 3 minute intervals
CLOSING
CLOSING
HOST NOTE: 0825 PST - After everyone has shared:
CODA ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Service work is an important step in our recovery. Men at Work has several service opportunities for those with a desire to do so. Available roles are listed under the "Service Positions" heading on the Men at Work website.
There is a page titled "References" on our website which has links to materials for newcomers and those looking for sponsorship or working the 12 steps.
Our current "speaker seeker” is Brian M and they are actively seeking speakers. If you are interested in speaking at our monthly meeting, you can text him or reach out via What's App for consideration. His number will be posted in the chat box.
Are there any other announcements for the benefit of CoDA?
HOST NOTE: Please copy and paste the following into the chat:
MEN AT WORK! GROUP RESOURCES
Men at Work! Website – All meetings and material here: Men at Work Website
PayPal link for donations: PayPal @YaleBowman
What’s App: Men at Work What's App Group
Group Secretary: cvmenscoda@gmail.com
Speaker Seeker Brian M: 805-329-9438
SPONSORSHIP:
Would anyone who is available to sponsor another member please raise your virtual hand.
Also, please put your name and contact in the chat with the phrase, “Available to Sponsor.”
BUSINESS MEETINGS:
Join us on the third Tuesday of each month for our business meeting immediately following the regular meeting.
If there is a topic you want on the agenda at a future business meeting, please contact the group secretary through the email which was placed in the chat.
7TH TRADITION:
Our 7th Tradition states that we are self-supporting through our own contributions. Suggested donation is $1.00 per meeting.
Contributions support our group and CoDA.org. The current PayPal link for donations was placed in the chat box. Select "Friends and Family" as payment type.
PROMISES AND SERENITY PRAYER
In closing, we would like to remind you that Coda is an anonymous program and what you see here, what is said here, let it stay here.
Who would like to read the Promises?
After the meeting has ended, we share phone numbers and fellowship. Please stick around!
After a moment of silence please join me in the Serenity Prayer.
"God, grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the Courage to change the things I can, and the Wisdom to know the difference."
Tuesday 7:30am PST: Men's "Peeling the Onion"
Tuesday 7:30am PST: Men's "Peeling the Onion"
7:30 AM PST - Men at Work - Tuesday - Peeling the Onion
7:30 AM PST - Men at Work - Tuesday - Peeling the Onion
Portions are read each week from the Peeling the Onion booklet over the course of many weeks as we traverse it cover to cover. Sharing is on the material read for that week.
CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE MEETING
ZOOM Meeting ID: 833 1068 3309
ZOOM Passcode: coda
Please have the Peeling the Onion book available here: https://www.corepublications.org/product/peeling-the-onion
ATTENDEES - HOW OUR MEETINGS WORK:
#SHARING & GENERAL GUIDELINES
1) We do not raise our hands in the meeting, we just jump in when sharing opens.
2) We share our experience, strength and hope with all present in a GENERAL way and do not share lurid or graphic details or other such specifics. We share details with our sponsors.
3) To keep our meeting a safe space for all, please exclude naming: Religions and other institutions, other 12 step programs, mental health diagnoses or suicide.
4) Exclusive use of Co-Dependents Anonymous book(s) at meetings means that the CoDA message is not diluted in any way.
5) Stick around after the meeting for fellowship, especially if you are looking for a sponsor.
HOST SCRIPT/MEETING FORMAT
(HOST follows the script, this is the group conscience.)
TUESDAY MORNING PEELING THE ONION | Zoom Version
OPENING
"Good morning and welcome to the Tuesday Men at Work Codependent's Anonymous PEELING THE ONION meeting.
My name is _____________ and I am Codependent. I am your host this morning."
(Host reads the Preamble)
PREAMBLE "Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of self-discovery -- learning to love the self. Living the program allows each of us to become increasingly honest with ourselves about our personal histories and our own codependent behaviors.
We rely upon the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions for knowledge and wisdom. These are the principles of our program and guides to developing honest and fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others. In CoDA, we each learn to build a bridge to a Higher Power of our own understanding, and we allow others the same privilege.
This renewal process is a gift of healing for us. By actively working the program of Co-Dependents Anonymous, we can each realize a new joy, acceptance and serenity in our lives."
(Host reads the following:)
"All of the following readings can be found on the main page of our website and in the Blue Book of CoDA.
This is a Men's CoDA meeting and we have a minimum age of 18. If you do not identify as male or are not 18, please find a meeting that suits your recovery."
Who would like to read the “Welcome”?
Who would like to read the 12 Steps?
Who would like to read the 12 Traditions?
We welcome any newcomers to the CoDA program or anyone attending this meeting for the first time. Please open your camera and introduce yourself by first name only.
Does anyone have 30, 60 or 90 days? 6 months or 9 months?
Is there anyone celebrating an annual CoDA Birthday?
TODAY'S TOPIC
This is a study of the booklet "PEELING THE ONION". We read from cover to cover over the course of many meetings and share on the one portion that is read today.
Links to purchase this and other literature can be found on our website and CODA.ORG.
During Sharing:
We do not judge, offer advice or comment on what other people say in meetings, even if the comment is positive or solicited - this is 'feedback'.
We do not interrupt one another or engage in discussion - this is called 'crosstalk'. When sharing, we use 'I' statements and avoid using the word 'you', 'we', 'one' or addressing someone by ‘name’.
We share our experience, strength and hope with all present in a GENERAL way and do not share lurid or graphics details or other such specifics. We share those details with our sponsors.
Please MUTE your device while others are reading or sharing.
There is a share timer and it will be displayed on the zoom screen.
We do not raise hands in this meeting, we just jump in and share.
Sharing will end at 8:25.
Please stick around after the meeting has ended to share phone numbers and fellowship. We call this the "Parking Lot.
This week we are on Page ____ of PEELING THE ONION, which is under the section titled ____________________.
As there are multiple versions of the booklet, and some using it electronically, read the portion or pattern out loud for attendees. Usually one pattern is read as we go through the pamphlet, as in some sections, we might read two or three statements after we have traversed the patterns.
HOST NOTE: There is an APP called TIMER - please start and stop it during shares
HOST NOTE: There is an APP called TIMER - please start and stop it during shares
SHARING - The host or another member starts the sharing on what was read.
OPEN SHARING
OPEN SHARING
HOST NOTE: Attendees share in 3 minute intervals
CLOSING
CLOSING
HOST NOTE: 0825 PST - After everyone has shared:
CODA ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Service work is an important step in our recovery. Men at Work has several service opportunities for those with a desire to do so. Available roles are listed under the "Service Positions" heading on the Men at Work website.
There is a page titled "References" on our website which has links to materials for newcomers and those looking for sponsorship or working the 12 steps.
Our current "speaker seeker” is Brian M and they are actively seeking speakers. If you are interested in speaking at our monthly meeting, you can text him or reach out via What's App for consideration. His number will be posted in the chat box.
Are there any other announcements for the benefit of CoDA?
HOST NOTE: Please copy and paste the following into the chat:
MEN AT WORK! GROUP RESOURCES
Men at Work! Website – All meetings and material here: Men at Work Website
PayPal link for donations: PayPal @YaleBowman
What’s App: Men at Work What's App Group
Group Secretary: cvmenscoda@gmail.com
Speaker Seeker Brian M: 805-329-9438
SPONSORSHIP:
Would anyone who is available to sponsor another member please raise your virtual hand.
Also, please put your name and contact in the chat with the phrase, “Available to Sponsor.”
BUSINESS MEETINGS:
Join us on the third Tuesday of each month for our business meeting immediately following the regular meeting.
If there is a topic you want on the agenda at a future business meeting, please contact the group secretary through the email which was placed in the chat.
7TH TRADITION:
Our 7th Tradition states that we are self-supporting through our own contributions. Suggested donation is $1.00 per meeting.
Contributions support our group and CoDA.org. The current PayPal link for donations was placed in the chat box. Select "Friends and Family" as payment type.
PROMISES AND SERENITY PRAYER
In closing, we would like to remind you that Coda is an anonymous program and what you see here, what is said here, let it stay here.
Who would like to read the Promises?
After the meeting has ended, we share phone numbers and fellowship. Please stick around!
After a moment of silence please join me in the Serenity Prayer.
"God, grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the Courage to change the things I can, and the Wisdom to know the difference."
Wednesday 7:30am PST: Men's "Growing Up in CoDA"
Wednesday 7:30am PST: Men's "Growing Up in CoDA"
7:30 AM PST - Men at Work - Wednesday - Growing up in Coda
7:30 AM PST - Men at Work - Wednesday - Growing up in Coda
Readings are from "Growing Up in CoDA" | Sharing is on the reading for that week.
CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE MEETING
ZOOM Meeting ID: 833 1068 3309
ZOOM Passcode: coda
Please get your "Growing Up in CoDA" book here: https://www.corepublications.org/product/growing-up-in-coda
ATTENDEES - HOW OUR MEETINGS WORK:
#SHARING & GENERAL GUIDELINES
1) We do not raise our hands in the meeting, we just jump in when sharing opens.
2) We share our experience, strength and hope with all present in a GENERAL way and do not share lurid or graphic details or other such specifics. We share details with our sponsors.
3) To keep our meeting a safe space for all, please exclude naming: Religions and other institutions, other 12 step programs, mental health diagnoses or suicide.
4) Exclusive use of Co-Dependents Anonymous book(s) at meetings means that the CoDA message is not diluted in any way.
5) Stick around after the meeting for fellowship, especially if you are looking for a sponsor.
HOST SCRIPT/MEETING FORMAT
(HOST follows the script, this is the group conscience.)
WEDNESDAY GROWING UP IN CODA | Zoom Version
OPENING
"Good morning and welcome to the Wednesday Men at Work Codependent's Anonymous GROWING UP IN CODA meeting.
My name is _____________ and I am Codependent. I am your host this morning."
(Host reads the Preamble)
PREAMBLE "Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of self-discovery -- learning to love the self. Living the program allows each of us to become increasingly honest with ourselves about our personal histories and our own codependent behaviors.
We rely upon the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions for knowledge and wisdom. These are the principles of our program and guides to developing honest and fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others. In CoDA, we each learn to build a bridge to a Higher Power of our own understanding, and we allow others the same privilege.
This renewal process is a gift of healing for us. By actively working the program of Co-Dependents Anonymous, we can each realize a new joy, acceptance and serenity in our lives."
(Host reads the following:)
"All of the following readings can be found on the main page of our website and in the Blue Book of CoDA.
This is a Men's CoDA meeting and we have a minimum age of 18. If you do not identify as male or are not 18, please find a meeting that suits your recovery."
Who would like to read the “Welcome”?
Who would like to read the 12 Steps?
Who would like to read the 12 Traditions?
We welcome any newcomers to the CoDA program or anyone attending this meeting for the first time. Please open your camera and introduce yourself by first name only.
Does anyone have 30, 60 or 90 days? 6 months or 9 months?
Is there anyone celebrating an annual CoDA Birthday?
TODAY'S TOPIC
This is a study of the book "GROWING UP IN CoDA". We read from cover to cover over the course of many meetings and share on the one portion that is read today.
Links to purchase this and other literature can be found on our website and CODA.ORG.
During Sharing:
We do not judge, offer advice or comment on what other people say in meetings, even if the comment is positive or solicited - this is 'feedback'.
We do not interrupt one another or engage in discussion - this is called 'crosstalk'. When sharing, we use 'I' statements and avoid using the word 'you', 'we', 'one' or addressing someone by ‘name’.
We share our experience, strength and hope with all present in a GENERAL way and do not share lurid or graphics details or other such specifics. We share those details with our sponsors.
Please MUTE your device while others are reading or sharing.
There is a share timer and it will be displayed on the zoom screen.
We do not raise hands in this meeting, we just jump in and share.
Sharing will end at 8:25.
Please stick around after the meeting has ended to share phone numbers and fellowship. We call this the "Parking Lot."
Please MUTE your device while others are reading or sharing.
This week we are on page ____ of "Growing Up in CoDA". The portion or story we are on starts with the title of ____________________.
(Someone or the leader can start the reading and determine where to stop for that week.)
HOST NOTE: There is an APP called TIMER - please start and stop it during shares
HOST NOTE: There is an APP called TIMER - please start and stop it during shares
SHARING - The host or another member starts the sharing on what was read.
OPEN SHARING
OPEN SHARING
HOST NOTE: Attendees share in 3 minute intervals
CLOSING
CLOSING
HOST NOTE: 0825 PST - After everyone has shared:
CODA ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Service work is an important step in our recovery. Men at Work has several service opportunities for those with a desire to do so. Available roles are listed under the "Service Positions" heading on the Men at Work website.
There is a page titled "References" on our website which has links to materials for newcomers and those looking for sponsorship or working the 12 steps.
Are there any other announcements for the benefit of CoDA?
HOST NOTE: Please copy and paste the following into the chat:
MEN AT WORK! GROUP RESOURCES
Men at Work! Website – All meetings and material here: Men at Work Website
PayPal link for donations: PayPal @YaleBowman
What’s App: Men at Work What's App Group
Group Secretary: cvmenscoda@gmail.com
SPONSORSHIP:
Would anyone who is available to sponsor another member please raise your virtual hand.
Also, please put your name and contact in the chat with the phrase, “Available to Sponsor.”
BUSINESS MEETINGS:
Join us on the third Tuesday of each month for our business meeting immediately following the regular meeting.
If there is a topic you want on the agenda at a future business meeting, please contact the group secretary through the email which was placed in the chat.
7TH TRADITION:
Our 7th Tradition states that we are self-supporting through our own contributions. Suggested donation is $1.00 per meeting.
Contributions support our group and CoDA.org. The current PayPal link for donations was placed in the chat box. Select "Friends and Family" as payment type.
PROMISES AND SERENITY PRAYER
In closing, we would like to remind you that Coda is an anonymous program and what you see here, what is said here, let it stay here.
Who would like to read the Promises?
After the meeting has ended, we share phone numbers and fellowship. Please stick around!
After a moment of silence please join me in the Serenity Prayer.
"God, grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the Courage to change the things I can, and the Wisdom to know the difference."
Thursday 7:30am PST: Men's "Blue Book Study"
Thursday 7:30am PST: Men's "Blue Book Study"
7:30 AM PST - Men at Work - Thursday - Blue Book Study
7:30 AM PST - Men at Work - Thursday - Blue Book Study
Readings are from the 3rd Edition of the CoDA Blue Book | Sharing is on the reading from the Blue Book for that week.
CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE MEETING
ZOOM Meeting ID: 833 1068 3309
ZOOM Passcode: coda
Please get your CoDA Blue Book here: https://www.corepublications.org/product/coda-book
ATTENDEES - HOW OUR MEETINGS WORK:
#SHARING & GENERAL GUIDELINES
1) We do not raise our hands in the meeting, we just jump in when sharing opens.
2) We share our experience, strength and hope with all present in a GENERAL way and do not share lurid or graphic details or other such specifics. We share details with our sponsors.
3) To keep our meeting a safe space for all, please exclude naming: Religions and other institutions, other 12 step programs, mental health diagnoses or suicide.
4) Exclusive use of Co-Dependents Anonymous book(s) at meetings means that the CoDA message is not diluted in any way.
5) Stick around after the meeting for fellowship, especially if you are looking for a sponsor.
HOST SCRIPT/MEETING FORMAT
(HOST follows the script, this is the group conscience.)
THURSDAY BLUE BOOK STUDY | Zoom Version
OPENING
"Good morning and welcome to the Thursday Men at Work Codependent's Anonymous BLUE BOOK STUDY meeting.
My name is _____________ and I am Codependent. I am your host this morning."
(Host reads the Preamble)
PREAMBLE "Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of self-discovery -- learning to love the self. Living the program allows each of us to become increasingly honest with ourselves about our personal histories and our own codependent behaviors.
We rely upon the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions for knowledge and wisdom. These are the principles of our program and guides to developing honest and fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others. In CoDA, we each learn to build a bridge to a Higher Power of our own understanding, and we allow others the same privilege.
This renewal process is a gift of healing for us. By actively working the program of Co-Dependents Anonymous, we can each realize a new joy, acceptance and serenity in our lives."
(Host reads the following:)
"All of the following readings can be found on the main page of our website and in the Blue Book of CoDA.
This is a Men's CoDA meeting and we have a minimum age of 18. If you do not identify as male or are not 18, please find a meeting that suits your recovery."
Who would like to read the “Welcome”?
Who would like to read the 12 Steps?
Who would like to read the 12 Traditions?
We welcome any newcomers to the CoDA program or anyone attending this meeting for the first time. Please open your camera and introduce yourself by first name only.
Does anyone have 30, 60 or 90 days? 6 months or 9 months?
Is there anyone celebrating an annual CoDA Birthday?
TODAY'S TOPIC
This is a Blue Book Study out of the 3rd Edition of the CoDA Blue Book. Links to purchase this and other literature can be found on our website and CODA.ORG.
During Sharing:
We do not judge, offer advice or comment on what other people say in meetings, even if the comment is positive or solicited - this is 'feedback'.
We do not interrupt one another or engage in discussion - this is called 'crosstalk'. When sharing, we use 'I' statements and avoid using the word 'you', 'we', 'one' or addressing someone by ‘name’.
We share our experience, strength and hope with all present in a GENERAL way and do not share lurid or graphics details or other such specifics. We share those details with our sponsors.
Please MUTE your device while others are reading or sharing.
There is a share timer and it will be displayed on the zoom screen.
We do not raise hands in this meeting, we just jump in and share.
Sharing will end at 8:25.
Please stick around after the meeting has ended to share phone numbers and fellowship. We call this the "Parking Lot."
This week we are on Page ____ of the Blue Book. The portion or story we are on starts with the title of ____________________.
(Someone or the leader can start the reading and determine where to stop for that week. With the large number of attendees, 4-5 pages are read till about 7:45-7:50 AM.)
HOST NOTE: There is an APP called TIMER - please start and stop it during shares
HOST NOTE: There is an APP called TIMER - please start and stop it during shares
SHARING - The host or another member starts the sharing on what was read.
OPEN SHARING
OPEN SHARING
HOST NOTE: Attendees share in 3 minute intervals
CLOSING
CLOSING
HOST NOTE: 0825 PST - After everyone has shared:
CODA ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Service work is an important step in our recovery. Men at Work has several service opportunities for those with a desire to do so. Available roles are listed under the "Service Positions" heading on the Men at Work website.
There is a page titled "References" on our website which has links to materials for newcomers and those looking for sponsorship or working the 12 steps.
Our current "speaker seeker” is Brian M and they are actively seeking speakers. If you are interested in speaking at our monthly meeting, you can text him or reach out via What's App for consideration. His number will be posted in the chat box.
Are there any other announcements for the benefit of CoDA?
HOST NOTE: Please copy and paste the following into the chat:
MEN AT WORK! GROUP RESOURCES
Men at Work! Website – All meetings and material here: Men at Work Website
PayPal link for donations: PayPal @YaleBowman
What’s App: Men at Work What's App Group
Group Secretary: cvmenscoda@gmail.com
Speaker Seeker Brian M: 805-329-9438
SPONSORSHIP:
Would anyone who is available to sponsor another member please raise your virtual hand.
Also, please put your name and contact in the chat with the phrase, “Available to Sponsor.”
BUSINESS MEETINGS:
Join us on the third Tuesday of each month for our business meeting immediately following the regular meeting.
If there is a topic you want on the agenda at a future business meeting, please contact the group secretary through the email which was placed in the chat.
7TH TRADITION:
Our 7th Tradition states that we are self-supporting through our own contributions. Suggested donation is $1.00 per meeting.
Contributions support our group and CoDA.org. The current PayPal link for donations was placed in the chat box. Select "Friends and Family" as payment type.
PROMISES AND SERENITY PRAYER
In closing, we would like to remind you that Coda is an anonymous program and what you see here, what is said here, let it stay here.
Who would like to read the Promises?
After the meeting has ended, we share phone numbers and fellowship. Please stick around!
After a moment of silence please join me in the Serenity Prayer.
"God, grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the Courage to change the things I can, and the Wisdom to know the difference."
3rd Thursday only: 7:30am PST: Men's "Speaker meeting"
3rd Thursday only: 7:30am PST: Men's "Speaker meeting"
7:30 AM PST - Men at Work - 3rd Thursday - Speaker Meeting
7:30 AM PST - Men at Work - 3rd Thursday - Speaker Meeting
After the Opening, a speaker will address the meeting for approximately 15-20 minutes after which there will be an opportunity for shares or (speaker permitting) questions addressed to the speaker.
CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE MEETING
ZOOM Meeting ID: 833 1068 3309
ZOOM Passcode: coda
ATTENDEES - HOW OUR MEETINGS WORK:
#SHARING & GENERAL GUIDELINES
1) We do not raise our hands in the meeting, we just jump in when sharing opens.
2) We share our experience, strength and hope with all present in a GENERAL way and do not share lurid or graphic details or other such specifics. We share details with our sponsors.
3) To keep our meeting a safe space for all, please exclude naming: Religions and other institutions, other 12 step programs, mental health diagnoses or suicide.
4) Exclusive use of Co-Dependents Anonymous book(s) at meetings means that the CoDA message is not diluted in any way.
5) Stick around after the meeting for fellowship (the "parking lot"), especially if you are looking for a sponsor.
HOST SCRIPT/MEETING FORMAT
(HOST follows the script, this is the group conscience.)
THURSDAY SPEAKER MEETING | Zoom Version
OPENING
"Good morning and welcome to the Thursday Men at Work Codependent's Anonymous SPEAKER meeting.
My name is _____________ and I am Codependent. I am your host this morning."
(Host reads the Preamble)
PREAMBLE "Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of self-discovery -- learning to love the self. Living the program allows each of us to become increasingly honest with ourselves about our personal histories and our own codependent behaviors.
We rely upon the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions for knowledge and wisdom. These are the principles of our program and guides to developing honest and fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others. In CoDA, we each learn to build a bridge to a Higher Power of our own understanding, and we allow others the same privilege.
This renewal process is a gift of healing for us. By actively working the program of Co-Dependents Anonymous, we can each realize a new joy, acceptance and serenity in our lives."
(Host reads the following:)
"All of the following readings can be found on the main page of our website and in the Blue Book of CoDA.
This is a Men's CoDA meeting and we have a minimum age of 18. If you do not identify as male or are not 18, please find a meeting that suits your recovery."
Who would like to read the “Welcome”?
Who would like to read the 12 Steps?
Who would like to read the 12 Traditions?
We welcome any newcomers to the CoDA program or anyone attending this meeting for the first time. Please open your camera and introduce yourself by first name only.
Does anyone have 30, 60 or 90 days? 6 months or 9 months?
Is there anyone celebrating an annual CoDA Birthday?
TODAY'S TOPIC
This is our monthly SPEAKER MEETING. Today's speaker is __________. After they speak, there will be an opportunity for personal shares or questions addressed to the speaker with their permission.
During Sharing:
We do not judge, offer advice or comment on what other people say in meetings, even if the comment is positive or solicited - this is 'feedback'.
We do not interrupt one another or engage in discussion - this is called 'crosstalk'. When sharing, we use 'I' statements and avoid using the word 'you', 'we', 'one' or addressing someone by ‘name’.
We share our experience, strength and hope with all present in a GENERAL way and do not share lurid or graphics details or other such specifics. We share those details with our sponsors.
Please MUTE your device while others are reading or sharing.
There is a share timer and it will be displayed on the zoom screen.
We do not raise hands in this meeting, we just jump in and share.
Sharing will end at 8:25.
Please stick around after the meeting has ended to share phone numbers and fellowship. We call this the "Parking Lot."
SPEAKER
SPEAKER
Please welcome ____________. The floor is yours.
OPEN SHARING
OPEN SHARING
HOST NOTE: There is an APP called TIMER - please start and stop it during shares
HOST NOTE: There is an APP called TIMER - please start and stop it during shares
SHARING - The host or another member starts the sharing or asks a question with permission.
HOST NOTE: Attendees share in 3 minute intervals
CLOSING
CLOSING
HOST NOTE: 0825 PST - After everyone has shared:
CODA ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Service work is an important step in our recovery. Men at Work has several service opportunities for those with a desire to do so. Available roles are listed under the "Service Positions" heading on the Men at Work website.
There is a page titled "References" on our website which has links to materials for newcomers and those looking for sponsorship or working the 12 steps.
Our current "speaker seeker” is Brian M and they are actively seeking speakers. If you are interested in speaking at our monthly meeting, you can text him or reach out via What's App for consideration. His number will be posted in the chat box.
Are there any other announcements for the benefit of CoDA?
HOST NOTE: Please copy and paste the following into the chat:
MEN AT WORK! GROUP RESOURCES
Men at Work! Website – All meetings and material here: Men at Work Website
PayPal link for donations: PayPal @YaleBowman
What’s App: Men at Work What's App Group
Group Secretary: cvmenscoda@gmail.com
Speaker Seeker Brian M: 805-329-9438
SPONSORSHIP:
Would anyone who is available to sponsor another member please raise your virtual hand.
Also, please put your name and contact in the chat with the phrase, “Available to Sponsor.”
BUSINESS MEETINGS:
Join us on the third Tuesday of each month for our business meeting immediately following the regular meeting.
If there is a topic you want on the agenda at a future business meeting, please contact the group secretary through the email which was placed in the chat.
7TH TRADITION:
Our 7th Tradition states that we are self-supporting through our own contributions. Suggested donation is $1.00 per meeting.
Contributions support our group and CoDA.org. The current PayPal link for donations was placed in the chat box. Select "Friends and Family" as payment type.
PROMISES AND SERENITY PRAYER
In closing, we would like to remind you that Coda is an anonymous program and what you see here, what is said here, let it stay here.
Who would like to read the Promises?
After the meeting has ended, we share phone numbers and fellowship. Please stick around!
After a moment of silence please join me in the Serenity Prayer.
"God, grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the Courage to change the things I can, and the Wisdom to know the difference."
Friday 7:30am PST: Men's "Common Threads of Codependency"
Friday 7:30am PST: Men's "Common Threads of Codependency"
7:30 AM PST - Men at Work - Friday - Common Threads of Codependency
7:30 AM PST - Men at Work - Friday - Common Threads of Codependency
Portions are read each week from the "Common Threads of Codependency" booklet over the course of many weeks as we traverse it cover to cover. Sharing is on the material read for that week.
CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE MEETING
ZOOM Meeting ID: 833 1068 3309
ZOOM Passcode: coda
Please have the "Common Threads of Codependency" book available here: https://www.corepublications.org/product/common-threads-of-codependency
ATTENDEES - HOW OUR MEETINGS WORK:
#SHARING & GENERAL GUIDELINES
1) We do not raise our hands in the meeting, we just jump in when sharing opens.
2) We share our experience, strength and hope with all present in a GENERAL way and do not share lurid or graphic details or other such specifics. We share details with our sponsors.
3) To keep our meeting a safe space for all, please exclude naming: Religions and other institutions, other 12 step programs, mental health diagnoses or suicide.
4) Exclusive use of Co-Dependents Anonymous book(s) at meetings means that the CoDA message is not diluted in any way.
5) Stick around after the meeting for fellowship, especially if you are looking for a sponsor.
HOST SCRIPT/MEETING FORMAT
(Host follows the script, this is the group conscience.)
FRIDAY MORNING COMMON THREADS OF CODEPENDENCY | Zoom Version
OPENING
"Good morning and welcome to the Friday Men at Work Codependent's Anonymous COMMON THREADS OF CODEPENDENCY meeting.
My name is _____________ and I am Codependent. I am your host this morning."
(Host reads the Preamble)
PREAMBLE "Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of self-discovery -- learning to love the self. Living the program allows each of us to become increasingly honest with ourselves about our personal histories and our own codependent behaviors.
We rely upon the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions for knowledge and wisdom. These are the principles of our program and guides to developing honest and fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others. In CoDA, we each learn to build a bridge to a Higher Power of our own understanding, and we allow others the same privilege.
This renewal process is a gift of healing for us. By actively working the program of Co-Dependents Anonymous, we can each realize a new joy, acceptance and serenity in our lives."
(Host reads the following:)
"All of the following readings can be found on the main page of our website and in the Blue Book of CoDA.
This is a Men's CoDA meeting and we have a minimum age of 18. If you do not identify as male or are not 18, please find a meeting that suits your recovery."
Who would like to read the “Welcome”?
Who would like to read the 12 Steps?
Who would like to read the 12 Traditions?
We welcome any newcomers to the CoDA program or anyone attending this meeting for the first time. Please open your camera and introduce yourself by first name only.
Does anyone have 30, 60 or 90 days? 6 months or 9 months?
Is there anyone celebrating an annual CoDA Birthday?
TODAY'S TOPIC
This is a study of the booklet "COMMON THREADS OF CODEPENDENCY". We read from cover to cover over the course of many meetings and share on the one portion that is read today.
Links to purchase this and other literature can be found on our website and CODA.ORG.
During Sharing:
We do not judge, offer advice or comment on what other people say in meetings, even if the comment is positive or solicited - this is 'feedback'.
We do not interrupt one another or engage in discussion - this is called 'crosstalk'. When sharing, we use 'I' statements and avoid using the word 'you', 'we', 'one' or addressing someone by ‘name’.
We share our experience, strength and hope with all present in a GENERAL way and do not share lurid or graphics details or other such specifics. We share those details with our sponsors.
Please MUTE your device while others are reading or sharing.
There is a share timer and it will be displayed on the zoom screen.
We do not raise hands in this meeting, we just jump in and share.
Sharing will end at 8:25.
Please stick around after the meeting has ended to share phone numbers and fellowship. We call this the "Parking Lot."
This week we are on Page ____ of COMMON THREADS OF CODEPENDENCY, which is under the section titled ____________________.
HOST NOTE: There is an APP called TIMER - please start and stop it during shares
HOST NOTE: There is an APP called TIMER - please start and stop it during shares
SHARING - The host or another member starts the sharing on what was read.
OPEN SHARING
OPEN SHARING
HOST NOTE: Attendees share in 3 minute intervals
CLOSING
CLOSING
HOST NOTE: 0825 PST - After everyone has shared:
CODA ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Service work is an important step in our recovery. Men at Work has several service opportunities for those with a desire to do so. Available roles are listed under the "Service Positions" heading on the Men at Work website.
There is a page titled "References" on our website which has links to materials for newcomers and those looking for sponsorship or working the 12 steps.
Our current "speaker seeker” is Brian M and they are actively seeking speakers. If you are interested in speaking at our monthly meeting, you can text him or reach out via What's App for consideration. His number will be posted in the chat box.
Are there any other announcements for the benefit of CoDA?
HOST NOTE: Please copy and paste the following into the chat:
MEN AT WORK! GROUP RESOURCES
Men at Work! Website – All meetings and material here: Men at Work Website
PayPal link for donations: PayPal @YaleBowman
What’s App: Men at Work What's App Group
Group Secretary: cvmenscoda@gmail.com
Speaker Seeker Brian M: 805-329-9438
SPONSORSHIP:
Would anyone who is available to sponsor another member please raise your virtual hand.
Also, please put your name and contact in the chat with the phrase, “Available to Sponsor.”
BUSINESS MEETINGS:
Join us on the third Tuesday of each month for our business meeting immediately following the regular meeting.
If there is a topic you want on the agenda at a future business meeting, please contact the group secretary through the email which was placed in the chat.
7TH TRADITION:
Our 7th Tradition states that we are self-supporting through our own contributions. Suggested donation is $1.00 per meeting.
Contributions support our group and CoDA.org. The current PayPal link for donations was placed in the chat box. Select "Friends and Family" as payment type.
PROMISES AND SERENITY PRAYER
In closing, we would like to remind you that Coda is an anonymous program and what you see here, what is said here, let it stay here.
Who would like to read the Promises?
After the meeting has ended, we share phone numbers and fellowship. Please stick around!
After a moment of silence please join me in the Serenity Prayer.
"God, grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the Courage to change the things I can, and the Wisdom to know the difference."
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