God’s ordained purpose for women has been made evident in the beginning. The biblical account of the creation of women (found in Genesis) clarifies the original purpose for which God made women.

Genesis 2:18 (NIV2011)

¹⁸ The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

Eve was created to be a helper to Adam and she was suitable or comparable to him. This means that she was the only created being that was suitable for Adam.

Genesis 2:20 (NIV2011)

²⁰ So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam no suitable helper was found.

There was no other creature found on earth that was suitable for Adam (except Eve) because she was specifically made by God for Adam. The purpose of all women that have ever lived on earth is found in the reason that God created the first woman Eve. It is a biblical principle that all women ever born on earth have all been created as a helpmeet to men. Being a helpmeet to a man is the place where all women can discover their destiny and find fulfillment in life on earth. Any pursuit of women that is outside of God’s ordained purpose for them will only lead to feminine frustration and a lack of fulfillment in their lives.

Genesis 2:21-23 (NIV2011)

²¹ So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh.

²² Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

²³ The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”

The divine purpose of God for women can also be seen in the manner in which God created the woman. Adam was created by God from the dust of the earth but God did not create Eve in the same manner that He created Adam. When God made the woman, He did so by removing a rib and flesh from Adam and God made a woman out of the bones and flesh of Adam. Adam called her a woman because she was bone of his bones and flesh of his flesh so it is evident that Eve was entirely created out of the bone and flesh taken from Adam. This was done in God’s wisdom and it flows together with the divine purpose for creating the woman. Rather than being an independent being, it is only natural for the woman to be one-flesh or one-person together with her husband. All that is missing in the man is found in the woman and when a man is married to a woman then he is completed by his wife. Both men and women need each other and God created them for the purpose that they would find fulfillment in marriage as one-person together.

The woman was created to be a helpmeet to the man and God also said that it was not good for man to be alone so the woman provided love and fellowship for the man and this soothed his loneliness. No other creature on earth could satisfy the needs of a man (except a woman) and she was perfectly created and suited for man in every way. Nothing is more compatible than male and female because male and female were created to fit perfectly together by God.

1 Corinthians 11:8-9 (NIV2011)

⁸ For man did not come from woman, but woman from man;

⁹ neither was man created for woman, but woman for man.

The bible makes it clear that the man did not come from the woman but the woman came from the man. The man was not created for the woman but the woman was created for the man. This sets as biblical precedent governing the purpose of every woman who has ever lived upon the earth. All women were created for the men and this is where they will find fulfillment in life. There is no fulfillment to be found in feminine equality and independence because these things all fight against the purpose for which God created the first woman Eve.

1 Timothy 2:13 (NIV2011)

¹³ For Adam was formed first, then Eve.

The scriptures also declare that it was Adam who was created first and then Eve was created later. The reason for this was that Eve was created as a helpmeet to Adam and so she was created later out of the bone and flesh that was removed from Adam by God.

If God had created Eve from the dust of the earth then Adam and Eve would have been two separate created individuals and as such it would have been unnatural for them to join together in marriage. Both would have tended to maintain their independence and live apart from one another much like divorced people do today.

But by creating Eve from the bone and flesh of Adam it is making a statement that Eve was clearly created for the man. When Eve was brought to Adam she contained everything that was missing from Adam and this also included everything that was feminine in Adam.

Genesis 5:2 (CJB)

² he created them male and female; he blessed them and called them Adam [humankind, man] on the day they were created.

It is interesting that God created them male and female and called their name "Adam" in the day that they were created. This shows that in the sight of God the man and the woman were considered one-complete person together. Also creating them male and female and calling them "Adam" speaks of the fact that when Adam was created, he had both masculine and feminine parts in himself (as a created being) prior to time God created Eve. When God created Eve not only did God remove bone and flesh out of Adam but God removed everything that was feminine from Adam and placed it in the woman Eve. The fact that men have nipples (which are useless for breast feeding) indicates that men at one time possessed feminine qualities within them and these feminine qualities were removed from men and placed in the woman. Male nipples give evidence of a bit of remaining traces of the feminine qualities that once resided within them. It is a reminder to all generations of men on earth that at one time they had feminine qualities prior to the creation of the first woman Eve. This feminine trace is left in men to call them to remembrance that the first man Adam was alone and God created Eve to meet his needs for companionship and she was created as a helpmeet to him. The feminine trace left in man tells them that they now are born with a void and that there are parts missing from them at birth and these parts can only be restored to them by marriage to a woman.

Genesis 2:22-24 (NIV)

²² Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

²³ The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman,' for she was taken out of man."

²⁴ For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.

The woman was created from the bones and the flesh of Adam and she also contained everything that was feminine in Adam. When a woman is joined to a man in marriage then everything that is missing in the man is joined to him again through his wife. They literally become one-person or one-flesh together in marriage. A man is to leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and become one-flesh or one-person together with her. When a man is married, he begins a new family unit and so that is why he should be out from under the authority of his parents and have his own home and his own family and he is to establish his own family unit. God clearly called the male and female as Adam because when a man and a woman are joined together in marriage, they become one complete person together. All that is missing in the man is restored again to him when he is married. It is for this reason that it is only natural that men should seek to be married to a woman and a woman should seek to be married to a man. These two genders are literally made for each other by God and they are seen as one complete person together in God’s sight. The married couple is complete with nothing missing that once existed in the original man Adam when God created him.

Exodus 1:1 (NASB)

¹ Now these are the names of the sons of Israel who came to Egypt with Jacob; they came each one with his household:

The same principle can be seen when the sons of Israel went to Egypt in the time of Joseph. The male descendants of Jacob were counted and the household of each man was automatically included with the number of seventy males. This is because from God’s perspective the woman is considered part of her husband or one-person together with him. The children or offspring of the married couple is also included as part of the man who is the head of the household. Therefore, it is only the men who are counted and the women and children are included as part of that one headship in God’s sight.

Exodus 1:5 (NASB)

⁵ All the persons who came from the loins of Jacob were seventy in number, but Joseph was already in Egypt.

It was the seventy male descendants of Jacob that were counted when the Hebrews arrived in Egypt and the reason for this was not because the women and children were not important but rather, they were considered as part of the male head of household.

Exodus 12:37 (NIV2011)

³⁷ The Israelites journeyed from Rameses to Sukkoth. There were about six hundred thousand men on foot, besides women and children.

There were over 600,000 male heads of households which came out of Egypt under Moses. This number did not include the women and children because in God's sight women are one person together with their husbands and their children are offspring of this married couple and so come under the same male authority. Therefore, only the men were counted because it was understood that this figure includes the women and children as part of their households.

Exodus 38:26 (NIV2011)

²⁶ one beka per person, that is, half a shekel, according to the sanctuary shekel, from everyone who had crossed over to those counted, twenty years old or more, a total of 603,550 men.

A more specific census of the male heads of households numbered 603,550 so this is a more specific figure than the rounded-off number of 600,000 even. But the point here is that again only the men are counted because they are considered by God as being the heads of households and the women and children are included in that number as being under the authority of each male head of household.

Matthew 14:21 (NIV2011)

²¹ The number of those who ate was about five thousand men, besides women and children.

This same principle can be seen also under the New Testament because when Jesus fed the multitude, He only counted the men. Jesus fed five thousand men besides the women and children. Again, this not because women and children are not worthy of being counted but rather the women and children are considered as part of the household of the man who is the head of the home. The women are one complete person together with their husbands so when the man is counted, she is automatically included together with him. The children are also offspring of the couple so they are included under the same male head of the home.

Matthew 15:38 (NIV2011)

³⁸ The number of those who ate was four thousand men, besides women and children.

On another occasion Jesus fed four thousand men and again this figure did not include the women and children because again they were considered part of the male head of household.

Matthew 16:8-10 (NIV2011)

⁸ Aware of their discussion, Jesus asked, “You of little faith, why are you talking among yourselves about having no bread?

⁹ Do you still not understand? Don’t you remember the five loaves for the five thousand, and how many basketfuls you gathered?

¹⁰ Or the seven loaves for the four thousand, and how many basketfuls you gathered?

Jesus fed the multitude on several different occasions and both times He only counted the men. One-time Jesus fed five thousand men and, on another occasion, He fed four thousand men and, on both occasions, He only counted the men. The biblical principle here is that women are considered a part of the man and God sees the man and woman as one-person together. That is the reason that only the men are counted because when you count a man it automatically includes his wife. If the man is not yet married then he is a part of the household of his father and comes under the headship of his father’s household. But when a man is married, he is to leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two are to become one-flesh or one complete person together in marriage. From that time on a new family unit begins with the man becoming the head of his own household.

The biblical principle that can be seen here is that God does not believe in feminine equality and independence but rather God sees oneness. It is God’s created purpose for women to become a helpmeet suitable to a man and when a woman is joined to a man in marriage, she completes that man by supplying everything that is absent within the man. The woman who is married to a man restores all of the feminine qualities in him that were removed from the original man Adam and placed in his wife Eve. All men are born with a void of missing parts within them that can only be fulfilled by marriage to a woman. The woman also is made from the parts of a man and so she is also unfulfilled until such time as she is united to a man in marriage as his wife. Men need a woman and also the women need a man and this is only natural according to God’s created order for humans.

Therefore, anything that resists or fights against God’s divine order for marriage is perversion. This can include same-sex marriages because two females cannot provide any missing parts to each other and two males cannot provide any missing parts to one another. Same sex marriages are a perversion in the sight of God because they resist God’s natural created order for marriage. God’s divine order for marriage is only for the union of a man and a woman and anything outside of this union is perversion in God’s sight.

Leviticus 20:13 (NIV2011)

¹³ “ ‘If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.

If two men engage in homosexual relations this is a perversion in the sight of God and the death penalty given by God, illustrates it is a serious crime in God’s sight. Two men are not created to join together in union because sexual relations are only to be between a man and his wife in a male and female marriage relationship.

Leviticus 20:15 (NIV2011)

¹⁵ “ ‘If a man has sexual relations with an animal, he is to be put to death, and you must kill the animal.

If a man has sexual relations with an animal he must be put to death because that is perversion in the sight of God. God created all of the animal life on earth and none of these creatures were suitable for Adam because they were a different species and were not compatible with Adam. Only a woman is created to be compatible with a man, not an animal of any kind.

Leviticus 20:16 (NIV2011)

¹⁶ “ ‘If a woman approaches an animal to have sexual relations with it, kill both the woman and the animal. They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.

If a woman has sexual relations with an animal, she is to be put to death for that is perversion in the sight of God and the death penalty illustrates that this is a serious crime in God’s sight. There is no animal on earth that is compatible to a woman because the woman is only created for a man and no other creature on earth.

A woman was created only for a man and any type of relations outside of marriage to a man is perversion in the sight of God. Two women cannot find fulfillment in marriage as they are the same sex and cannot provide anything that is missing in the other. Only marriage between a man and a woman is blessed by God and God’s purpose for marriage is that both the man and the woman will become one-complete person together.

Another thing that is a perversion of God’s divine order for marriage is feminine equality and independence because this resists a couple from becoming one-flesh or one person together.

In the beginning it is evident that Eve must have been doing her own thing and exercising her independence because the devil was able to deceive her. Eve was apparently visiting the forbidden tree and pondering it because the devil was able to tempt her concerning this tree.

Eve had incomplete knowledge of the tree and it was her incomplete knowledge that led to her deception in the Garden.

Genesis 3:2-4 (NIV2011)

² The woman said to the serpent, “We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden,

³ but God did say, ‘You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die.’ ”

⁴ “You will not certainly die,” the serpent said to the woman.

Eve had incorrect knowledge in that she thought that if she even touched the tree she would die. But the devil contradicted this information and told her she would not die. Then Eve took the next step and touched the fruit and she did not die so she assumed that she would also not die if she ate the fruit. But this was a fatal mistake because she experienced spiritual death the moment that she ate the fruit. Eve was spiritually dead and at this point and Adam was still spiritually alive.

1 Timothy 2:14 (NASB)

¹⁴ And it was not Adam who was deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression.

It is evident that Adam was not deceived to eat the forbidden fruit so this means that Eve was deceived and ate of this fruit and then she took leadership and brought this fruit to her husband. Apparently, Adam did not want to be separated from his wife by death because he made a willful choice to commit spiritual suicide and eat the fruit (the same as his wife did) and then he also died spiritually. This is the first recorded case of a woman taking leadership over a man and leading a man and this ended in a great disaster which brought a curse to the entire earth!

This all started when Adam was passive about leadership and he allowed his wife to roam around the garden and do her own thing and in her independence, she was deceived.

Genesis 3:4-5 (NASB)

⁴ The serpent said to the woman, "You surely will not die!

⁵ "For God knows that in the day you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil."

The devil tempted Eve along the lines of feminine thinking. Feminine thinking always flows along the lines of “equality-for-all” just like a mother who is equal and fair to all of her children and gives them all an equal size piece of pie. While feminine-thinking may be good in raising young children, it is not good when it is misplaced in leadership. Satan appealed to Eve’s feminine sense of equality and basically told her that it was not right that God was on a higher level than Eve. Satan tempted Eve by telling her that if she would eat the forbidden fruit then she would be equal to God. Satan told her that she would be like God by knowing both good and evil. Eve was the first woman to exercise her feminine independence and she did her own thing apart from her husband’s leadership. She then reached out for feminine equality and even supposed she could become equal with God. The result of her feminine independence and feminine equality was that it brought a curse to the entire world. Until today when women reach out for feminine independence and equality it still brings a curse wherever it is found.

Genesis 3:12 (NASB)

¹² The man said, "The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me from the tree, and I ate."

It was the woman who gave the forbidden fruit to Adam and it was Eve who took leadership using her feminine thinking of equality that brought a curse to the entire earth.

Genesis 3:16 (NASB)

¹⁶ To the woman He said, "I will greatly multiply Your pain in childbirth, In pain you will bring forth children; Yet your desire will be for your husband, And he will rule over you."

After the fall of mankind in the garden God reinstituted the fact that Eve was created for the man and the man was to be the head of the home. God made it clear who was to be the head when he told Eve that her desire would be for her husband and he would rule over her. If Adam had not been passive about his leadership and his wife had not sought for her own independence they would have continued in an undefiled condition and they would not have broken their union with God.

It is evident that women still bear children in pain and that God also instituted that the husband was to rule over them. When women seek equality and independence from their husbands then they are acting out of God's divine order in doing so. Feminine equality is from the world and the god of this world (who is Satan) still seeks to tempt women to reach out for independence.

Matthew 19:5-6 (NIV2011)

⁵ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’?

⁶ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

Jesus said that what God has joined together that man should not separate. During the time of Christ, it was most often men who would seek divorce for almost any type of reason. Women were not seeking divorce in those days because a husband was their only means of support because they did not have any jobs or means of livelihood outside of marriage. A man was a provider for them as God intended so women seeking divorce was not something that was common. But during WWII in America many women worked in munitions plants and other jobs for the war effort and they continued to work after the war was over. When women were able to earn their own income that also caused a situation where many of them forsook the role of a homemaker and sought their own independence. Thousands of women abandoned the home in pursuit of their own career and independence. America won WWII but the damage of losing their women as homemakers was a war-loss that was never recovered from.

Jesus said what God has joined together let not mankind separate. After WWII it was predominantly the woman who was seeking to separate the marriage by divorce and this divorce trend spread to other nations as well.

Today divorce is largely instigated by the women who seek their own independence and are fighting against the one-flesh relationship that is ordained by God. There are women who fight against the one-flesh relationship with their husbands all of their married lives. But after they gain their freedom and independence by divorce, they find it is nothing but gravel in their mouth. They believed a satanic lie that independence was a good thing but in reaching out for their independence they lost the only thing of value for their life.

The greatest need of families and societies is the homemaker. When women leave this role it has negative effects on the family, society and nation. Men cannot function without a woman to manage the home because the home will be in disorder without her help. When women engage in outside employment then the family will suffer.

I know of a woman whose husband was a good provider and he had purchased their home and vehicles with cash and they lacked no good thing because he had a good income to support his family. But she wanted to have a career so she took a sales job at a cell phone company. She would drop her child off at the day care center and the boy began to call the day care worker “mother” because he saw more of her than his own mother. Much of her earnings went to hire the things done that she was not doing herself. So, her wages went to pay day care for the child and even house cleaning services to take care of her housework at home. She began using instant foods in order to save her time so the nutrition of the family suffered. Her sex life suffered because she was always too tired for it. She began to ask her husband to do the shopping because she was too busy or too tired and he also was working a full-time job so they were both too tired to manage the home properly. They would end up spending thousands on going out to eat and this was affecting their health because the lack of nutrition in restaurant food and instant food at home was causing both the husband and wife to have exhaustion.

This foolish woman caused the loss of many things for the family when they did not need her to be working outside the home. Children need a parent at home during their development years and without a mother caring for them they can develop many insecurities and problems that can follow them into adult life but she sacrificed her child for a job being a sales girl. Her marriage suffered because the husband did not have a wife at home because she was always out working when he needed her. Their communication and sex life suffered as well and these are all things that are sacrificed by women seeking employment outside the home. The home was in disorder because it is a full-time job to be a home-maker and women who work outside the home will generally be cheater type of woman who serve cheater food to the family and do everything focused on saving time for themselves and this results in cheating the family out of a orderly home with nutritious home cooked meals and a mother to the children and a wife to the husband and everyone suffers in that house when the mother is working a job. There was no time for menu planning or home cleaning and home management and the family was cheated out of quality home management by all of the time saving devices that a cheater woman will use in the house. Working mothers may toss a loaf of bleached white bread and bologna on the table and tell the children to help themselves and the kids grow up to think such food is normal because they never tasted a real home cooked meal before that has complete nutrition and includes all of the food groups needed for human health.

Gangs in the big cities are almost exclusively comprised of children raised by single parent working mothers who abandon their kids in an empty house while they are out working to pay the bills. The kids join gangs seeking some sort of family to belong to and that causes all of the upheaval of gangs in the society.

I once did street ministry in government projects where the children were abandoned by working mothers and just ran wild without any supervision or discipline at all. Kids as young as six years old were left to fend for themselves in these government projects where unwed mothers received reduced rent living.

These kids raised in slums were typically turning to drugs for entertainment and income and the boys were joining gangs and the girls often ended up in prostitution. Many of them would end up in prison and they typically would all have the same story to tell of being left to fend for themselves in childhood by an unwed or divorced working mother.

THE CURSE OF ADAM

Satan deceived women that being a homemaker is boring and unworthy so they forsook this role and went out to pursue a career instead. They do not realize that they are actually forsaking their role in the home in order to partake of the curse of Adam.

Genesis 3:17-19 (NIV2011)

¹⁷ To Adam he said, “Because you listened to your wife and ate fruit from the tree about which I commanded you, ‘You must not eat from it,’ “Cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat food from it all the days of your life.

¹⁸ It will produce thorns and thistles for you, and you will eat the plants of the field.

¹⁹ By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since from it you were taken; for dust you are and to dust you will return.”

The curse of Adam came because he listened to his wife and he was passive in his leadership and followed his wife’s feminine leadership. He was cursed with having to make a living by the sweat of his brow. He would have to labor with painful toil to make the ground produce food for him and the ground would be cursed and would produce thorns and thistles voluntarily. He would be required to produce his food by the sweat of his brow all of the days of his life. It is for this reason that men generally have a shorter life-span than women because they are under the curse of Adam and under financial pressure to produce a living for their family.

In agriculture there are weed seeds that will remain in the soil for seven years before they germinate so that no matter how hard they work to rid the soil of weeds these toxic plants keep coming up. But this is not limited to agriculture because any sort of occupation a man can have will have its enemies. A businessman in a high rise in New York will have real financial pressure because the competition is fierce and he can lose everything overnight by one investment mistake. It is this stress that can shorten the life of a man. If he owns his own business there are many distractions from suppliers and vendors and employees and customers and government regulation and taxes and meeting payroll and employment insurance and many other things that can cause stress. These things are a constant strain upon a business owner and it is like trying to juggle many balls at the same time without allowing any of them to drop.

This is why a man needs a wife to manage the home so that the home will be a place of refuge and peace for him. Here he can come home and have a nutritious home cooked meal and find a home that is clean and orderly and the children well behaved and be greeted by his beautiful wife and receive encouragement and comfort that only a wife can provide. It was for this purpose that Eve was created for Adam to meet his needs for companionship and understanding and comfort and in her arms, he is revived and refreshed and encouraged to go back to the battle of trying to earn a living again. A man with a good wife and home finds his strength in his wife and renews himself and that is what causes him to have energy to overcome at his job or business.

But if his wife is seeking her independence and does not care about being a helpmeet to her husband then he will come home to a house that is full of disorder and dirty dishes in the sink and everything is in a mess. When the woman is home, she gives him some cheater food like instant noodles or other fast food and this shows him that she really does not care about him or his struggles at work. It does not take long for the man to realize that being married to such a woman is a waste of time and he would be just as well off to be a single man living in an apartment eating canned goods than to be married to a self-serving woman who makes no effort to be a helpmeet to him. The purpose of being married is for a man to have a helpmeet because he cannot rise up to his full potential without her help. The role of the homemaker is the greatest need on earth today because the man needs his wife and the children need their mother and without her doing her part none of them can function properly.

Even secular government officials realize that divorce can have a negative effect on the entire economy of their State or nation. Business and jobs are worked by people and if their personal lives are messed up and out of order at home, they will not be able to function properly at work. This has negative effects on everyone from top to bottom. A CEO or president of a company cannot make wise decisions when he his personal life is a mess and he is lacking nutrition and sleep because he has to take care of his own domestic matters at home. A worker cannot be productive on the job when his life is out of order at home and he has no wife to serve as his helpmeet and he is living off junk food from a gas station and has no time for shopping or even doing his laundry.

In America, the State of Oklahoma is aware of the negative effects of divorce upon their economy. They said that divorce has a negative impact on every business in the State of Oklahoma and affects their citizen’s ability to focus and concentrate on their business. They said that divorce causes people to be distracted from their jobs and sapped of their energy. These are all observations made by secular people who do not know God and who do not know the principles of the word of God but these secular government officials have enough common sense to see that divorce has a negative effect on their economy. It is obvious that these secular people do not have any real solutions about how to stop divorce because it is beyond their natural understanding about how to deal with it.

This turmoil caused by divorce is supportive of biblical precedent that the woman was created by God as a helpmeet and when the woman does not fulfill that role then there will be chaos in the home. This disorder of women forsaking their role as a homemaker spills over into the society and the nation because the society and the nation are made up of families. Husbands and children cannot function properly without the help of the woman and her role as a home manager. The homemaker is the most important job in the entire nation because without it there will be turmoil and chaos and disorder in the personal lives of people.

Esther 1:15-18 (NIV2011)

¹⁵ “According to law, what must be done to Queen Vashti?” he asked. “She has not obeyed the command of King Xerxes that the eunuchs have taken to her.”

¹⁶ Then Memukan replied in the presence of the king and the nobles, “Queen Vashti has done wrong, not only against the king but also against all the nobles and the peoples of all the provinces of King Xerxes.

¹⁷ For the queen’s conduct will become known to all the women, and so they will despise their husbands and say, ‘King Xerxes commanded Queen Vashti to be brought before him, but she would not come.’

¹⁸ This very day the Persian and Median women of the nobility who have heard about the queen’s conduct will respond to all the king’s nobles in the same way. There will be no end of disrespect and discord.

The secular government of the King of Persia understood the complications of a woman asserting her own self-will and independence against her husband. If a woman refuses to submit to her husband then she has denied him the right to be the head of the home as God has intended him to be. If all of the women of nobility were to follow the bad example of Vashti then this disorder would spread to all the homes of the nobles and officials of the entire Persian Empire. The end result is that there would be no end to the disrespect and the discord that would be produced by the women following the poor example of Vashti who denied her husband his right as being head of the home by her refusal to submit to him. This poor behavior can be contagious and spread to all women throughout the vast Persian and Median Empire.

Esther 1:19-22 (NIV)

¹⁹ "Therefore, if it pleases the king, let him issue a royal decree and let it be written in the laws of Persia and Media, which cannot be repealed, that Vashti is never again to enter the presence of King Xerxes. Also let the king give her royal position to someone else who is better than she.

²⁰ Then when the king's edict is proclaimed throughout all his vast realm, all the women will respect their husbands, from the least to the greatest."

²¹ The king and his nobles were pleased with this advice, so the king did as Memucan proposed.

²² He sent dispatches to all parts of the kingdom, to each province in its own script and to each people in its own language, proclaiming in each people's tongue that every man should be ruler over his own household.

The result of the rebellion of Queen Vashti was that a governmental decree was proclaimed throughout the empire and sent to each province (in their own language) that every man should be ruler over his own household. It was an amazing precedent that a large empire of the Persian and the Medes would make an official law proclaiming every man should be the ruler of their own household. This secular king and his government passed a law that was in full agreement with the biblical principle for which God first created the woman as a helpmeet and declared that the man should rule over the woman. If a woman refuses to submit to her husband then she has denied him the right to be leader of his own home. Even secular government officials were aware of this. If there was discord and turmoil in the homes then there would be negative effects on the economy of the entire empire because men cannot function properly without a wife at home serving in the role of a homemaker.

This same principle is still evident in this present time and generation. The State of Oklahoma has one of the highest percentages of Christians found in any State in America. The divorce rates of Oklahoma largely represent Christian divorce rates in the U.S. The divorce rates of Oklahoma are twice those of secular Europe and even three times more that the divorce rates of Japan.

Government statics reveal the hard-cold facts that out of every 100 marriage licenses issued that 76 divorce petitions were granted in the State of Oklahoma.

Governor of Oklahoma spent 10 million dollars of government money trying to curb divorce in Oklahoma because it has great negative effects on the State.

This means that Christians are now having a higher divorce rate than unbelievers and this can be traced to false teaching that originated in Tulsa Oklahoma.

Tulsa Oklahoma is full of Christian organizations, bible schools, and churches and among these there has arisen a false bible teaching which has endorsed and imported feminine equality of the world right into the church. The fruit of this false teaching is divorce and that is why the entire State of Oklahoma has been affected by divorce. These secular people also acknowledge that this divorce rate has spread throughout the entire bible-belt in America and this has come about wherever this false doctrine has been spread among Christian women.

I personally know a Christian woman who is married to a farmer from the Midwest and she traveled to Tulsa Oklahoma to attend an annual bible conference that is held in that city. While she was there, she stayed with some man-hating divorced Christian women who had taken their husband’s homes from them by divorce proceedings and who were living off of alimony. These women taught this Christian farmer’s woman some of their tricks on how to manipulate a man. So, this woman went home with these ideas gained from these divorced Christian women in Tulsa. When it came time for the annual bible conference her husband protested her going and leaving him for a week. That conference took place during his most busy time of the year and he needed his wife’s help in the home. But his Christian wife learned some new tricks from the divorced counterparts in Tulsa so she told her husband, “If you do not let me go to the bible conference then the divorce attorneys can decide what they will do with your farm!” Her husband stared at his wife in disbelief because of the rebellious words that came out of her mouth! She had learned this rebellion from the Christian divorced women in Tulsa when she was attending the bible conference down there. If he did not comply with her wishes he would lose his farm and end up eating canned goods as a single divorced man living in an apartment by himself! This is how these women learned to manipulate their husbands rather than obeying the scripture which commands the women to submit to their husbands in everything. Just as in the case of Vashti, if all of the women followed her bad example of refusing to submit to her husband then disorder and chaos would spread to all the households throughout the entire Persian Empire. In the same way, the rebellion of the divorced women in Tulsa spread throughout all of the bible-belt states and even throughout all of the US as women from all over America came to Tulsa and learned the ways of rebellion from the divorced women there. These women carried this rebellion home with them to every State of America but it was most evident in the bible-belt where women from these states were commonly in attendance at the bible conferences in Tulsa.

Esther 1:19 (NIV2011)

¹⁹ “Therefore, if it pleases the king, let him issue a royal decree and let it be written in the laws of Persia and Media, which cannot be repealed, that Vashti is never again to enter the presence of King Xerxes. Also let the king give her royal position to someone else who is better than she.

Vashti was the queen of the largest empire on earth in that day but she lost it all because of her self-will and independence and she was replaced by another. I know of a woman who attended a bible school in Tulsa and after graduation they returned to their own country and they pioneered the largest church in their nation. But this woman became arrogant and proud like Queen Vashti and she was the one who divorced her husband. She received this false doctrine about women equality from her bible school in Tulsa and it produced the fruit of divorce in her life. She was at one time the Queen of the largest church in her nation but now she is living all alone in an apartment as a divorced woman. After starting her own “ministry” she found that her only supporters were man-hating divorced women from Tulsa and surrounding areas who all said, “You really showed him!” as they encouraged her that she did the right thing in divorcing her husband. But who was the winner in such a deal? Everyone involved was devastated including the church she had pioneered together with her husband. Both the man and this woman suffered irreparable emotional damage because of this divorce.

Malachi 2:16 (NIV)

¹⁶ "I hate divorce," says the LORD God of Israel, "and I hate a man's covering himself with violence as well as with his garment," says the LORD Almighty. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith.

It is evident that the God of Israel hates divorce but yet these Christian women from Tulsa have passed on their spirit of divorce to women throughout the Bible-belt, to other states and even in other countries overseas.

The scripture above also says that God hates a man covering himself with violence as well as with a garment and this can be translated to mean that divorce is like the rending of a garment that tears the garment into two pieces with violence. The torn fabric and frayed ends can never be fully restored or repaired again. Rather than tearing a garment apart at the seams, divorce is like rending a garment across the fabric fibers and tearing it with violence so it cannot be repaired again. The fact of the matter is that no divorced person will ever be the same again. God had made them one-flesh or one person together in Christ but through divorce they tore this union apart by their own self-will and rebellion.

Mark 10:6-9 (NIV2011)

⁶ “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’

⁷ ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,

⁸ and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh.

⁹ Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

Jesus said that the male and the female should be made one-flesh or one-person together in marriage and it was made clear that it was God who joined the male and female together in marriage. What God has joined together let no man separate speaks clearly of the fact that the only ones trying to separate that marriage are the married couples themselves. But in this generation, it is predominately the woman who is seeking the divorce just as the man-hating women of Tulsa do when they spread their spirit of divorce throughout America and even overseas. Divorce is a spirit of rebellion that spreads like a plague and it is contagious to all women who follow the bad example of women like Vashti who displayed her independence toward her husband. Women with good marriages and good providers at home can find themselves divorced by following the poor example of other rebellious and independent women. It does not matter if they seize a nice house for themselves or live high on alimony payments from their ex-husbands because they will be unwanted and all alone eating their food by themselves after they drove off the only man who loved them.

A woman who is divorced or widowed is a woman who loses her head and spiritual covering. Such a woman is like a pine cone that is floating all alone down the river with no security at all. A widow woman loses her covering by death and this is no fault of her own but a divorced woman can lose her covering by her own self-will and pride.

Proverbs 14:1 (NKJV)

¹ The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish pulls it down with her hands.

This scripture is not speaking of a natural house made of bricks or lumber but it speaks of the man as a spiritual covering for the woman. A wise woman builds her husband up because she knows that her security and protection and success are found in her husband. Instead of complaining that he is out working and not spending time with her, a wise woman will seek to find ways to serve her man and be a helpmeet to him so that he can find success in life.

Proverbs 31:10-12 (NASB)

¹⁰ An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels.

¹¹ The heart of her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack of gain.

¹² She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.

A wise woman will do her husband good not evil all of the days of her life and the heart of her husband trusts in her. She knows how to edify a man and encourage him and this will be like wind in his sails to propel him forward toward success.

The foolish woman however is the opposite in that she will tear down her man instead of build him up.

Proverbs 14:1 (NIV2011)

¹ The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.

This scripture says that the foolish women will tear down her own house with her own hands. This speaks of a woman who tears down her husband who is her spiritual covering. This can be said of divorced women who willfully divorce their husbands in order to serve themselves. They are foolish to tear apart that which God has joined together. The fact of the matter is that the woman was created by God to be a helpmeet to a man and she will not find any fulfillment outside of this role. It does not matter how much money she may gain from a divorce proceeding or how much independence she may have because all of these things will be like gravel in her mouth when she is all alone and divorced and separated from the man who had loved her.

I know of a Christian woman who had a good and faithful husband who was a good provider. But she felt bored and wanted some excitement and so she divorced her man and pursued some romance in the bars with the dirty men found there. But over time she was defiled and abandoned by these immoral men and her pursuit of romance came to ashes. Her husband was devastated by the divorce and eventually he remarried again. But this woman who divorced him later mourned that she had lost the best and most faithful man she ever met. A faithful man who is a good provider may seem kind of boring to some women but they can thank God if they have a good husband like that. If a man is faithful to his wife and never cheated on her and if he is a good provider those are two qualities that a woman can thank God for in her husband. If he had no other good qualities than these then he could still be considered to be a good husband.

Part 2-Divine Order for Women

Many of these divorced women do not realize the permanence of divorce and they cannot easily just regain what they have lost through divorce. There are irreparable damages done to both parties through divorce. God joins a male and female together in marriage and they become one-person together in Christ. When they divorce it is like tearing a human being into two pieces! If you split a human in two, they could not live because half of them is missing and they cannot live without those missing parts. This is exactly what happens when a married couple divorce because they will never be the same again. They will be like an empty shell and they cannot fully recover from the effects of divorce in their lifetime. The only exception to this may be if the divorce took place prior to salvation and in that case a person may have some restoration when they become a new person in Christ. The process of regeneration causes the old man to die and is replaced with a new person in Christ. But two Christians who divorce do not have that option of regeneration because they were already saved prior to the divorce and their damage will run deep and it will be lasting. There is no hope of repair for the divorced Christian and they cannot return to the place where they were prior to the divorce and experience life without the damage they have suffered through divorce.

Some pastors speak of nothing but comfort and restoration to the divorced from the pulpit because over 50% of their congregations are divorced. But married couples can get the wrong idea from this type of preaching and suppose that they can just divorce whenever they have a problem because they can be restored later. But they are not in touch with reality and they have not considered that they will never be the same again after they divorce. Only couples who have determined not to make divorce an option will be able to weather the marriage storms and overcome their marital problems. If they think divorce is an easy answer they were sadly mistaken and the damage divorce causes can follow them for the rest of their lives to their graves.

I know of a woman who attended a bible school in Tulsa that teaches feminine equality and the fruit of this teaching is divorce. She met and married a fine young man in this bible school but her husband was a real man and he would not compromise with her wishes to be the head of his home. So, she divorced this Christian man saying that she had irreconcilable differences and then she looked for the most passive man that she could find. She remarried to a passive man that she could control and manipulate and she gained her position of head of the home in this manner. Often Christian women have used passive men to endorse themselves and their own ministry and even claimed to be submitted to their husbands when in fact their husband is no man at all and he is submitted to her. This is exactly the type of relationship that Ahab had with his wife Jezebel.

1 Kings 21:1-3 (NIV2011)

¹ Some time later there was an incident involving a vineyard belonging to Naboth the Jezreelite. The vineyard was in Jezreel, close to the palace of Ahab king of Samaria.

² Ahab said to Naboth, “Let me have your vineyard to use for a vegetable garden, since it is close to my palace. In exchange I will give you a better vineyard or, if you prefer, I will pay you whatever it is worth.”

³ But Naboth replied, “The LORD forbid that I should give you the inheritance of my ancestors.”

This incident involving the vineyard of Naboth displays the passive character of Ahab. He wanted to have this vineyard for a vegetable garden because it was near his palace but the owner did not want to sell or give the inheritance of his fathers to Ahab so he refused his offer.

1 Kings 21:4-6 (NIV2011)

⁴ So Ahab went home, sullen and angry because Naboth the Jezreelite had said, “I will not give you the inheritance of my ancestors.” He lay on his bed sulking and refused to eat.

⁵ His wife Jezebel came in and asked him, “Why are you so sullen? Why won’t you eat?”

⁶ He answered her, “Because I said to Naboth the Jezreelite, ‘Sell me your vineyard; or if you prefer, I will give you another vineyard in its place.’ But he said, ‘I will not give you my vineyard.’ ”

Ahab behaved like a child as he was pouting and sulking and lying on his bed because he could not have what he wanted. This behavior was his means of communicating to his wife that he wanted her to take action for him about the vineyard of Naboth. Refusing to eat and sulking was a display to call attention to himself. This behavior reveals how passive and effeminate that this man Ahab really was. He was not a leader in his own home but behaved like a child who wants attention from his mother.

1 Kings 21:7 (NIV2011)

⁷ Jezebel his wife said, “Is this how you act as king over Israel? Get up and eat! Cheer up. I’ll get you the vineyard of Naboth the Jezreelite.”

Jezebel said that she would get the vineyard of Naboth for Ahab so she took action on her own and Ahab did nothing to stop her. He passively allowed his wife to take control. When a man is silent about his wife’s behavior then this is actually endorsement in the sight of God.

1 Kings 21:8-10 (NIV2011)

⁸ So she wrote letters in Ahab’s name, placed his seal on them, and sent them to the elders and nobles who lived in Naboth’s city with him.

⁹ In those letters she wrote: “Proclaim a day of fasting and seat Naboth in a prominent place among the people.

¹⁰ But seat two scoundrels opposite him and have them bring charges that he has cursed both God and the king. Then take him out and stone him to death.”

Typically, a woman cannot overcome a man in combat or in a fair fight with weapons, so being a weaker person, a woman will have to resort to manipulation in order to get what she wants done.

In this case, Jezebel wrote letters in the name of her husband Ahab and sealed them with his signet ring. This was an effective way to usurp her husband’s authority for herself. Jezebel then manipulated the people by seating Naboth in a prominent place among them. This instilled jealousy in the hearts of those who were seated in a lower position of honor than Naboth was. Then she used several scoundrels to testify that Naboth cursed God and the king. The effect of this was that the jealous people were more than willing to stone Naboth to death on any excuse presented to them (even on the testimony of two scoundrels). Thus, the task of murdering Naboth was accomplished by using manipulation and Jezebel was able to use others to do her dirty work for her. Treachery and deceit can be used by someone who is weaker physically to destroy someone who is stronger than herself. Such was the case of Jezebel destroying a good man by using manipulation and usurped authority.

1 Kings 21:11-14 (NIV2011)

¹¹ So the elders and nobles who lived in Naboth’s city did as Jezebel directed in the letters she had written to them.

¹² They proclaimed a fast and seated Naboth in a prominent place among the people.

¹³ Then two scoundrels came and sat opposite him and brought charges against Naboth before the people, saying, “Naboth has cursed both God and the king.” So they took him outside the city and stoned him to death.

¹⁴ Then they sent word to Jezebel: “Naboth has been stoned to death.”

Jezebel knew that her plan would work perfectly because all she had to do was stir up some jealousy in the hearts of the people and give them an excuse for murder. Naboth was executed as planned.

1 Kings 21:15-16 (NIV2011)

¹⁵ As soon as Jezebel heard that Naboth had been stoned to death, she said to Ahab, “Get up and take possession of the vineyard of Naboth the Jezreelite that he refused to sell you. He is no longer alive, but dead.”

¹⁶ When Ahab heard that Naboth was dead, he got up and went down to take possession of Naboth’s vineyard.

Ahab was a passive man who allowed his wife to do things for him. He even communicated to his wife (by a display of childish behavior) that he wanted her take action on his behalf. After Naboth was murdered then Ahab rose up and went down to take possession of the vineyard.

1 Kings 21:17-19 (NIV2011)

¹⁷ Then the word of the LORD came to Elijah the Tishbite:

¹⁸ “Go down to meet Ahab king of Israel, who rules in Samaria. He is now in Naboth’s vineyard, where he has gone to take possession of it.

¹⁹ Say to him, ‘This is what the LORD says: Have you not murdered a man and seized his property?’ Then say to him, ‘This is what the LORD says: In the place where dogs licked up Naboth’s blood, dogs will lick up your blood—yes, yours!’ ”

The word of the Lord came to the prophet Elijah and God said that Ahab had murdered a man and seized his property. The rebuke of the Lord was for Ahab (not his wife Jezebel) because Ahab was the head of the home and God holds the man responsible for whatever takes place under his roof. The fact of the matter is that when a man is passive about what his wife does then it is the man who will be judged by God (not the wife). God sees the man as the head of the home and if his wife is doing her own thing and the husband does nothing about it then he will be the one judged for her crimes because he is the head of the home. It is after the man is judged that the judgment will come upon his wife.

1 Kings 22:34-38 (NIV2011)

³⁴ But someone drew his bow at random and hit the king of Israel between the sections of his armor. The king told his chariot driver, “Wheel around and get me out of the fighting. I’ve been wounded.”

³⁵ All day long the battle raged, and the king was propped up in his chariot facing the Arameans. The blood from his wound ran onto the floor of the chariot, and that evening he died.

³⁶ As the sun was setting, a cry spread through the army: “Every man to his town. Every man to his land!”

³⁷ So the king died and was brought to Samaria, and they buried him there.

³⁸ They washed the chariot at a pool in Samaria (where the prostitutes bathed), and the dogs licked up his blood, as the word of the LORD had declared.

Ahab, the king of Israel went to battle and was struck by a random arrow that hit him between the joints of his armor. Ahab died of his wounds and they washed his blood from the chariot he had been in at the pool of Samaria and the dogs licked up his blood just as the word of the Lord declared would happen.

In the case of Ahab and Jezebel it was Ahab who died first by the judgment of God and after he was removed from the earth then his wife Jezebel was judged by God.

2 Kings 9:30-37 (NIV2011)

³⁰ Then Jehu went to Jezreel. When Jezebel heard about it, she put on eye makeup, arranged her hair and looked out of a window.

³¹ As Jehu entered the gate, she asked, “Have you come in peace, you Zimri, you murderer of your master?”

³² He looked up at the window and called out, “Who is on my side? Who?” Two or three eunuchs looked down at him.

³³ “Throw her down!” Jehu said. So they threw her down, and some of her blood spattered the wall and the horses as they trampled her underfoot.

³⁴ Jehu went in and ate and drank. “Take care of that cursed woman,” he said, “and bury her, for she was a king’s daughter.”

³⁵ But when they went out to bury her, they found nothing except her skull, her feet and her hands.

³⁶ They went back and told Jehu, who said, “This is the word of the LORD that he spoke through his servant Elijah the Tishbite: On the plot of ground at Jezreel dogs will devour Jezebel’s flesh.

³⁷ Jezebel’s body will be like dung on the ground in the plot at Jezreel, so that no one will be able to say, ‘This is Jezebel.’ ”

Jezebel was thrown out of a window, trampled by horses, and then was eaten by dogs. That was a fitting end to an evil woman who used manipulation and the usurped authority of her husband to run the country. The point to see here is that God judged the passive husband first and after he was destroyed then the judgment came upon the evil Jezebel. The judgment will come to the husband first because he is responsible for whatever takes place in his household.

PASSIVE PARENTING

Eli is an example of a man who was passive with disorder in his own household because his own sons were wicked and he did nothing to restrain them.

1 Samuel 2:12-17 (NIV2011)

¹² Eli’s sons were scoundrels; they had no regard for the LORD.

¹³ Now it was the practice of the priests that, whenever any of the people offered a sacrifice, the priest’s servant would come with a three-pronged fork in his hand while the meat was being boiled

¹⁴ and would plunge the fork into the pan or kettle or caldron or pot. Whatever the fork brought up the priest would take for himself. This is how they treated all the Israelites who came to Shiloh.

¹⁵ But even before the fat was burned, the priest’s servant would come and say to the person who was sacrificing, “Give the priest some meat to roast; he won’t accept boiled meat from you, but only raw.”

¹⁶ If the person said to him, “Let the fat be burned first, and then take whatever you want,” the servant would answer, “No, hand it over now; if you don’t, I’ll take it by force.”

¹⁷ This sin of the young men was very great in the LORD’s sight, for they were treating the LORD’s offering with contempt.

The sons of Eli were worthless men who supposed that the ministry was a means of gain and they used their office of priest to feed their own bellies. They would even seize offerings from the worshipers by force if they did not give it to them willingly. This caused the people to despise the worship of the God of Israel because of the offerings that were taken from them by force by these wicked men.

1 Samuel 2:22-24 (NIV2011)

²² Now Eli, who was very old, heard about everything his sons were doing to all Israel and how they slept with the women who served at the entrance to the tent of meeting.

²³ So he said to them, “Why do you do such things? I hear from all the people about these wicked deeds of yours.

²⁴ No, my sons; the report I hear spreading among the LORD’s people is not good.

Eli heard about how his sons were also committing sexual immorality with the women who came to the entrance of the Tent of Meeting so they were degrading the worship of the God of Israel to the level of a pagan cult that mixed sexual immorality with the worship. Eli heard about all of these wicked things that his sons were doing but he took no action to put a stop to this bad behavior.

1 Samuel 2:29 (NIV2011)

²⁹ Why do you scorn my sacrifice and offering that I prescribed for my dwelling? Why do you honor your sons more than me by fattening yourselves on the choice parts of every offering made by my people Israel?’

The passivity of Eli about disciplining his sons revealed that he honored his sons more than he honored God. He feared to offend his sons more than he feared God. This was a great evil in the sight of God.

1 Samuel 3:11-13 (NIV)

¹¹ And the LORD said to Samuel: "See, I am about to do something in Israel that will make the ears of everyone who hears of it tingle.

¹² At that time I will carry out against Eli everything I spoke against his family--from beginning to end.

¹³ For I told him that I would judge his family forever because of the sin he knew about; his sons made themselves contemptible, and he failed to restrain them.

Eli was a passive father who did nothing about the disorder that existed within his own household. The Lord warned him repeatedly about this sin and Eli did nothing about it. Eli was passive and failed to restrain his sons or discipline them. It was for this reason that Eli was judged by God.

1 Samuel 4:12-18 (NIV)

¹² That same day a Benjamite ran from the battle line and went to Shiloh, his clothes torn and dust on his head.

¹³ When he arrived, there was Eli sitting on his chair by the side of the road, watching, because his heart feared for the ark of God. When the man entered the town and told what had happened, the whole town sent up a cry.

¹⁴ Eli heard the outcry and asked, "What is the meaning of this uproar?" The man hurried over to Eli,

¹⁵ who was ninety-eight years old and whose eyes were set so that he could not see.

¹⁶ He told Eli, "I have just come from the battle line; I fled from it this very day." Eli asked, "What happened, my son?"

¹⁷ The man who brought the news replied, "Israel fled before the Philistines, and the army has suffered heavy losses. Also your two sons, Hophni and Phinehas, are dead, and the ark of God has been captured."

¹⁸ When he mentioned the ark of God, Eli fell backward off his chair by the side of the gate. His neck was broken and he died, for he was an old man and heavy. He had led Israel forty years.

Eli died on the same day that his evil sons died and this was a judgment to him because he had failed to restrain his wicked sons and did not discipline them for their wicked behavior.

1 Samuel 2:27-35 (NIV)

²⁷ Now a man of God came to Eli and said to him, "This is what the LORD says: 'Did I not clearly reveal myself to your father's house when they were in Egypt under Pharaoh?

²⁸ I chose your father out of all the tribes of Israel to be my priest, to go up to my altar, to burn incense, and to wear an ephod in my presence. I also gave your father's house all the offerings made with fire by the Israelites.

²⁹ Why do you scorn my sacrifice and offering that I prescribed for my dwelling? Why do you honor your sons more than me by fattening yourselves on the choice parts of every offering made by my people Israel?'

³⁰ "Therefore the LORD, the God of Israel, declares: 'I promised that your house and your father's house would minister before me forever.' But now the LORD declares: 'Far be it from me! Those who honor me I will honor, but those who despise me will be disdained.

³¹ The time is coming when I will cut short your strength and the strength of your father's house, so that there will not be an old man in your family line

³² and you will see distress in my dwelling. Although good will be done to Israel, in your family line there will never be an old man.

³³ Every one of you that I do not cut off from my altar will be spared only to blind your eyes with tears and to grieve your heart, and all your descendants will die in the prime of life.

³⁴ "'And what happens to your two sons, Hophni and Phinehas, will be a sign to you--they will both die on the same day.

³⁵ I will raise up for myself a faithful priest, who will do according to what is in my heart and mind. I will firmly establish his house, and he will minister before my anointed one always.

When Eli was passive about disciplining his sons, God took it as a personal offense. God said that Eli had despised the Lord by his passive behavior in disciplining his sons. The prophet predicted that Eli would receive a sign from God and this sign would be the death of both of his wicked sons who would die on the same day. As soon as Eli heard the report of the death of his sons and the capture of the ark then Eli himself fell down and broke his neck and died on the same day as his wicked sons died. The great importance of a man taking authority within his own household cannot be underestimated. God holds the man of the house responsible over the actions of his wife and over the actions of his children. Ahab was judged and put to death by God because of his passivity with his wife Jezebel and Eli was judged and put to death because of his passivity with his own sons.

Joshua 24:15 (NIV)

¹⁵ But if serving the LORD seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your forefathers served beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD."

The attitude of Joshua was in great contrast to that of Ahab and Eli who tolerated disorder in their households. Joshua said boldly that as for him and his household they would serve the Lord. The wife and children of Joshua did not have any other option but to obey the laws of God because Joshua was the head of his home and he enforced what was right in the sight of God within his own household. Joshua put God first place and he enforced God’s law within his own household. Joshua was not passive like Ahab or Eli when dealing with his wife or children or any member of his household who was under his authority and within his sphere of influence.

The biblical principle that can be seen here is that God holds the head of the home responsible for what occurs under his authority. Ahab died first because of his passivity with his wicked wife. Eli also died on the same day as his sons after the sign of their predicted death was fulfilled. God holds the head of the home responsible and it is for this reason that husbands must understand that they cannot be passive with disorder within their households.

1 Corinthians 11:3 (NIV)

³ Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.

There exists a divine chain-of-command and God the father is the head of Christ and Christ is the head of the man and the man is the head of the wife. If the wife is introducing disorder in the family because of her own self-will and independence it will be the man who will be judged for it, just as was seen in the example of Ahab. God held Ahab responsible for what was going on under his roof and Ahab was judged and destroyed by God because of his passivity.

Jeremiah 44:19 (NIV)

¹⁹ The women added, "When we burned incense to the Queen of Heaven and poured out drink offerings to her, did not our husbands know that we were making cakes like her image and pouring out drink offerings to her?"

In the time of Jeremiah, the prophet there were Israeli women who invented their own female deity that they called the Queen of Heaven. They would worship this false idol by making cakes in her image and pouring out drink offerings to her. Jeremiah the prophet rebuked them because this idolatry brought the judgment of God upon the nation of Israel and the nation was completely destroyed by war, famine and plagues. But these rebellious and idolatrous women justified themselves before Jeremiah by saying that their husbands knew about what they were doing. This shows that when the man of the house is silent then this is equal to endorsement because when these men said nothing that was taken as endorsement by these women.

Numbers 30:1-2 (NIV)

¹ Moses said to the heads of the tribes of Israel: "This is what the LORD commands:

² When a man makes a vow to the LORD or takes an oath to obligate himself by a pledge, he must not break his word but must do everything he said.

When a man makes a vow before the Lord then that man’s vows will stand and he will be obligated to keep anything that he has vowed before the Lord. A man is considered the head of his home and his vows are binding before God and he must do everything that he has said.

Numbers 30:3-5 (NIV)

³ "When a young woman still living in her father's house makes a vow to the LORD or obligates herself by a pledge

⁴ and her father hears about her vow or pledge but says nothing to her, then all her vows and every pledge by which she obligated herself will stand.

⁵ But if her father forbids her when he hears about it, none of her vows or the pledges by which she obligated herself will stand; the LORD will release her because her father has forbidden her.

A woman however is different than a man in the sight of God and if a woman makes a vow to the Lord and her father hears her vow or pledge but he says nothing then all of her vows and every pledge that she uttered will stand and she will be obligated before God to keep them. The principle here is that when the man is silent then this is equal to endorsement in the sight of God.

But if the father forbids the woman when he hears about her rash vow or pledge then she will be released from the vow. The vow of the woman is cancelled by the father who is the head of the home and the spiritual authority in the household. God recognizes spiritual authority of the head of the home and women are subject to this authority in God’s sight. If their vow is forbidden by the father then it is cancelled in God’s sight. But if the father is passive and says nothing then this woman will have to live by all the rash vows that has uttered from her mouth.

Numbers 30:6-8 (NIV)

⁶ "If she marries after she makes a vow or after her lips utter a rash promise by which she obligates herself

⁷ and her husband hears about it but says nothing to her, then her vows or the pledges by which she obligated herself will stand.

⁸ But if her husband forbids her when he hears about it, he nullifies the vow that obligates her or the rash promise by which she obligates herself, and the LORD will release her.

If a woman marries then she is no longer under the spiritual authority of her father because she is under the spiritual authority of her husband after marriage. If she utters a rash vow before God and her husband says nothing then this woman is obligated by God to live by everything that she uttered before God. Silence of male authority in the home is equal to approval in the sight of God.

But if the husband forbids his wife then he will nullify the vow that she has made because the husband is the spiritual authority and head of the home in the sight of God. The woman is released from the vow in the sight of God if her husband forbids what she said before the Lord.

It is therefore a godly wedding tradition when a father will bring his daughter forward and symbolically presents her to the groom. This speaks of the transfer of the spiritual authority over this woman from the father to the husband on the day that they are married.

It is also a godly tradition when the woman assumes the name of her husband because she is showing submission to the spiritual authority of her husband and testifying that she is a helpmeet and one-person together with her man. Retaining her maiden name is therefore a sign of rebellion against the one-flesh relationship because such a woman wants to retain her own independence while at the same time being married. The end result is that the two will never become one-flesh or one-person together.

There are some couples that live as two independent singles under the same roof because the woman has retained her own independence and is afraid to lose her own identity in being joined together with her husband. This is fighting against the divine order of God because God created the male and female to become one-person together. All of the missing parts of Adam are found in the wife and the wife is not complete unless she is joined to her husband. When they are joined together as one-person then they are both fulfilled and completed. Some Christian women have fought and resisted the one-flesh relationship by fighting their husband’s authority in the home. It is disorder in the sight of God and causes all kinds of chaos and disorder and strife and the fruit of this behavior is divorce because the woman destroys her own marriage by her own two hands.

It is evident by the word of God that women are to be under the spiritual authority or covering of a man. If they are not married, they are to be under the spiritual authority of their father and after married they are to be under the spiritual authority of their husband.

Numbers 30:9 (NIV)

⁹ "Any vow or obligation taken by a widow or divorced woman will be binding on her.

In the case of a widow or a divorced woman they are out from under the authority of a man if their father is passed away and their husband is passed away and so they are obligated to keep anything that they might utter before God with their mouth. A divorced woman is also out from under her husband’s authority when her marriage was destroyed so she too is bound by any rash vows that may be uttered by her mouth before God.

It is actually a blessing for a woman to have spiritual authority or covering over her in either the form of a father or a husband. But modern day so-called “liberated” women consider having a spiritual authority over them as bondage. This same worldly attitude has been imported into the church by demonic doctrines that teach women equality for Christian women. But God never sees women as equal with man or independent from man. God does not see “equality” but rather God sees “oneness.” The male and the female are to become one-complete person in marriage and all feminine independence fights and resists this one-flesh relationship intended by God since the beginning. God created the woman to be a helpmeet and she was created from the bone and flesh of the man so that all that was missing in Adam would be restored when he was joined to his wife in marriage. But liberated Christian women have taken the same view as the world and they are worldly in thinking and suppose that submission is bondage instead of a blessing. They think submission is like a rope the binds them and keeps them from their freedom and independence. This is like a boat that is tied to a dock and the rope holds that boat and keeps it from drifting away. But if that rope is cut then the boat will float aimlessly down the river and be lost. In that case, the rope that moored the boat is security and stability rather than bondage. In the same way, submission to male authority is not a rope to bind the freedom of a woman and not something to cancel her independence. Instead a submission to male authority is like a mooring to hold her securely and keeps her from drifting off to destruction.

Many widows and divorced women have found that when they were free from male authority it caused a feeling of insecurity and terror rather than a sensation of freedom. They were like a pine cone drifting aimlessly down a river with nothing to hold them in place and no more security left on earth. Submission to male authority is God’s plan and it is a blessing to woman not a curse as worldly women would suppose.

1 Corinthians 11:7-10 (NIV)

⁷ A man ought not to cover his head, since he is the image and glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man.

⁸ For man did not come from woman, but woman from man;

⁹ neither was man created for woman, but woman for man.

¹⁰ For this reason, and because of the angels, the woman ought to have a sign of authority on her head.

The man is not to have his head covered when praying because the head covering is symbolic of submission. The man did not originate with the woman but the woman was made from the bone and flesh of the man. The man was not created for the woman but the woman was created for the man. Those who teach feminine equality have promoted the idea that men were created to serve the woman but this is perversion and goes against God’s created purpose for the woman.

The woman is to have a symbol of authority on her head because of the angels. Angels are ministering spirits and they are involved in the answering of prayers.

Hebrews 1:14 (NIV)

¹⁴ Are not all angels ministering spirits sent to serve those who will inherit salvation?

The angels are ministering spirits sent to serve those who are heirs of salvation. But the angels of God recognize divine chain-of-command with the man as head of the wife. If the wife is doing all of the praying and will not allow her husband to pray or even read the word of God without interrupting him and correcting him then there is confusion in the spirit realm. The angels will be bewildered as to why a man is allowing his helpmeet to be the spiritual head of the home. When men are passive often the women will take over spiritual leadership in the home and that is confusion and perversion because God created the man to be the spiritual head not the woman.

1 Corinthians 11:11 (NIV)

¹¹ In the Lord, however, woman is not independent of man, nor is man independent of woman.

This verse is not condoning female equality but rather this speaks of the fact that the man is not independent of the woman and the woman is not independent of the man because God created them both to be one-flesh or one-person together in Christ. The male and female are complete in marriage and become one-person together in the sight of God. But within the marriage God has placed the man as the head of the wife and she is to be submitted to him.

If a woman prays or gives simple exhortation in the church she is to do so only if her male authority is sitting next to her. She should have either her father or her husband next to her if she makes an utterance in the church. If her male authority perceives that she is being carried away by emotions then he is to tell her to shut up and sit down and she must obey him because he is her spiritual authority.

I have seen women try to assert themselves into the pulpit and stand before a congregation and say that they are submitted to “such and such” a pastor. But these women are out traveling on their own and the “such and such” pastor they mentioned is hundreds of miles away and has no idea where they are at or what they are doing or what they are preaching. These women do not have a husband next to them or a father to serve as a spiritual authority and in fact they are out of God’s will by intruding into the pulpit. The only utterance a woman can make in the church is that of prayer or simple exhortation and that has to be done only under the male authority of their father or husband who must be present when they give such an utterance. These utterances are not teaching and do not involve teaching because it is not permitted for a woman to teach or have authority over a man. No woman is allowed in the Fivefold ministry for this reason because she cannot stand before a congregation and teach men because this is disorder in the sight of God.

[See my teaching lesson called “Fivefold Ministry Gifts” for more details]

1 Corinthians 11:13-15 (NIV)

¹³ Judge for yourselves: Is it proper for a woman to pray to God with her head uncovered?

¹⁴ Does not the very nature of things teach you that if a man has long hair, it is a disgrace to him,

¹⁵ but that if a woman has long hair, it is her glory? For long hair is given to her as a covering.

The head covering is symbolic of a woman’s submission to her spiritual head who is her father or her husband (if she is married). The male authority provides a spiritual covering for her and when she puts on a head covering, she is symbolically showing her submission to male authority that is present with her. The reason that it is a disgrace for a man to have long hair is the same reason that it is a disgrace for a man to wear a head covering while praying in church. This disgrace speaks of him being under submission to his wife and making his helpmeet his head. This is what Adam did when he followed the leading of his wife in the garden and received forbidden fruit from her after she had already eaten the fruit and was already spiritually dead. She took leadership over her husband by bringing the forbidden fruit to him to eat and was serving as an example for him to follow since she had already eaten of it herself. Having a woman serve as a leader over a man is a disgrace and that is what is represented by both long hair on a man or a head-covering on a man when he is praying.

But long hair on a woman is for her glory because it is for her glory if she submits to her husband. The long hair symbolizes the same thing as the head covering because it symbolizes that she is under submission to her husband as her head.

The entire teaching about head covering is speaking of the symbolic meaning behind it which represents a woman submitting to her male authority as her spiritual covering.

[See my teaching lesson called “Head Covering and Submission” for more details]

1 Peter 3:5-6 (NIV)

⁵ For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands,

⁶ like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.

Sarah was submissive to her own husband and she serves as an example for godly women to follow. Sarah obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. When a Christian woman says, “My husband is not my lord but Jesus is My Lord!” then this reveals her ignorance of spiritual things. This type of statement shows that they are totally ignorant of God’s divine chain-of-command because when a woman submits to her husband it is the same as if she submitted to Christ who placed her husband in authority over her.

Ephesians 5:22 (NIV)

²² Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.

The scripture says that wives should be subject to their own husbands as to the Lord. This means that when they submit to their husband then it is counted as if they were submitted to Christ who placed their husbands over them as spiritual heads. The only commandment that the woman has from the Lord is to submit to her husband as her lord and if she will do this then she will be blessed by God.

Matthew 22:1-7 (NIV)

¹ Jesus spoke to them again in parables, saying:

² "The kingdom of heaven is like a king who prepared a wedding banquet for his son.

³ He sent his servants to those who had been invited to the banquet to tell them to come, but they refused to come.

⁴ "Then he sent some more servants and said, 'Tell those who have been invited that I have prepared my dinner: My oxen and fattened cattle have been butchered, and everything is ready. Come to the wedding banquet.'

⁵ "But they paid no attention and went off--one to his field, another to his business.

⁶ The rest seized his servants, mistreated them and killed them.

⁷ The king was enraged. He sent his army and destroyed those murderers and burned their city.

The principle that Jesus teaches here is that when the king sent out his invitation for his wedding he did so by the mouth of his servants. But the servants were ignored and people paid no attention to them. Some even mistreated and even killed the servants who brought the message of the king. So, the king was enraged and he sent his army to destroy those murderers and he burned their city. The point here is that when God sent his message through his servants and when the servants were ignored, mistreated and abused then God took it personally. The message that the servants carried was not their own message but they carried the words of the king. When the servants were disdained it was the same as if the King who sent them was disdained and the King took this personally.

This same principle also applies to the marriage because of God’s divine chain-of-command. God is the head of Christ and Christ is the head of the man and the man is the head of the wife. If the wife therefore disdains her husband, then who is it that is going to take this personally? The fact of the matter is that Christ is the head of the husband and when the wife disdains her husband, she in fact disdains Christ who placed the husband as a spiritual covering or spiritual authority over her. It is therefore not true when the wife arrogantly says, “My husband is not my lord but Jesus is my Lord!” If Jesus was her Lord then she would submit to her husband that Jesus has placed over her as her spiritual authority!

The situation that arises when a Christian woman refuses to submit to her husband is that she is defying God’s divine order and resisting God’s chain-of-command with the husband placed as head over her as her spiritual authority. But if the woman does not submit to her husband then she has effectively denied him the right to be leader of the home. He cannot be a leader if she refuses to submit to him in everything.

There are complications that arise from this situation however because if the man does nothing about disorder in his home that is caused by his wife then that man will be held accountable by God. This biblical principle can be seen in the case of Ahab because he was first judged by God because of his passivity and then his wicked wife Jezebel was judged after her husband was dead.

The fact of the matter is that if the man is passive with disorder caused by his wife then he is in danger of being judged by God for it. But what is a man going to do because he cannot force his wife to submit to him? But if the woman does not submit to him then he cannot deal with the disorder that she is introducing into his household. A man can be judged by God and even be killed like Ahab if he does nothing but at the same time if the woman refuses to submit he is helpless to do anything about the situation. This can also be seen in the case of Moses and Zipporah.

Exodus 4:24-26 (NIV)

²⁴ At a lodging place on the way, the LORD met [Moses] and was about to kill him.

²⁵ But Zipporah took a flint knife, cut off her son's foreskin and touched [Moses'] feet with it. "Surely you are a bridegroom of blood to me," she said.

²⁶ So the LORD let him alone. (At that time she said "bridegroom of blood," referring to circumcision.)

Moses fled as a fugitive in the land of Midian and there he made a big mistake of marrying a pagan woman named Zipporah. This woman evidently despised Moses and despised the God of Moses and despised his Hebrew religion. Moses had two sons by this pagan woman but there arose an incident with the second son not being circumcised. It is not hard to imagine what caused this incident when God sought to kill Moses for his passivity in obeying what God called him to do. It was a requirement of God that Moses circumcise his sons and apparently this pagan woman witnessed the circumcision of their first son and she vowed that she would never permit this to happen again. She no doubt threw a fit and removed peace from the home and used many different feminine tricks to manipulate her husband. Often men will just give in to their wives wishes in order to keep peace in the home but this is always a mistake because this is peace by compromise. When a man does this, he has submitted to his wife and this is disorder in the sight of God. The man is to be the head of his home and the wife is required to submit to him.

In the scripture above we read that the Lord met Moses and was about to kill him but when Zipporah circumcised the second son then God let Moses alone and his life was spared. This reveals that the reason God was going to kill Moses was because Moses did not obey God and circumcise his second son. Why did Moses fail to do this job? It was because Zipporah resisted Moses and Moses disobeyed God in order to keep peace with his pagan wife. But apparently when Moses was lying on the ground near death and Zipporah was in danger of becoming a widow then she circumcised the boy herself. Her attitude however revealed that she was not pleased with this situation. She cast the foreskin at the feet of Moses with great disdain and said, “You are a bridegroom of blood to me!” She was not happy at all to have to circumcise the second son and this bad attitude reveals that she disdained Moses, disdained the God of Moses, and disdained the Hebrew religion that required circumcision.

But notice that the one who was going to be killed by God was not Zipporah but Moses! Moses was the head of the home and God held Moses responsible for the disorder that existed in his household. Whenever a man disobeys God in order to please his wife then that man is in danger of judgment, death and even eternal damnation! It is a serious thing to disobey God in order to keep peace with a woman who is throwing a fit in order to get her own way at home!

But what is a man to do when a woman refuses to submit to him? He cannot force her to submit so what other options does he have?

I once heard of a man who was called to go to India to do a crusade there and to win many souls for the Lord. But when he would mention this in front of his wife, she would throw a fit! She would turn red with rage and say, “I will not leave my comfortable home to follow you to a foreign country!” So, this guy just gave up on obeying God and he never went to India in order to keep peace with his wife. What will happen to him on judgment day when he discovers that thousands of Indians perished in hell because he did not obey God? Do you think he will be rewarded by the Lord and welcomed into heaven as a good and faithful servant? He in fact will be in danger of eternal damnation himself for this gross breach of obedience to the Lord! Is keeping peace with a wife worth going to hell over? Moses himself was almost killed by God because he disobeyed God while trying to keep peace with a wife who resisted him.

Again, I say, “What can a Christian man do if his wife refuses to submit to him?” If he is passive with her then he will be the one who will be judged by God just as Ahab was. It was also Moses that God sought to kill (not Zipporah) because Moses was the head of his home and God held him accountable.

MONKEY ON THE BACK OF REBELLIOUS WIFE

In order for a man to save his own neck from judgment he must learn the principle of putting the monkey on the back of his rebellious wife.

Ezekiel 3:18-19 (NIV)

¹⁸ When I say to a wicked man, 'You will surely die,' and you do not warn him or speak out to dissuade him from his evil ways in order to save his life, that wicked man will die for his sin, and I will hold you accountable for his blood.

¹⁹ But if you do warn the wicked man and he does not turn from his wickedness or from his evil ways, he will die for his sin; but you will have saved yourself.

The principle of putting the monkey on the back of the wife speaks of transferring the responsibility to the woman by requiring her do her part of submission. If a prophet does not warn the wicked man then God will hold that prophet accountable for not speaking up and warning the man of his sins. But if the prophet does speak out and warns the man of his sins then the blood will be on the wicked man’s own head because he was warned but he did not take heed. If the prophet warns the wicked man then the prophet will have saved himself from judgment.

This same principle applies to a husband because if the husband does not confront the wife with her rebellion then that man will be judged by God-like Ahab was. God’s judgment will always come to the man first because he is the head of the home in God’s sight. If the man wants to save his own neck, he will have to take action and confront the wife with her responsibility to submit to him as God has commanded her. In order to place the monkey on the back of the wife, the husband should do the following three things:

1. He must show her in the scriptures that God requires her to submit to her husband in everything and there are no exceptions to this command.

2. He must make his will as a husband clear to her and tell her that if she does not choose to submit to him then she will be placed in God’s hands for judgment.

3. If she continues to harden her heart and refuses to submit to him (and she is judged by God) then he does not have to pray for her. He can let her die under judgment and then he is free to marry a submissive wife who will do what he says without resisting him.

In putting the monkey on the back of a rebellious Christian wife, the man must show her the scriptures concerning wife submission. He must show her that the man is placed by God as the head of the woman. He can read to his wife the following scriptures:

Genesis 3:16 (NIV)

¹⁶ To the woman he said, "I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you."

God said clearly that the husband would rule over the wife and this is a basic principle that can be seen since the beginning when God first created man and woman.

Part 3-Divine Order for Women

1 Corinthians 11:8-9 (NASB)

⁸ For man does not originate from woman, but woman from man;

⁹ for indeed man was not created for the woman's sake, but woman for the man's sake.

The man did not originate from the woman but the woman came from the man and in fact she was made for him. This attitude that the man exists to serve the woman is unscriptural for this reason. The woman was created by God for the purpose of being a helpmeet to the man.

Genesis 2:18 (NASB)

¹⁸ Then the LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him."

The express purpose of God in making the woman was because it was not good the man be alone and God created the woman to be a helper that was suitable for him. The purpose of women is to be a helper to the man and no helper is to be a head of a man but a helper is to submit to the man for whom she was created to be a helpmeet for.

1 Timothy 2:11-14 (NASB)

¹¹ A woman must quietly receive instruction with entire submissiveness.

¹² But I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet.

¹³ For it was Adam who was first created, and then Eve.

¹⁴ And it was not Adam who was deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression.

The woman is commanded by God to quietly receive instruction from her husband with entire submissiveness and not fight or resist or argue with him. Spouting off equality doctrines of the devil is not submission to the husband. A woman is not to teach or exercise authority over a man but she is to remain quiet. This means she is not to teach him or correct him with false doctrines that she learned from divorced man-hating Christian woman or false doctrines invented to support feminine equality of the world. Adam was created first and then Eve was created to be a helpmeet to him. It is evident that from the beginning the man was to be in charge over the woman because he was created first by God. Eve was not created of the dust of the earth and therefore she is not an independent being from Adam. She was created out of the bone and flesh of Adam so that it would be only natural for her to submit to the man whom she was created out of. Adam was not deceived but it was the woman who was deceived so it is evident that women are prone to deception with their feminine thinking and they need to submit to the masculine logic of their husbands.

Colossians 3:18-19 (NIV)

¹⁸ Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

¹⁹ Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

This scripture commands the wife that she is to submit to her husband as is fitting in the Lord. This is fitting to the Lord because the Lord is pleased when wives submit to their husbands. This scripture first commands the wife to submit then secondly the husband is commanded to love their wives. The fact of the matter is that wife submission is required first before the man loves her because a man cannot love a rebellious and independent wife who is constantly pouring cold water on his love for her by resisting his authority the home. She is to submit first and if she will do her part then the husband can love his wife. It is a backward and perverse thing when women say, “If the husband will first love me then I will submit to him!” This is reversed and twisted because God commands the wife to first submit and then secondly the husband will love her if she does her part first.

Ephesians 5:24-25 (NIV)

²⁴ Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

²⁵ Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

Again, a second scripture confirms that the wife is to be the one to first submit to her husband and after she has done her part of submission then the husband is to love his wife. A man cannot love a wife who is not submissive and is resisting him and rebelling against him and refusing to allow him to be the leader of the home. She must submit first or else it is impossible for a man to love her.

1 Corinthians 11:3 (NIV)

³ Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.

It is clear from the scriptures that the man is the head of the woman and if she resists him as being her head then she is resisting Christ who placed the man as her head.

1 Peter 3:1-5 (NIV)

¹ Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives,

² when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.

³ Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes.

⁴ Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight.

⁵ For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands,

These scriptures say that if a woman is submissive to an unbelieving husband then she can win him to the Lord without saying a word to him. Unbelieving men can be won to Christ by the submissive behavior of their wives. If Christian women can submit to unbeliever husbands then how much more should a Christian woman submit to a Christian husband. A Christian husband would not ask her to do anything ungodly so there is nothing that she could not submit to him in. A godly woman is to have a gentle and quiet spirit and not resist her husband or fight to retain her independence and rebellion in the home. Holy women that were pleasing to God in the past all made themselves beautiful by being submissive to their own husbands.

1 Peter 3:6 (NIV)

⁶ like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.

Sarah is an example of a godly woman who was submissive to her husband Abraham and even called him her lord. Christian woman should all follow the good example of Sarah and her submission to her own husband at home.

There are many more scriptures that can be given because the same theme and the same principles can be seen throughout the entire bible from Genesis to Revelation.

After the man has read the scriptures to his wife about God’s commands for her to submit to her husband then the monkey is now on her back and she is the one who is forced to make a decision. The husband has freed himself from judgment of God and he can tell the Lord that he did his part and he informed his wife and then he can pray that the Holy Spirit will convict this woman of her sin of not obeying God’s command to submit to him. If the conviction goes on and the woman refuses to repent, she could end up with judgments from God that could even threaten her life.

1 Corinthians 5:5 (NIV)

⁵ hand this man over to Satan, so that the sinful nature may be destroyed and his spirit saved on the day of the Lord.

Apostle Paul even prayed that an unrepentant sinner would be turned over to Satan for the destruction of his flesh so that his spirit might be saved. Sometimes sin will open the door to the devil and a person will become struck down with diseases and they will not be healed until they repent of their sin. This can happen to a wife who sins against her husband by refusing to submit to him and continues in her self-will even after he has confronted her with her rebellion against God’s word.

John 5:14 (NIV)

¹⁴ Later Jesus found him at the temple and said to him, "See, you are well again. Stop sinning or something worse may happen to you."

Jesus told a man who was healed to stop sinning or something worse might happen to him. Sin most certainly can open the door to the devil to bring physical afflictions and a woman who is not submissive to her husband is in sin! But she will not experience the judgment until her husband takes action and confronts her and puts the monkey on her back or puts the ball in her court. These are both expressions of putting the responsibility upon the wife. If the man does nothing then the judgment of God will come upon the man for his passivity and after he is destroyed then the judgment will come upon his wife. But if the man will confront and rebuke and warn the wife by the above described steps, then the judgment will be upon her rather than the husband and he will save his own neck.

Job 42:7-8 (NIV)

⁷ After the LORD had said these things to Job, he said to Eliphaz the Temanite, "I am angry with you and your two friends, because you have not spoken of me what is right, as my servant Job has.

⁸ So now take seven bulls and seven rams and go to my servant Job and sacrifice a burnt offering for yourselves. My servant Job will pray for you, and I will accept his prayer and not deal with you according to your folly. You have not spoken of me what is right, as my servant Job has."

The friends of Job did not speak what is right about God and the judgment of God was looming over them because of this. They had to humble themselves and Job was to pray for them because God would accept the prayer of Job on their behalf. But if Job did not pray for them they would have been judged because they most certainly would not have been able to pray for themselves.

In the same way that Job prayed for his friends, a husband can also pray for his wife after she is judged by God for her lack of submission but if he does not pray for her then she will perish because she will not be able to pray for herself in that situation. It is then that the husband will be free to marry another woman if his wife hardened her heart and did not repent and did not submit herself to her husband. The man has the option to choose to pray for his wife or let her perish under judgment because he is the head of the home and God will listen to his prayers.

Genesis 25:21 (NIV)

²¹ Isaac prayed to the LORD on behalf of his wife, because she was barren. The LORD answered his prayer, and his wife Rebekah became pregnant.

The principle here is that Isaac was the head of his home and he had authority to pray for his wife and God answered his prayers. Rebekah was healed of being barren because of the prayer of her husband on her behalf. In the same way, a husband can pray for his wife to be healed or he could refrain from praying if his wife is struck down with sickness because of her sin of rebellion against his authority in the home. The man is the head of the home and has authority to pray for his wife for refrain from praying for her according to his own will.

In the case of the man who said he was called to go to India but his wife refused to submit to him so he ended up disobeying God-this could have serious consequences if this man is indeed called to the Fivefold ministry. If a man has a true calling and does not obey God to fulfill it then it could lead to his eternal damnation.

1 Corinthians 9:16 (NIV)

¹⁶ Yet when I preach the gospel, I cannot boast, for I am compelled to preach. Woe to me if I do not preach the gospel!

Paul was called from his mother’s womb to be an apostle and this calling is irrevocable. Paul was under compulsion to preach the gospel and even said, “Woe to me if I do not preach the gospel!” This means that eternal damnation looms over the head of a man who is a Fivefold minister if he does not fulfill his calling.

Assuming that the man who said he was called to India actually possessed a Fivefold ministry gift but he did not fulfill his calling because he wife refused to leave her comfortable home then he could end up in hell for not fulfilling his calling. But what is such a man to do if his wife is unwilling to go with him? He cannot just drag her with him against her will! But he also cannot just forsake the calling in order to stay at home and keep peace with his wife or he will end up in hell. Also, he cannot just leave her and go to India by himself because a man who is divorced is disqualified from the ministry. A man cannot even be a deacon if his wife is not under submission and his children obedient because such a man is not even fit to sweep the floor in the house of God. There is a high standard for anyone called into the Fivefold ministry and that means they must have their house in order with their wife under submission and their children in obedience. If they cannot manage their own household, they have proven they are a novice and have no business in managing the household of God in the Church. If they are still wearing spiritual diapers, they are not mature enough to help anyone else and having a marriage that is out of order with a wife who is not submitted to her husband is a sign of spiritual immaturity. They have no business in the ministry and are disqualified from being a missionary and are even unfit to sweep the floor as a deacon in the Church!

I heard a story of a missionary who went to one of the Caribbean islands and he said that he attended a national church led by a national pastor there. While he was present another foreign missionary came there and got up and went to the pulpit and gave his testimony. He said that while he was a missionary in India that his wife has left him for another man so now, he was alone but he came to their church in order to minister the word of God to these people. But the national pastor immediately got up and took this man by the wrist and pulled him away from the pulpit and told him publicly that he would not be ministering in his church because any man who cannot handle his own wife has no business being in the ministry and is disqualified from preaching! The missionary who observed this happen remarked that these nationals are smarter than they were given credit for and they really know how to run their churches down there!

This illustrates the fact that if a man’s marriage and household is out of order and his wife is not submissive to him and if he is divorced then he is disqualified from the ministry! The principle of being a husband of but one wife applies here because a divorced man who is remarried has had more than one wife. A man who is separated from his wife is also living in disorder and shows that he was unable to manage his own marriage. All of these things are indications of spiritual immaturity and are a disqualification from the ministry.

Therefore, if a man has a genuine calling into the Fivefold ministry and this man indeed was told by God to go to India as a missionary but his wife resisted him and refused to submit then he has only one option left to him. He cannot force his wife to go against her freewill, he cannot forsake his calling to please his wife or he will face eternal damnation, and he cannot leave her and go himself because in doing so he will be disqualified from the ministry and be disqualified from being a missionary as a divorced man. There is only one option left to a man in this situation and that is to put the monkey on her back.

He will have to go through the steps of showing his wife through the scriptures about God’s requirement for all women to submit to their husbands and then after teaching her along these lines he will then have to put her in God’s hands. The man can pray and say, “Lord I have done my part and presented your word to my wife and I have made known to her what is my will and so now You will have to convict her by the Holy Spirit of her sin.” A man who does this will have saved his own neck from judgment and from that point forward the conviction will be upon his wife to obey him. If she hardens her heart and stubbornly refuses to submit to her husband then the judgment of God can come upon her and she could be afflicted by disease. If there is no humility or repentance this situation could grow worse and she could even perish from it. If that should happen the man could remarry to a woman who is called to be a helpmeet to a Fivefold minister and who is submissive to him and then he could continue on with his plan of going to India.

I heard a testimony of a pastor who was involved in a large church building project and the Lord told him to sell his house and give the money as seed toward building his church. He knew his wife would absolutely refuse to do this because the house meant everything to her. So, he presented the idea to her and she threw a fit as he had expected. He then told the Lord that He would have to deal with his wife because he could not say anything else to her about this matter. The conviction of the Holy Spirit came upon this woman for many days and she could not sleep day or night because of the torment of conviction. After a long time had passed by, she finally gave up resisting the Holy Spirit and she willing gave up her house.

In this case the man obeyed God but he knew that his wife would have a real issue about this. So, he just did his part as the man of the house and told his wife his plan but he then left her in the hands of God. By doing this he was delivered from judgment himself and the conviction came upon the wife instead. If this same man would have been passive (for fear of dealing with his wife about this matter) then he would have been in disobedience to God and he would have experienced judgment as the head of the home. But if a man will make his will known to his wife and then put the monkey on the wife’s back then the conviction will come upon the wife and if she does not submit, the judgment of God will come upon her. But at least the man will have saved his own neck otherwise he could be like Moses who did not obey God in order to keep peace with his wife and the end result was that God sought to kill Moses because of his passivity in obedience.

A man cannot disobey God but he must fear God more than he fears displeasing his wife. He must be the head of his own home and if she does not want to submit then he is to set her straight with the word of God and then put her in God’s hands. That is how the conviction of the Holy Spirit will come upon the wife and she will receive God’s judgment rather than the man. But if the man is passive and does nothing certainly the judgment will come upon him first because he is the head of the home. Jezebel was a wicked woman who usurped authority and even killed innocent people but the judgment came first to her passive husband Ahab because he was the head of his home and he permitted his wife to do the things that she did. After Ahab was judged and killed by God then the judgment of God came upon his wicked wife.

Judgment will first come to the head of the home because God holds the man responsible for what goes on in his own household. After the head is removed by judgment then the woman will have the judgment of God rain down in her head because she has no more covering to shelter her from judgment. Men must have an understanding of spiritual things because of they are dull spiritually and remain passive they will most certainly be judged by God. Only if they understand spiritual principles and put the monkey on the back of their wives can they be spared judgment and then the judgment will come to their wife instead of them.

WOMEN NEED COVERING AND PROTECTION

Isaiah 4:1 (NIV)

¹ In that day seven women will take hold of one man and say, "We will eat our own food and provide our own clothes; only let us be called by your name. Take away our disgrace!"

This scripture speaks of the curse of war when a majority of the male population is exterminated in battle and there is a ratio of seven women left to every surviving male. These women need a covering and protection and being without a male protector was a disgrace to them. They were willing to provide their own support if they could come under the covering of a man. This is in great contrast with feminine liberation women who count it a disdainful thing to give up their maiden names in order to adopt the name of their husbands. Such women want to retain their own independence and there are even Christian woman today who are following the same example of worldly women and are married but do not adopt the name of their husbands. But during Old Testament times women thought the opposite of liberated women of present times because they considered it a disgrace not to have the name of a husband to adopt for themselves. Adopting the husband’s name is a godly tradition that follows biblical principle that the woman is created to be a helpmeet to her man. It is God’s plan that the woman become one-flesh or one-person together with her husband and it is totally against biblical precedent for a woman to seek to retain her own identity rather than adopting the identity of her husband. The reason that godly women adopted their husband’s names was because they understood the principle that the two should become one-flesh or one-person together and adopting the husband’s family name speaks of the woman assuming his identity for herself and becoming one-flesh together with him.

1 Peter 3:1 (AMP)

¹ In like manner, you married women, be submissive to your own husbands [subordinate yourselves as being secondary to and dependent on them, and adapt yourselves to them], so that even if any do not obey the Word [of God], they may be won over not by discussion but by the [godly] lives of their wives,

The Amplified version of the bible was translated by a woman and she gives additional clarification of the role of a wife by saying that the wife should adapt herself to her husband. This is a biblical precedent for a woman adopting the name of her husband showing that she is indeed one-person together with her husband rather than promoting herself or forcing her own equality and independence.

1 Peter 3:7 (NKJV)

⁷ Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.

A husband is to know and understand that the woman is a weaker vessel and she depends on him as her covering, protector and leader. The man and his wife are heirs together of the grace of life and that speaks of the couple sharing equally in all of the good things that God has given to them through the head of the home-who is the man. When women fight and resist their husband’s leadership, they are fighting against themselves because they are created by God to be one-person together with their husbands.

Ephesians 5:24 (NIV2011)

²⁴ Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

The word “everything” omits nothing and so this means that wives are to submit to their husbands in “everything” not just what they feel like submitting to.

Proverbs 31:30 (NASB)

³⁰ Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.

A beautiful and charming woman can also be a contentious woman if she does not honor the spiritual head that God has placed over her. A woman who fears the Lord shall be praised because a God-fearing woman is one who will submit to her husband in everything as the word of God has commanded her to do. A God-fearing woman does not fight her husband and resist his leadership in the home and does not promote her own independence and self-will.

1 Peter 3:5-6 (NASB)

⁵ For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands;

⁶ just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear.

Sarah was a godly woman and the mother of the Jewish race and she is an example for all women of future generations to follow. She was submissive to her own husband and even called Abraham her lord by honoring him as the head of their home. This is an example for all godly women to follow because if they follow the ways of the world and feminine equality, they will tear down their own house and find themselves divorced and living without a covering and head.

1 Peter 3:5 (AMP)

⁵ For it was thus that the pious women of old who hoped in God were [accustomed] to beautify themselves and were submissive to their husbands [adapting themselves to them as themselves secondary and dependent upon them].

The Amplified version of the bible does a good job in adding more detail to this scripture as it says that the woman should be submissive to their own husbands and defines this as adapting themselves as secondary and dependent upon them. Women liberation females hate to be considered secondary to a man because they not only want equality but superiority to be the head over the man in all things! But a godly woman will be like Sarah and consider herself secondary to her man and dependent upon her man. This is the attitude needed for a woman to become one-flesh or one-person together with her husband. There are many women who fight their husbands and are contentious and self-willed and such women never become one-flesh or one-person with their husband because they are resisting the one-flesh relationship established by God. Such women will always remain as independent individuals and never find their place as one-person with their husbands.

Proverbs 31:10-12 (NASB)

¹⁰ An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels.

¹¹ The heart of her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack of gain.

¹² She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.

An excellent wife is worth more than jewels because the heart of her husband trusts in her. Such a woman will do her husband good and not evil all of the days of her life. An excellent wife is one who is striving to make her man a success and serve him in any way possible knowing that she will find success when her man is successful. An excellent wife does not fight for her independence and resist her husband’s leadership in the home but instead joins together with him in unity and works as one-person together with him.

There are women who act as if it is terrible that a man spends time working rather spending that time with them. But in fact, a man shows his love for his wife and children by laboring under the curse of Adam to provide a living for them. Single unmarried men will typically not pay the price to labor the way a married man will do. The married man works for something greater than himself when he labors to feed his family. His labor is his love expressed for his family.

1 Timothy 5:8 (NASB)

⁸ But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

It is not a sin for a man to provide financially for his family and as a matter of fact this is a biblical command because if a Christian man is not a good provider then he is worse than in unbeliever. A trait or quality that marks a believer in Christ is if a man is a good provider. Nowhere in the bible does it teach that a man is sinful or evil because he works to provide for his family.

Genesis 31:40-42 (NIV)

⁴⁰ This was my situation: The heat consumed me in the daytime and the cold at night, and sleep fled from my eyes.

⁴¹ It was like this for the twenty years I was in your household. I worked for you fourteen years for your two daughters and six years for your flocks, and you changed my wages ten times.

⁴² If the God of my father, the God of Abraham and the Fear of Isaac, had not been with me, you would surely have sent me away empty-handed. But God has seen my hardship and the toil of my hands, and last night he rebuked you."

Jacob described his labor with Laban for twenty years and during this time he was in the heat of daytime and the cold at night and sleep departed from him as he was laboring day and night in caring for the livestock of Laban. He worked fourteen years for the daughters of Laban and six more years for the flocks that he gained as wages. This is a picture of a hardworking man that was busy day and night to provide for his family. Was Jacob evil because he was working to provide for his family? No, on the contrary Jacob was a good and faithful man and God rewarded him.

Genesis 31:12 (NIV)

¹² And he said, 'Look up and see that all the male goats mating with the flock are streaked, speckled or spotted, for I have seen all that Laban has been doing to you.

God caused the livestock to produce striped and speckled and mottled sheep because these were to be the wages of Jacob. God blessed Jacob even when Laban tried to cheat him out of his wages ten times. God blesses a hardworking man and Jacob was a good provider for his family.

The labor of Jacob was a display of his love for his family and Jacob was not evil because he was not always at home spending his time with his family. He was working to feed his family and women who have a husband who is a good provider and faithful should be grateful to God rather than complaining about it.

The fact of the matter is that God created the woman to be a weaker vessel than the man for the purpose that she would naturally depend on her man and need him as a covering, protector and provider. It is the man who labors with his greater strength to feed his family.

God has a plan for marriage and that plan is that a man be married to a woman and the man is to be the head of the home and the woman is to submit to him and they are to be one-flesh or one-person together in Christ. All feminine equality and independence fights against the plan of God for marriage and whenever God’s plan is not followed it will bring chaos and disorder to the marriage, family, home, church, society, and the nation. If men become leaders as God intended and if women submit to their men as God has commanded there will be divine order and peace in their families and this will bring strength to entire nation because nations are made of families.