Ace Week 

October 23-30, 2023

Ace Week (formerly Asexual Awareness Week) is October 23-30. For many GSAs and school communities, the topic of asexuality is either unseen, unheard, or not present. Whether or not you currently have any out asexual people in your GSA or school, celebrating asexual visibility is an important supportive act and may help asexual people discover, or come out about, their identities. 

ASEXUALITY 101

(A Virtual Pamphlet)

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8 Famous People Who Are Asexual

It is estimated that about 1 percent of the world's population is asexual, although some feel that the number may be as high as 3 to 5 percent.

Not surprisingly, there are many famous people from history and today's world that are either listed as asexual or who openly identify themselves as asexuals. This is no small step, because there is a lot of confusion as to what an asexual actually is

Janeane Garofalo 

Comedian and actress Janeane Garofalo has something to say to just about everything, whether it’s politics, racism, intelligence (or the lack of intelligence), or sex. She has publicly come out as being uninterested in relationships and calls herself asexual. Even in her comedy routines, she has often come out as being uninterested in having sex. Ironically, she is well known for her role in the cult status movie, Wet Hot American Summer

Nikola Tesla 

Nikola Tesla once said, “I do not think you can name many great inventions that have been made by married men.” True to his word, the famous inventor never married and it is believed that he may have died a virgin. His true love was in the act of creation and has said that, “I do not think there is any thrill that can go through the human heart like that felt by the inventor as he sees some creation of the brain unfolding to success… such emotions make a man forget food, sleep, friends, love, everything.” He is considered by many to have been asexual. 

Steven Patrick Morrissey

Singer Morrissey’s sexuality has often been the subject of debate, with many people believing that he is gay. In 2013, he came out in his autobiography as being humasexual, saying, “I am attracted to humans. But, of course … not many.” Morrissey says that he is celibate and that he was never attracted to girls as a teenager, although he has considered the idea of having children with a woman. Morrissey is listed as asexual in numerous online reports. 

Florence Nightingale

Because of Florence Nightingale's selfless, heroic efforts, she and her team of nurses helped save the lives of numerous soldiers during the Crimean War. She practiced a whole body approach to nursing that included improving the sanitation conditions of the hospital, establishing a laundry for patient’s sheets, and she provided her patients with stimulating reading materials. After the war, she was rewarded by the Queen for her unending efforts and compassion. Soon after, Nightingale helped fund St. Thomas’ Hospital and opened the Nightingale Training School for Nurses. Having devoted so much time to helping others, Nightingale never married and is believed to have been asexual. 

H.P. Lovecraft

Howard Phillips Lovecraft is one of the most quietly celebrated horror writers in the history of the genre. His tales of demonism and dark, ancient horrors influenced many of the horror writers we know of today. H.P. Lovecraft, however, was uncomfortable on the subject of sex. Being very Victorian and prudent, he was a virgin when he married his wife. His wife, Sonia, admits that Lovecraft had to read books on what was expected of a husband in the bedroom, but he was far from enthusiastic about the ordeal. Sonia stated that, “Of course, I did not expect him to be an ample provider but I did harbour some secret expectations that he might, after all, prove to be normal as a husband and lover. I felt however, that his inhibitions were provoked more or less by his severe Puritanical bringing up.” 

Isaac Newton

Sir Isaac Newton was one of the greatest scientists of the world. A physicist and mathematician, he was the leading founder of calculus, physics, and optics. His extreme self studies into the sciences is probably why he had no time for relationships and he is commonly listed as being asexual. In fact, it is believed that this genius died a virgin. About his work, he is quoted as having said, “If I have ever made any valuable discoveries, it has been due more to patient attention, than to any other talent.” 

Keri Hulme

Winner of the Booker Prize and author of The Bone People, Keri Hulme is very open to questions about her asexuality. In an interview on the NZ Herald News, she tells us that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being asexual. When asked about common misconceptions surrounding asexuality, she said, “The idea that asexual people can be cured. I am not sick, I am not deficient; I may not be normal but I am thoroughly natural. And I don't want to be any different from the way I am.” She also talks about the feelings of isolation many asexual people feel and how the AVEN (Asexual Visibility and Education Network) forum is helping asexuals discover that they are not alone. 

T.E. Lawrence

As is often the case, any man or woman of history who was never married or had children is called out as being gay. Such was the case for Thomas Edward Lawrence who had no known loves in his life. Commonly known as Lawrence of Arabia, he is known to have been captured by the Ottoman Turks and suffered repeated torture and humiliation at their hands. Biographers believe that Lawrence was a virgin at the time of his capture and that the events that followed left Lawrence bereft of any known sexual desires. 

To begin in your support of asexual students, start by knowing these definitions:

Asexual: Someone who does not experience sexual attraction. (Defined by AVEN)

Aphobic/Acephobic: The discrimination against asexual or aromantic people.

Demisexual: Someone who only experiences sexual attraction after an emotional bond has been formed. This bond does not have to be romantic in nature. (Defined by AVEN)

Heteronormativity: The assumption that heterosexual identity is the norm, which plays out in interpersonal interactions and institutional privileges that further the marginalization of people who are not heterosexual, such as asexual, lesbian, gay, and bisexual people.


Here are some ways to deepen your practice in supporting asexual youth:

1. Remember that identity is multifaceted. A student's identity as asexual will be impacted by other identities they hold such as their race, sexual orientation, gender, ability, and/or class. That being said, students may hold multiple identities such as being asexual and also lesbian, gay, bisexual, queer, and/or trans.

2. Learn about the asexual identity spectrum. This will provide a foundation for learning about the nuances between asexual identities and establish a common language to speak about them. 

3. Respect all types of relationships. There are nuances between asexual identities and relationships. Know that wherever they fall on the asexual spectrum, their relationships are valid, too.

4. Approach asexuality with an open mind and avoid misappropriation. Use resources such Information for Educators, provided by AVEN, and Ace Inclusivity by the Safe Zone Project to learn more about asexuality. 

5. Promote asexual visibility. Celebrate Ace Week every October! Also continue throughout the year by including asexual identities, experiences, icons, and history in topics talked about with your students.

6. Protect asexual students who’ve received aphobic harassment. Validate student experiences of harassment that are shared with you.

7. Affirm their experiences as asexual people. Listen to how people identify and affirm experiences that are shared with you, rather than questioning them.

8. Include asexual-inclusive sex-ed curricula and consent information. Consent should be at the foundation of any topic regarding relationships, and asexual relationships should be included in these discussions. 

9. Don’t affirm asexuality for the wrong reasons (e.g., “Well, now no one has to worry about you getting pregnant or getting STIs anymore!”).

10. Understand what allyship looks like. This is a practice and not a destination. Continue to defer to people in the asexual community; learn from them sharing, and advocate for their visibility and integration whether they’re present or not.

To keep learning about asexual people and identities, follow these links: