Mom

My Mom passed away on 24-May-2019 from injuries sustained after being hit by a car. As life is about SERVICE/LOVE to others, during all her life, Mom has been living a Whole-Life-of-SERVICE (very caring, highly responsible person, and always get things done very well) for the good of many others.

Mom was a teacher, mother, wife, charity leader & founder to help the poor, great cook and basket ball player and pianist in her youth at the school she was serving. She prepared and home cooked nutritious and delicious foods, 3-meal/day for my family and relatives who grew up with us and a lot of time to our neighbors. Mom knew what traditional/herbal medicines works well for our health. They all loved her cook, her chats, her traditional/herbal medicines, and all her service. Our house often full of guests and she cheerfully help/serve them well.

Our Dad told us, the day Mom passed away, he just made one phone call to one of her best friend. Dad did not even put this news on the newspaper, as traditionally. Yet, hundreds of her students, friends, people from her charity work, relatives & family came to mourn and grief for her death at her funeral. Many of her students and friends told me that they flew from other countries just to pray and give her proper final respects at her funeral. They told me what my Mom served and how they remembered her; and now that Mom is gone, they said no more activities/service as before because the leader was gone. As her children, we did not know that much details before, and just realized how much impact our Mom has made to these people's lives that after so many decades of her life, they still came back to mourn for her and gave their utmost respect at her funeral.

Mom has lived a Whole-Life-of-Service. Full of sacrifice of herself for the benefits of many others; including raising us as her children. As I found her pictures when she was young, I just realized that she was intelligent and beautiful. But she chose to not focus-on nor live-for herself but to take care of others, hence worn-out herself, for the good/benefits of many others, including myself. Without her sacrifice/service/love for us, there will be no best-version of me, as of today.

I can see that she was being sanctified/purified by living a life that satisfied the above Bible verse. Therefore people remembered her charity/love characters. That's what St. Timothy meant his verse above; whether it is service/sacrifice/act-of-love for her own children, or service/sacrifice to her students or others (since not every woman can have children).

She has fulfilled her vocation and calling (as a teacher, wife, mother, charity for the poor, etc.) and be a well-done and faithful servant. Nobody else can replace her roles, vocation, and calling because God purposed everyone with different calling and only that person alone can fulfill His purpose. From our mother-daughter chats, I can see that Mom has a very uneasy (but sanctified) life; our relatives and her best friends came to me and said so, too. Hundreds of people around her benefits and enjoyed her service and hence mourned for her death.

That morning my Brother informed me; and one of my Cousin messaged me (but their messages did not reached me at that moment); and hence God also used my 3 coworkers to strike me but they did not even realized that. I felt very uneasy in my heart with these 3 sequential occurrences but the Lord used them to get my attention that first, Mom is gone that moment (8:15 AM EST); second, that lots of things in life you either make-it-or-not (Discrete Outcome, as opposed to Continuous Outcome) such as become your purpose/not; third, reiterate Mom wanted to let others know that her life is very uneasy, not as most people mistaken perceptions are. When I look back, those 3 occurrence make sense. Hence building this webpage is part of that reason -- Mom wants to let others know and be realistic about life expectation -- Mother Teresa said it very well [see my Favorite Quote #5]. Hence, life is not just like a Facebook posting of "Kodak Moments", which could misrepresent easy life in just a 3-second smile. Who cannot just show your teeth in 3 seconds?!

Some current and former believer coworkers whom also gone through a lot of similar things in life including the loss of their loved ones, also share and comfort me. Fr. R also comforted me. My dearest believer best friends who are my prayer partners and prayer warriors are helping me a lot, through their prayers and their kind supports, comforting & encouraging words, although not all of them live in the same state or area. I am grateful that the Lord kindly put many fellow believers in my life to comfort me to help me move-on with my life. And He also always make Himself available to me, especially in the Adoration Chapel. Now the Lord also prepared me to be available to comfort/encourage those who gone through similar things in life.

We love you Mama and entrusted you to the love and care of our Lord Jesus Christ -- May the Lord take care of your soul, and RIP Mama!