Many times psychologically abusive parents will tell other family members that they will take their children to see the cut-off parent or the cut-off parent's family for Christmas however they don't. They may tell the rest of the family that they did take them on Christmas Day when they didn't or simply give some excuse why it didn't happen. If you are a God Parent or an uncle or aunt or grandparent of children that have separated parents make sure that the children definately see the cut-off parent on Christmas Day itself. If they can't see the cutoff parent because of extreme distance or Court action, do what you can to make sure that they get their gifts and cards and send thanks back to the Targeted Parent for the gifts. If you can keep in contact with the cutt-off parent and the cut-off parent's extended family this will help ensure that these kids will have good contact with all their family at Christmas.