When "no" happens. It's a little crushing; sometimes, it's a lot crushing. Hearing it makes me turn away - mentally, emotionally, and even physically. My thoughts and my face just kinds of freezes.
The older, I get the more I realize that I don't have to spend time with people I don't like. If you think that I have nothing to bring to the table and manifest that thought verbally by saying no - It demotivates me from putting anything on the table. If you hate my cheese plate, I'm not making you a souffle.
"Yes, and..."