Resources

GENERAL TOPICS

Affairs/Betrayal

Books

• "Not Just Friends" Shirley Glass
• "After the Affair" Janis A. Spring
• "Getting Past the Affair" Donald A. Baucom
• "Torn Asunder" David M. Carder (A Christian perspective)
• "Close Calls" David M. Carder (Affair prevention)

Web Sites

Excellent web resources to support affair recovery

• dearpeggy.com
• goasksuzy.com

Attachment

Books

• "Becoming Attached" Robert Karen
• "Parenting from the Inside Out" Daniel Siegel and Mary Hartzell
• "A Secure Base: Parent-Child Attachment and Healthy Human Development" John Bowlby Ph.D.

Video

• "The Dark Matter of Love" (a documentary on attachment and adoption - available on Netflix streaming)

Grace

Books

• "Shame and Grace: Healing the Shame We Don't Deserve" Lewis B. Smedes

Podcasts

• Church of the Open Door - Maple Grove Minnesota - Recent Messages

Introversion

Books

• "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking" Susan Cain
• "The Highly Sensitive Person" Elaine Aron

Video

• "The Power of Introverts" - Susan Cain on TED Talks

Narcissism

Books

• "The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family" Eleanor Payson
• "Trapped in the Mirror - Adult Children of Narcissists in Their Struggle for Self" Elan Golomb, PhD

Parenting

Books

• "Parenting from the Inside Out" Daniel Siegel and Mary Hartzell (atachment oriented)

Video

• "Still Face Experiment" Dr. Edward Tronick
• "Tronick's Still Face Paradigm" Dr. Edward Tronick
• "How Childhood Trauma Affects Health Across a Lifetime" - Nadine Burke-Harris on TED Talks

Sexual Addiction

Books:

• "Out of The Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction" Patrick J. Carnes, Ph.D.
• "Sex, Lies, and Forgiveness" Schneider and Schneider
• In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free from Online Sexual Behavior" Patrick J. Carnes Ph.D., David L. Delmonico Ph.D., Elizabeth Griffin M.A., Joseph M. Moriarty

Video

• Sexual Addiction - Patrick Carnes

Shame

Books

• "Shame and Grace: Healing the Shame We Don't Deserve" Lewis B. Smedes
• "The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are" Brene Brown (Brene has other excellent books and materials on shame and vulnerability)

Video

• "Vulnerability" - Brene Brown on TED Talks
• "Shame" Brene Brown on TED Talks

More TED TALKS

• "Why Good Leaders Make You Feel Safe" Simon Sinek - TED Talks
• "One More Reason to Get a Good Night's Sleep" Jeff Illiff - TED Talks
• "The Bridge Between Suicide and Life" (the power and importance of listening) Kevin Briggs - TED Talks
• "Depression, The Secret We Share" Andrew Solomon - TED Talks

MARRIAGE

Marriage

Books

• "How We Love" Milan & Kay Yerkovich (attachment in marriage)
• "Hold Me Tight" Sue Johnson (attachment/emotionally focused couple therapy)

Video

• "It's So Beautiful" (video clip on temptation from "Bug's Life")

John Gottman

• Making Relationships Work -Part 1- John Gottman
• Making Relationships Work Part 2 - John Gottman
• Making Relationships Work - Part 3- John Gottman
• Making Relationships Work - Part 4 - John Gottman
• The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse - John Gottman

Sue Johnson -Attachment focused

• "The Laws of Love" Dr. Sue Johnson
• "What is a Healthy Marriage?" Dr. Sue Johnson
• "Soothing the Threatened Brain" Dr. Sue Johnson
• "What Can I Do to Have a Great Sex Life?" Dr. Sue Johnson
• "The Science of Love" Dr. Sue Johnson
• "Fit For Fidelity" Dr. Sue Johnson
• "Why People Cheat" Dr. Sue Johnson