At our Spring 2012 meeting, Ed Studtmann presented a workshop on dealing with grief in ministry, including special situations. The following is a list of resources that Ed made available in his workshop, and we share it here for your use.
#1 "parent's grief: the tragic loss of a child" is www.recover-from-grief.com/parents-grief.html
#2 "stillborn: how a pastor can help" is www.ministrymagazine.org/archive/1987/January/stillborn-how-the-pastor-can-help
#3 "parents' needs and rights" is pdf attachment "pastoral care-parents' needs and right when a baby dies"
#4 "neo-natal handbook" is http://www.rch.org.au/nets/handbook/index.cfm?doc_id=910
#5 "dealing with miscarriage in your marriage" is www.marriagemissions.com/dealing-with-miscarriage-in-your-marriage
#6 "griefnet.org/grace happens" is http://griefnet.org/support/sg2.html
#7 "a little lifetime" is www.isands.ie
#8 "your own special goodbye: a guide to arranging a funeral for your baby" is http://www.ndhealth.gov/sids/Publications/Your%20Own%20Special%20Goodbye.pdf
#9 "when a child dies" is http://www.health.qld.gov.au/cpcre/pdf/when_child_dies.pdf
#10 "the SAFER-R model of crisis intervention with individuals" is http://app.razorplanet.com/acct/43623-8887/resources/SAFER-R_Model_Document.pdf
#11 "the PEWTER communication process" is http://media1.razorplanet.com/share/510579-5514/siteDocs/PEWTER_Training_Notes.pdf
#12 "9 things not to say to someone who's grieving" is http://www.womansday.com/sex-relationships/friendship/comfort-a-grieving-friend
#13 "how to help grieving people" is http://vcvs.org/ or http://vcvs.org/index.php?nid=168160&s=mn ( I would modify point #1 and not say you're sorry unless you are
the one "who pulled the plug" so to speak or could have done something but did not do it....personal opinion here)
#14 "embracing grief" is http://media.responderlife.com/archives/2011/1/4/embracing-grief.html
#15 "worldview 911 - providential death (1&2)" is http://media.responderlife.com/archives/?currentPage=6
#16 "beyond surviving: suggestions for survivors" is http://www.suicidology.org/c/document_library/get_file?folderId=257&name=DLFE-454.pdf
#17 "critical incident stress information sheet" is http://www.icisf.us/images/pdfs/rar/Critical%20Incident%20Stress%20Information%20Sheet.pdf
#18 "how do you cope with stress?" is not ready yet
#19 "Driskill funeral home packet" is not ready yet
#20 "qualifications for clinical pastor education" might not get transferred
#21 "HCMA clinical pastoral training curriculum" might not get transferred
#22 "30 ways to pray for your family" is http://www.differentdream.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/Thirty-Ways-to-Pray-for-Your-Family.pdf
#23 "some listings" is not ready yet [this had a number of hyperlinks and descriptions]
#24 "who cares for the caregiver?" is http://www.extension.unl.edu/c/document_library/get_file?folderId=221677&name=DLFE-3254.pdf
#25 "caring for the caregiver-pamphlet" is http://ebookbrowse.com/c4c-brochure-pdf-d93134415
#26 "washington county fire chaplains grief relief booklet" is not ready yet
#27 and #28 are pdf attachments
Other resources-
http://www.healingheart.net/articles/when_baby_dies.html
http://img.webmd.com/dtmcms/live/webmd/consumer_assets/site_images/media/pdf/hw/form_tp23272.pdf (related to dealing with stress)