In certain spaces and by certain individuals, you hear people say "all men are equal," "these days women are worthless," "this always happens to me," "you don't have to trust in love"... and so on. (Random Video Chat)
These and other expressions associated with couples, which are commonly heard in discussions about love and heartbreak, will be part of the video chat "Life as a Couple: Loves and Heartbreaks," organized by the Department of Student Development. The event will take place this Thursday, October 13th, at 11:00 am through the Entrenos intranet and the Envivo channel.
Ana MarĂa Vargas Betancur, Sara Moreno Osorio, and Gloria Elena Betancur JimĂ©nez, psychologists from this department, in collaboration with the Directorate of Human Development - University Wellbeing, will address the concerns of Eafi residents regarding relationships, experiences, and breakups.
"It will be a space to explore all aspects of this human cycle from two perspectives: love and lack of love," says Ana MarĂa. She adds that although there are no magical formulas to solve these issues, it is important to learn to recognize the stages through which you are going, the main aspects of your life as a couple, and to ask yourself appropriate questions in either state to avoid falling into generalized phrases.
"It's about providing some signals so that those attending the video chat start to consider other possibilities for experiencing love as a couple, and learn to ask questions about this instead of resorting to these overly generalizing phrases," says the psychologist.
This is how the questions that can be asked to the experts can be related to topics such as jealousy, possession, relationships, dependence, infidelity, compatibility, family influences, sexuality, communication, absence of differentiation, children, divorces, among others.
A Topic That Is Ever-Present
Gloria Elena Betancur Jiménez argues that this issue is inherent to humans and is present in any area in which they operate. In fact, she says that the issue is never fully resolved and that many people seek assistance in this regard.
"In the first semester, we held a café on the topic, and the participants asked about this, because it is something that is part of life, it is intertwined with everything we do as humans," she says. (Chatroulette)
Indeed, the three psychologists state that a high percentage of consultations at the University are directly or indirectly related to the topic.
"Many come for issues directly linked to their relationship because sometimes it is causing problems with their activities. Others, although they come for different reasons, later discover that behind them are related love situations that were not clear initially," says Sara.
Furthermore, the University is interested in having its community discuss the issue because, as the experts say, it has a positive or negative impact on people's quality of life and their student and work processes.
We will discuss, then, about the new relationships that are emerging and are commonly referred to as friends, friends with benefits, patches, flings; about those traditional and progressive relationships; about collective imaginaries; about social perspectives that hinder or allow the development of relationships; about planning conflicts, among others.
"On this subject, the field is very broad because love is in everything." (Read more)