D/s Outreach

Our mission is to facilitate meaningful conversation, promote support, and provide education about the challenges and rewards of Power Exchange dynamics. We believe that Power Exchange relationships are valid expressions of caring and connection between consenting adults.

We bring educational value to the kink community through classes taught by Sir Panda (He/Him). Sir Panda is a long-time polyamorous Dominant, sadist, and impact top living in the Kansas City metro area. He began his kink education journey when he created the Passport Program at Seattle’s Center for Sex Positive Culture (CSPC) in 2011, teaching consent and BDSM basics to those new to the lifestyle. In 2015, Sir Panda founded the View From the Top dominant discussion group, which he has hosted for nearly 11 years.

Sir Panda has served in a variety of roles in the kink community, including: Communications Committee member, event organizer, and host for the CSPC in Seattle, WA; event organizer and host at Arborea Falls in Woodinville, WA; BDSM Lead for Fantasy Forrest Events in Redmond, WA; and Program Lead for KinkFest 2023. He has taught classes for the CSPC, Leather Reign, the Kink Center, Pragmatically Kinking, and Wicked Grounds.

Classes Offered

Poly Power Exchange: D/s Dynamics & Ethical Non-Monogamy

Establishing and maintaining Power Exchange dynamics between two people can be challenging. Stir in multiple partners and you have a potent mixture that can rock your world - or blow up in your face. Traditional polyamory and ethical non-monogamy (ENM) can clash with the hierarchies inherent in Dominance & submission.

We will review concepts of polyamory & ENM, foundations of power exchange, and examine how ENM and D/s mix (or don’t). We'll engage with pitfalls and best practices - including topics such as direct and “stepped” authority, protocols for metamours, and poly agency in multiple D/s dynamics.

BDSM Roles & Attachment Styles

Attachments are emotional bonds formed in childhood, and whether we form secure or insecure attachments is dependent upon how our needs for attention, love, and growth are met. The patterns set in place carry forward to how we form adult attachments, including friendships, romantic partners, and the bonds of power exchange.

This presentation will examine the basics of Attachment Theory, how attachment styles are expressed, and how they are manifested in different BDSM identities and roles. The class will also touch on how to encourage secure attachment in ourselves and in our relationships with others.

Hearts on Fire: Handling New Relationship Energy
Without Getting Burned

New Relationship Energy (NRE) describes the thrilling emotions and infatuation experienced in early romantic bonds. Symptoms can include obsession, heightened attention, and idealization of partners. We can feel euphoric and super-charged. But NRE comes with its own perils. We can rush into commitments too fast, ignore red flags, neglect existing relationships, and experience frenzy.

This class will examine what NRE is, its biological and psychological origins, common mistakes - including the particular pitfalls related to BDSM and polyamory - and how to navigate from infatuation to lasting, authentic relationships.

Your Kink Is Not My Kink - But Is Your Kink OK?

Being exposed to certain kinks - kinks we judge harshly or don't understand - can provoke feelings of disgust, anxiety, even jealousy, This class reviews different types of play (including more extreme "edge play") that might prove negative or triggering to those exposed to them. It's important to know how to use discretion without being discriminatory, know when it's important to report a behavior, and when it's time to self-soothe and mind your own business.

We'll dive into the four principles of YKINMK , emotional reactions when a particular kink triggers us, how to avoid kink shaming, embracing sex positivity, and finally reaching Your Kink Is OK.

What Now? Responding to Consent Injuries

In the kink community, we talk a lot about what consent is, and how to reach good consent in play and with partners. Yet consent injuries happen all the time. What happens after things go wrong, and a consent incident shakes up a person, a couple, or a community?

This class will briefly touch on what consent is and how to secure it, then go beyond and examine how to best react when a consent incident touches us, as a stranger, a friend, or an event host. We’ll look at some recommended responses including incident reporting, and consequences such as apologies, punishments, and restorative justice.

Ethics in Kink

We should all aim to act ethically in our lives and in the kink community. But what does ethical mean to us? When it comes to BDSM, this discussion often stops at definitions of consent. But there is a whole world of ethics and ethical dilemmas beyond gaining basic consent.

This class explores what ethics are; the different categories of ethics; ethics and the law; mistakes, negligence, and bad faith; and what ethical behavior looks like - both in interpersonal relationships and in the wider community.

Core Values in Boundaries & Protocols

We express our values and boundaries in our everyday lives, whether we’re fully conscious of them or not. They may start with good intentions, but what we don’t know about our guiding principles can hamper self-awareness, hamstring relationships, and sabotage play or ongoing dynamics.

In this interactive workshop, we'll identify some of your core values and how to integrate them into your boundaries, rules, and protocols for a more authentic dynamic.

For more information, find Sir-Panda on FetLife or email sirpandaseattle@gmail.com.