D/s Outreach

Our mission is to facilitate meaningful conversation, promote support, and provide education about the challenges and rewards of Power Exchange dynamics. We believe that Power Exchange relationships are valid expressions of caring and connection between consenting adults.

Class Descriptions

What Now? Responding to Consent Injuries
We talk a lot about what consent is, and how to reach good consent in play and with partners. Yet consent injuries happen all the time. What happens after things go wrong, and a consent incident shakes up a person, a couple, or a community?

This class will briefly touch on what consent is and how to secure it, then go beyond and examine how to best react when a consent incident touches us, as a stranger, a friend, or an event host. We’ll look at some recommended responses including incident reporting, and consequences such as apologies, punishments, and restorative justice.

Core Values in Boundaries & Protocols
We express our values and boundaries in our everyday lives, whether we’re fully conscious of them or not. They may start with good intentions, but what we don’t know about our guiding principles can hamper self-awareness, hamstring relationships, and sabotage play or ongoing dynamics.

In this interactive workshop, we'll identify some of your core values and how to integrate them into your boundaries, rules, and protocols for a more authentic dynamic.

BDSM & Attachment Styles

Attachments are emotional bonds formed in childhood, and whether we form secure or insecure attachments is dependent upon how our needs for attention, love, and growth are met. The patterns set in place carry forward to how we form adult attachments, including friendships, romantic partners, and the bonds of power exchange.

This presentation will examine the basics of Attachment Theory, how attachment styles are expressed, and how they are manifested in different BDSM identities and roles. The class will also touch on how to encourage secure attachment in ourselves and in our relationships with others.

Ethics in Kink

We should all aim to act ethically in our lives and in the kink community. But when it comes to BDSM, this discussion often stops at definitions of consent. But there is a whole world of ethics and ethical dilemmas beyond gaining basic consent.

This class explores what ethics are, the different categories of ethics, ethics and the law, mistakes and negligence, and what ethical behavior looks like - both in interpersonal relationships and in the wider community.

Hearts on Fire: Navigating New Relationship Energy Without Getting Burned

New Relationship Energy (NRE) describes the thrilling emotions and infatuation experienced early in romantic bonds. Symptoms can include obsession, heightened attention, and idealization of partners. We can feel euphoric and super-charged. But NRE comes with its own perils. We can rush into commitments too fast, ignore red flags, neglect existing relationships, and experience frenzy.

This class will examine what NRE is, its biological origins, common mistakes while in NRE, and how to navigate from infatuation to lasting, authentic relationships.

Poly Power Exchange: D/s Dynamics & Ethical Non-Monogamy
Establishing and maintaining Power Exchange dynamics between two people can be challenging. Stir in multiple partners and you have a potent mixture that can rock your world - or blow up in your face. Traditional polyamory and ethical non-monogamy (ENM) can clash with the hierarchies inherent in Dominance & submission.

We will review concepts of polyamory & ENM, foundations of power exchange, and examine how ENM and D/s mix (or don’t). We'll engage with pitfalls and best practices - including topics such as direct and “stepped” authority, protocols for metamours, and poly agency in multiple D/s dynamics.

For more information, find Sir-Panda on FetLife or email sirpandaseattle@gmail.com.