it's time to stop coping.
let that survival behavior go.
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Say when it's time to stop coping.
In her book Recovering from the Loss of a Child,
author Katherine Fair Donnelly writes of a man
whose infant daughter, Robyn, dies from SIDS
(sudden infant death syndrome). The child had
died in the stroller, while the mother was out
walking her. The father had stopped to get a
haircut that day and was given a number for his
turn.
"It was something he never did again in future
years," Donnelly wrote. "He would never take a
number at the barber's and always came home
first to make sure everything was all right. Then
he would go and get a haircut. It became one of
the ways he found of coping."
I hate coping. It's not living. It's not being free.
It reeks of surviving.
But sometimes it's the best we can do, for a
while.
Eight years after my son died, I was signing the
papers to purchase a home. It was the first home
I had bought since his death. The night before he
died, I had also signed papers to buy a new
home. I didn't know that I had begun to associate
buying a home with his death, until I noticed my
hand trembling and my heart pounding as I
finished signing the purchase agreement. For
eight years, I had simply avoiding buying a
home, renting one less-than-desirable place after
another and complaining about the travails of
being a renter. I only knew then that I was "never
going to buy another house again." I didn't
understand that I was coping.
Many of us find ways of coping. As children,
we may have become very angry with our
parents. Having no recourse, we may have said
to ourselves, "I'll show them, I'm never going to
do well at music, or sports, or studies again." As
adults, we may deal with a loss, or death, by
saying, "I'm always going to be nice to people
and make them happy. Then they won't go away." Or we may deal with a betrayal by saying, "I'm never
going to open my heart to a woman, or man,
again."
Coping often includes making an incorrect
connection between an event and our behavior.
It may help us survive, but at some point our
coping behaviors usually get in our way. They
become habits and take on a life of their own.
And although we think we're protecting ourselves
or someone we love, we aren't.
Robyn didn't die because her father took a
number and waited to get his hair cut.
My son didn't die because I bought a new house.
Are you keeping yourself from dong something
that you really want to do as a means of coping
with something that happened to you a long time
ago? Cope if you must, if it helps save your life.
But maybe today is the day you could set
yourself free.
God, show me if I'm limiting myself and my life in
some way by using an outdated coping behavior. Help me know that I'm safe and strong enough now to
let that survival behavior go.
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More Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
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