Creativity comes in all shapes and sizes. It isn’t just about painting and drawing, often two acts we have long convinced ourselves we aren’t good at! Why not try looking at the world with fresh eyes and spend some time being creative. You could try using clay, weaving, dancing, writing, photography, creating mandalas with rocks and leaves for someone to find, performing, singing, playing instruments, creating in the kitchen, knitting, sewing, crafting… the list is endless.
When you do decide to try something creative and possibly new, don’t forget to take your growth mindset with you. Trying something for the first time can guarantee only one thing – you will no doubt stink at it! No one is great at something the first time. So, prepare yourself for a mess and several further attempts. The failures are not only part of the learning and growth, but part of the fun too! You should see what I made out of clay on the holidays!!! I’d like to say I’m getting better, but all I can say for sure is that I truly appreciate the quiet, creative time I give myself when making something. I feel so invigorated afterwards and I take this new energy with me into the next day or so.
There is so much to love about this quote from Jane Goodall. Right now, taking in the enormity of the Covid-19 virus across the world may well be impossible for us to comprehend. However, focusing on our own community and family is achievable. Zooming in on what makes you feel grounded and relaxed is something you can do each day. Concentrating on taking care of your family and loved ones and seeing how you can be of service to your community can help you to feel purposeful and productive. If everyone around the world does these things locally, we may well notice change begin to happen on a global scale.
Try spending some time today thinking about the ‘little bits’ Jane mentions that you can influence. What small acts can you commit with great love for others? What can you do for family and community to make a difference? It is when we team feeling good with doing good that we lead lives that are more likely to be truly fulfilling and satisfying.
What is optimism? Optimists tend to react to problems with a sense of confidence and have a strong sense of their capabilities to face and address the problem that will lead to a positive outcome. Specifically, "optimistic people believe that negative events are temporary, limited in scope (instead of pervading every aspect of a person’s life), and are manageable (www.pursuit-of-happiness.org/science-of-happiness/positive-thinking/,2018)
The difference between optimisitc and pessimistic thinking can be seen in people's different explanatory styles. If something challenging happens, you could think, did it happen because of me (internal) or something or someone else (external)? Will this always happen to me (stable) or can I change what caused it (unstable)? Is this something that affects all aspects of my life(pervasive) or was it a solitary occurrence (limited)? (www.pursuit-of-happiness.org/science-of-happiness/positive-thinking/, 2018). Optimists tend to explain difficult events as external, unstable/able to change and limited.
Benefits of an optimistic outlook:
protective factor against depression and other medical problems such as heart disease
linked to longevity of life-span
can speed up recovery of significant illness
better sleep
improved immune responses
improved ability to bounce back from disappointing or difficult events
What to do now?
Consider the different explanatory styles and take some time to explain them to your family. Next time you or someone in your family hits a challenge, discuss the first response you have and analyse it according to explanatory style. Can you help each other to find a more optimistic way to explain and frame the situation?
IS HAPPINESS A CHOICE? | HAPFEST | Margie Braunstein, inspirational speaker, author and lead facilitator with Quest for Life foundation.