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Steps for a calm back to school
Steps for a calm back to school
- Establish a night time routine.
A couple of days before your child starts school, begin practicing how the nights will look like when school starts. Help your child prepare school outfits the night before, choose the snacks they want to pack for school, have a good night sleep and a fresh start in the morning. This will help them develop their independence and ownership.
- Make the morning a breeze.
A morning routine can set the tone for a peaceful, focused day. Give yourself a head start by getting up 15 minutes before your kids. Let them choose their breakfast and outfit the night before so there’s no lag picking outfits. Ban electronics before bed so they don’t stay up late, and in the morning so they’re not distracted while getting ready.
- Find a home for all the school gear.
Designating a place in your home for all the school related gear, will make your life and your kids life much easier. Make your kids responsible for keeping all their school gear in the designated place, it will be one less headache for when they need something. It is so much easier for the kids to find what they need and put it away if it has a designated home.
- Model a positive attitude towards school.
Kids are a reflexion of us and even when we think they are not paying much attention, they are absorbing everything we do and say. Sharing your positive views, ideas and experiences about school, will help your child feel confident, secure and enthusiastic about coming to school. Having an open discussion about their feelings and worries is very important.
- Practice dropping off and pick up procedure.
Familiarizing your child with the dropping off and pick up zones at school will ease the separation anxiety many feel the first weeks of school. If your child will be riding their bicycles or will be walking to school, practice a safe route with them, go over the safety protocol at the streets, securing their bikes and gear, walking in the sidewalk and crossing streets in a safe way.
As a parent, who doesn't like to have a confident, secure, independent child? Everyone right? Well the truth is that many of us have kids who could use a little help, many of us have kids that have struggles with their confidence , self image, and self-esteem and that for sure breaks our hearts.
As a parent, who doesn't like to have a confident, secure, independent child? Everyone right? Well the truth is that many of us have kids who could use a little help, many of us have kids that have struggles with their confidence , self image, and self-esteem and that for sure breaks our hearts.
The truth about self esteem is that it is a process that starts since our children are babies; It's a process that starts at home.
The truth about self esteem is that it is a process that starts since our children are babies; It's a process that starts at home.
As parents it is our job to teach this "skill" to them. How do we do that? Well by loving them and accepting them the way they are. Being honest with ourselves and with them and understanding that they & even more so us, are not perfect. When as parents we criticize our kids, we are sending the message to them that "something is wrong with you... therefore you need to change".
As parents it is our job to teach this "skill" to them. How do we do that? Well by loving them and accepting them the way they are. Being honest with ourselves and with them and understanding that they & even more so us, are not perfect. When as parents we criticize our kids, we are sending the message to them that "something is wrong with you... therefore you need to change".
Helping our kids being independent and giving them plenty of ways to experience being independent is a great way we can help them boost up their self esteem. When a parent does "everything" for them, the message that we are really sending is that "You are not capable of doing this...". So let me do it for you.
Helping our kids being independent and giving them plenty of ways to experience being independent is a great way we can help them boost up their self esteem. When a parent does "everything" for them, the message that we are really sending is that "You are not capable of doing this...". So let me do it for you.
Let your kids experience making mistakes, it could be a teachable moment! Let them express to you their feelings at that moment, don't make a big deal of it, and move on. We are teaching them that failing and making mistakes is a natural part of our lives, and its not the end of the world. They will become resilient and secure individuals.
Let your kids experience making mistakes, it could be a teachable moment! Let them express to you their feelings at that moment, don't make a big deal of it, and move on. We are teaching them that failing and making mistakes is a natural part of our lives, and its not the end of the world. They will become resilient and secure individuals.
~Tania U-Valdez
~Tania U-Valdez
Print and color your very own Kelso's Wheel!!
Print and color your very own Kelso's Wheel!!
Focus on What You Can Control.pdf
10 ways to become more resilient
10 ways to become more resilient
How good are you at coping with adversity? Somehow, life always finds a way to present you with challenges that you didn’t see coming. Fortunately, you can improve your resilience skills—enabling you to bounce back when confronted with a crisis or an overwhelming change.
Differentiate problems from your response to them. You have the option of reacting with panic, or responding in a calmer, measured way that allows you to proceed logically toward a solution. It’s your choice!
View your strengths positively. Remind yourself that you’ve gotten through tough times before and be confident in your ability to re-apply those successful strategies.
Always be ready for change. Remind yourself that life is always ready to throw you a new curve, and that sometimes the advent of a big, intimidating change can end up being a positive learning experience that helps you grow.
Keep your perspective. No matter how overwhelming your problem might seem, try to view the situation in the longer-term context of your life and the larger world.
Lean on close family, friends and peers. Being able to share concerns—and to brainstorm innovative solutions together—can give you more confidence as you move forward.
Stay flexible. Try not to get locked into a single approach to solving a problem and have a flexible mindset.
Don’t forget your own needs. In times of crisis, staying physically and spiritually fit helps you fight off stressors of all kinds!
When in doubt, laugh at it. Try to find those nuggets of humor, shake your head, and laugh at life’s wackiness.
Look for the light at the end of the tunnel. No matter how difficult or uncomfortable a situation may be, remember that even the darkest of days won’t last forever.
Keep building your resilience skills. It may take time to learn how to stay balanced when times are tough. Keep learning from others who seem resilient, and build upon your valuable experience and personal strengths.
We welcome you to our 23 - 24 School Year!
We welcome you to our 23 - 24 School Year!
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Our community is great because of our diversity. We all are different & unique.
Our community is great because of our diversity. We all are different & unique.
It is normal to experience all kinds of feelings. They come and go, they are not permanent. Let's teach our children to express them in a healthy way.
It is normal to experience all kinds of feelings. They come and go, they are not permanent. Let's teach our children to express them in a healthy way.
All children test the limits you set and try to cross boundaries some of the time.
All children test the limits you set and try to cross boundaries some of the time.
This is an inevitable part of growing up, learning and becoming an independent person. Younger children particularly may test constantly. This is not them being naughty or disobedient - it is the only way they learn what you mean, what you say, and what the limits to their behavior are.
Attention Seeking
Attention Seeking
Children will do just about anything to get the attention they crave from their parents
Revenge
Revenge
Trying to get back at someone they feel has threated them badly - a sibling, parent, or friend. Children may not understand your reasons for insisting on a rule or limit- it helps to recognize their feelings of anger
Feeling Powerless
Feeling Powerless
If a child feels upset at not having control, they may often hit or get mad an an older sibling or friend.
Feeling Sad
Feeling Sad
A child at any age may show that they are feeling bad or anxious by behaving badly and may need more sympathy and affection. Punishing them will make matters worse.
Stage of Development
Stage of Development
Some children are simply not able to do what their parents want because of their age or stage of development.
As we learn how to take care of our anxiety, we are teaching our children healthy ways in which to deal with daily life situations that produce anxiety in us. Remember that they learn through observation & modeling.
As we learn how to take care of our anxiety, we are teaching our children healthy ways in which to deal with daily life situations that produce anxiety in us. Remember that they learn through observation & modeling.
Lets model appropriate ways to self-care!
Lets model appropriate ways to self-care!
It is important the kind of language our children use when they are going through a difficult time. We often hear from them messages of "I can't" & "I won't". Lets teach them that it is perfectly normal to experience difficulties in life, because thru the difficult times is when we grow, mature and become resilient. We need to train them to switch from the "I can't" to the "I don't know how to do this YET...."
It is important the kind of language our children use when they are going through a difficult time. We often hear from them messages of "I can't" & "I won't". Lets teach them that it is perfectly normal to experience difficulties in life, because thru the difficult times is when we grow, mature and become resilient. We need to train them to switch from the "I can't" to the "I don't know how to do this YET...."
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