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Internet Safety: What Parents Need To Know

We are currently living in a period of technological advances that this world has never seen before. The advent of the internet and the world wide web have given us the ability to communicate and be connected in new ways. However, with any new technology there are hidden dangers. The segments of the population with the greatest risk for being harmed are children and teenagers. In recent years, internet safety has been a great concern for parents, educators, and health professionals.

We must understand that children are much more technically astute then we imagine. It is imperative that parents take an active role in internet safety and partner with their children to keep them safe. There are ways to protect your children and decrease their chances of becoming victims of internet predators. Here a few suggestions that may help:

  1. Establish ground rules for internet usage, including the times that they may use the internet and the types of websites that they can visit. Post these rules in a place near the computer.
  2. Move computers to shared rooms such as the living or family room.
  3. Teach your child that if anything makes him/her uncomfortable, the best thing to do is “disappear”—don’t respond and get off the computer. Research shows that less then 5% of children who get a message that makes them feel uncomfortable tell their parents. This is probably because children fear they will lose computer privileges.
  4. Make sure your children know that they should never agree to a face-to-face meeting with anyone that they have met online.
  5. Internet safety software, like Net Nanny, can be helpful in blocking websites and looking for and blocking explicit pictures; it is also capable of blocking instant messages. Free programs are also available. Become familiar with viewing the internet history of your computer and maintain access to email accounts and review them regularly. Make it clear that you have access to anything on the computer and can review the history at any time.
  6. Make it a rule that your children know their friends in real life, as well as those they communicate with digitally.
  7. Tell your children never to give their last name, city or town they live in, the school they attend, or any other information that a predator could use to locate your child.
  8. Restrict instant messaging on cell phones and video game systems.
  9. Limit the time of day your child has access—it is probably more dangerous to be online at night when adults who may be predators have gotten off of work.
  10. Special note: Social Networking Websites (e.g., Facebook, Instagram)—allow users to post information about themselves such as location, birthday, interests, schools attended, and pictures. Internet predators would have all of the information they need to locate your child if given access to this information. Parents can set rules for their children, such as not being allowed to post pictures. Parents can also restrict access to their child’s page to their “friends” (other users who have asked to be linked to your child’s page and are approved).
  11. Help your children to understand that once something is posted on the internet, it can not be taken back and there are potential consequences for posting things that are inappropriate or harmful. Make it a habit to read your children’s blogs and let them know that you will be doing so.

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Helpful Tips for Parents of Teens

Talk with your teens about what they do online.

Be reasonable and set reasonable expectations. Try to understand their needs, interests, and curiosity.

Be open with your teens and encourage them to come to you if they encounter a problem Online.

If they tell you about someone or something they encountered, your first response should not be to blame them or take away their Internet privileges. Work with them to help avoid problems in the future, and remember – your response will determine whether they confide you the next time they encounter a problem and they learn to deal with problems on their own. Also, help your teen think about his or her other resources including good friends. Sometimes peer support can be very effective.

Learn Everything You Can About the Internet

Ask your teens to show you what’s cool. Have them show you great places for teens and fill you in on areas that you might benefit from as well. Make “surfing the net” a family experience. Use it to plan a vacation, pick out a movie, or check out other family activities. Make this one area where you get to be the student and your child gets to be the teacher.

Think before blocking

There are services that rate web sites for content as well as filtering programs and browsers that empower parents to block the types of sites they consider to be inappropriate. These programs work in different ways. Some block sites known to contain objectionable material. Some prevent users from entering certain types of information such as their name and address. Other programs keep your children away from chatrooms or restrict their ability to send or read E-mail. Generally these programs can be configured by the parent to only block the types of sites that the parent considers to be objectionable.

Whether or not it is appropriate to use one of these programs is a personal decision, but you should think it through carefully. At the end of the day, there is no technology that can prevent a teen from accessing information or sites if that’s what they are determined to do. If you do use such a program, you’ll probably need to explain to your teen why you feel it is necessary. You should also be careful to choose a program with criteria that reflects your family’s values. Be sure to configure it so that it doesn’t block sites that you want your teen to be able to visit.

It is important to realize that filtering programs cannot protect your child from all dangers in cyberspace. To begin with, no program can possibly block out every inappropriate site. What’s more, it’s possible, in some cases, for the programs to block sites that are appropriate. If you use a filtering program, you should re-evaluate it periodically to make sure it’s working for your family.

Regardless of whether you use a filtering program, you should still be sure that your teen follows all of the basic rules listed in this brochure. Filtering programs are not a substitute for good judgment or critical thinking. With or without filters, children and their parents need to be “net savvy” and communicate with each other.

Remember, the best filter is the one that runs in teens’ heads, not on the devices they use.

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