What do do when someone is giving you a bad vibe.

How to recognize signs of pedophiles, and how to properly react.

If you see it:

According to our statistics, every 8 minutes in America, a child is molested. The first thing to understand is that a child can't be molested if the pedophile doesn't have access to them. So be alert when it comes to children and adults. If a pedophile is trying to get a kid in a secluded spot, they'll go through a process called "grooming". This is when they try to gain the child's trust through gifts, attention or affection, special favors, and inappropriate privileges. If you notice these signs between an adult and child, you may want to keep a closer eye on them, or find out what is going on. If they're asking them for strange favors like "Will you help me find my dog?" Think about it. Why would an adult ask a little kid to find his runaway dog, rather than one of the other adults? They bribe them, and give them inappropriate gits, such as porn, alcohol, or drugs, and then take advantage of them. Then they blackmail the kids. They tell them that if the kids tell on them, the pedophiles would tell on the kid. So be aware. Chances are if you go up to them and confront them, that you'll scare them away. It's better to make sure and be wrong, then to not make sure and be right.

If you are the child/ teen:

The best thing you can do, is not go places alone. But if you're being approached by a stranger, make sure you look them in the eye. Look for signs to identify them. If they start asking you questions that make you uncomfortable, tell them that you have to go, or make up some excuse so that you can leave. If leaving isn't an option, call for someone. Your mom, dad, or older sibling. Make sure they know that you're not alone. Take control of the conversation. If he does something that crosses a line, run towards people.

If you are alone, and there is someone who makes you uncomfortable.

The first thing to do, is try to put distance between you and them, and head towards civilization. If they won't stop following you, talk to them. You can ask politely "What's you name?" or "How are you today?" Try to identify them. Their face, gender, height, weight. Anything you can figure out by looking at them. Most sex offenders are smart. If they know that you can identify them, they'll most likely leave you alone. They don't want to go to jail, which is part of the reason they pick on teens. Because teens have a tendency to panic. Calm yourself down, if you can. You have power over your situation. If they know they've been found out, there is a high probability that they will leave you alone. If you live in a dangerous area, or feel unsafe, it doesn't hurt to carry some legal form of protection either.

If they are a member of your family, or a friend.

Unfortunately, this is a real thing. In the majority of sexual assault cases, the victim is sexually assaulted by someone they know. The best thing you can do, is tell a trusted adult if it's a friend or a family member making you uncomfortable. A parent or a guardian. You'll notice the same signs from before. They'll try to bribe you. Give you things. They'll go through the whole grooming process with you. Don't let yourself be left alone with them. And once again, maybe carry some protection.

How to safely leave an abusive relationship.

Is this an abusive relationship?

Most people will have at least one, but most likely several, significant relationships in our lifetimes. At first, when we're new to relationships, it can be more difficult or challenging, because we're all so new to forming intimate binds with another person. We may not know what we're doing, or what we should expect. But relationships get easier with time and experience. But before you throw yourself into a relationship, ask yourself this. Are you prepared for a relationship? How can you hope to get to know someone else, if you don't know your self first? How can you help someone else with their needs and issues, if you are disconnected from your own? You need to know yourself and know your limits. Know when you're ready for a relationship and when you're not. And watch out for Red Flags. Red Flags are indicative that something needs to be validated or questioned. I'm going to provide you with some of the most common red flags.

1. Lack of Communication. Relationships are BUILT on communication. But if you're not communicating, how can the relationship stay healthy or alive? When someone finds it difficult to talk about issues or express their feelings in a relationship, that's a Red Flag. Relationships are built on openness and honesty. But if your partner is distancing themselves emotionally, and leaving you to deal with situations on your own, that's unhealthy. Vice Versa, if you're distancing yourself from your partner, you need to reevaluate your relationship with them, and decide whether you want to be with them or not. If you do, actually start being with them. This red flag alone doesn't necessarily mean you're in an abusive relationship. But if you're in this position, you need to communicate with your partner about the future of your relationship.
2. Irresponsible, Immature, and Unpredictable Behavior. Some people have trouble understanding basic life skills. This can include taking care of themselves, managing finances and personal space, holding on to a job, and planning for the future. Because of this, small crises surround the way they live, taking up a lot of time and energy. If so, there may be no time for you, leaving you alone to deal with your problems on your own. It may be hard to rely on them. This red flag alone doesn't necessarily mean you're in an abusive relationship.