PROACTIVE DISCIPLINE AT HOME

Proactive Discipline includes:

• Teaching (and re-teaching!) the expectations in your home

  • Communication and language

  • Cleanliness and care for materials

  • Routines for meals, bedtime, schoolwork, transitions

• Creating rules with children; teaching rules

  • Creating a visual of rules, or a family contract

  • Teaching the rules and helping children make the connection between home expectations and the rules

• Interactive Modeling (showing not just telling)

  • Teaching and practicing routines that have clear expectations

    • “Watch as I model ….”

    • “What did you notice me doing?” (adult has demonstrated routine correctly)

    • “Who can show me ….…?”

    • “What did you notice again?”

    • Continuing practicing and giving feedback

• Supporting the rules through effective adult language

  • Reinforcing children’s positive efforts

    • Describing, giving positive feedback; behavior specific praise

    • “I notice...” or “I see...”

  • Reminding to help children remember the expectations

    • “We’re about to _________. What are three things we need to get ready?”

    • “We’re getting ready to _______. How should this look and sound?”

• Supporting children with a schedule that meets their needs

  • Body/brain breaks

    • Energizers

    • Snack breaks

    • Earned breaks

    • Quiet Time / Choice Time

• Maintaining a positive connection/relationship with your child

  • Positive specific praise for positive behavior and cooperation

Example: State the positive behavior and the outcome of that behavior

"I notice that you dried all the dishes before putting them away. That helps keep the cabinet dry too!"

Non specific: "Good job on your chores!"

• • Scheduling special time together (such as a lunch date, one-on-one time)

  • Rewards such as a sticker chart or planning a celebration when your child meets a long-term goal)

  • Speak in a calm and neutral tone during challenging times

  • Focus on connection after

• Supporting students with academic needs

• Meet your child where they are at

• Stay in touch with teachers

• Breakdown directions and assignments

• Student explains their own strengths and challenges at school to you

• Helping students with homework

  • starting an assignment

  • after-school supports