TEACHING CHILDREN RESPONSIBILITY for THEIR LEARNING and BEHAVIOR
TEACHING CHILDREN RESPONSIBILITY for THEIR LEARNING and BEHAVIOR
We have to teach our children what it means to be responsible and how to go about doing this. Being responsible is not something they can learn on their own. As adults, we need to model the behaviors we want our children to learn. The tips below will help you to teach your child to learn how to be responsible.
We have to teach our children what it means to be responsible and how to go about doing this. Being responsible is not something they can learn on their own. As adults, we need to model the behaviors we want our children to learn. The tips below will help you to teach your child to learn how to be responsible.
1. Teach Children How to Set Goals
1. Teach Children How to Set Goals
a. Help your child to identify one goal to work on per week
b. Have your child write the goal down and post it on the refrigerator
c. Talk with your child about how to accomplish this goal
d. Throughout the week, check the progress of goal attainment
e. At the end of the week, help your child evaluate how well he/she did
f. Praise your child for trying. Set a new goal for next week!
2. Teach Children How to Plan Their Time
2. Teach Children How to Plan Their Time
a. Teach your child to learn how to plan time wisely by using a time log
b. Help your child learn how to set a daily schedule, then a weekly schedule
c. If your child can keep a schedule for 21 days it will likely become a habit!
3. Help Children to Develop a Good Study Plan
3. Help Children to Develop a Good Study Plan
a. Establish when to study each day
b. Establish how long to study each day
c. Establish where to study each day
d. Establish studying priorities
e. Create a homework/study "Tool Box" with items necessary to successfully complete assignments
4. Encourage Children to READ More Than They Watch TV or Play Video Games
4. Encourage Children to READ More Than They Watch TV or Play Video Games
a. Establish set times for TV and games
b. Establish set times for reading
c. Be a reading "Role Model"
d. Visit the library and find great books that will peak your child's interest
5. Teach Children the Problem-Solving Process
5. Teach Children the Problem-Solving Process
a. Decide what the problem is
b. Generate several possible solutions
c. Evaluate the solution
d. Decide on a solution
e. Develop a plan to make the solution work
6. Teach Children How to Be Good Listeners and Follow Directions
6. Teach Children How to Be Good Listeners and Follow Directions
a. Practice "Active Listening" by taking turns speaking; focusing on the speaker;
b. Summarizing what the speaker just said
7. Teach Children How to be Empathic and Get Along Well With Others
7. Teach Children How to be Empathic and Get Along Well With Others
a. Teach your child the three step process to resolving personal conflicts by asking:
"Why did you do that?";
"When you did that, I felt...";
"I would feel better if..."
8. Teach Children That Responsibility Also Means Accepting Consequences
8. Teach Children That Responsibility Also Means Accepting Consequences
a. To be effective, a consequence should meet three criteria:
1. Is it logically related to the misbehavior? (Children need to see the connection)
2. Is the enforcement respectful of the child?
3. Is the consequence reasonable to you and your child?
9. Teach Children to Understand What You Expect of Them as Their Parents
9. Teach Children to Understand What You Expect of Them as Their Parents
a. Children need and want limit
b. Establish family rules and teach about your expectations in positive ways
10. It takes a lot of effort to keep a child on track.
10. It takes a lot of effort to keep a child on track.
But it will pay off. When you teach your child to be responsible and capable, you will have met one of your most important responsibilities as a parent!
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