The elementary students and I read A Bug and a Wish by Karen Scheuer. In this story, the main character named Tyler was being teased by the other students at the bus stop. His friend, Danae, introduces him to "A Bug and a Wish" statement to effectively communicate with his peers - "it bugs me when you tease me, and I wish you would stop."
After reading the story, the students discussed what happened then learned how to use "A Bug and a Wish" statements. Students were provided scenarios and practiced with a peer/adult.
Example:
Scenario - You cut me in line.
Statement - "It bugs me when you cut me in line, and I wish you would please go to your spot."
When using "A Bug and a Wish" statement, it is important to be specific in what is bothering you and to be clear about what you want the other person to do.
To continue this conversation at home, feel free to use this language with your children to redirect them.
Example:
Scenario: Your child did not clean up their toys.
Statement: It bugs me when you leave your toys out, and I wish you would please put them where they belong.