"Comparison is an act of violence against the self." – Iyanla Vanzant

In today's hyper-connected world, social media offers a constant window into the lives of others. A quick scroll through Instagram, Snapchat, or TikTok can make it seem like everyone else is living their best life—perfect holidays, flawless appearances, and impressive achievements. But is this the full story?

The truth is, social media feeds are curated highlights, not reality. They rarely show the struggles, setbacks, or everyday challenges people face. When we compare our whole lives—including the highs and the lows—to someone else's highlight reel, we set ourselves up for disappointment. This can lead to feelings of inadequacy, low self-esteem, and stress, feeding what some call "the cancer of comparison."

Psychologists have long warned about the dangers of social comparison. Studies show that when people frequently compare themselves to others, they are more likely to experience anxiety and decreased life satisfaction (Festinger, 1954). Instead of focusing on what we lack, we should shift our attention to what we can control—our own personal growth.

How Can We Escape the Comparison Trap?

Be conscious of your scrolling habits – If a social media account consistently makes you feel ‘less than,’ it may be time to unfollow.

Practice gratitude – Take a moment to reflect on what makes your life unique and meaningful.

Focus on self-growth – Instead of measuring yourself against others, set personal goals and celebrate small achievements.

Surround yourself with positivity – Spend time with people who uplift and inspire you, rather than those who fuel comparison.

Remember, the grass is not greener on the other side—it’s greener where you water it. By focusing on your own strengths, values, and aspirations, you can build confidence and resilience, setting yourself up to thrive.

At GIS, we are committed to fostering a school culture that values individuality and self-worth. If you ever feel overwhelmed by comparison, our wellbeing team is here to support you. Let’s work together to celebrate our unique journeys, rather than measuring them against someone else’s path.