What Is Decompression Time? 

Decompression time is a short period after school where children are allowed to:

• Switch off from expectations
  
  

• Feel safe enough to “let go”
  
  

• Regulate their emotions before engaging again
  
  

Think of it like adults needing a breather after a long workday before chatting, cooking or making decisions.

What Decompression Can Look Like at Home 

There’s no one “right” way — it’s about what helps your child settle.

This might include:

• Quiet play, drawing or Lego

• Listening to music or an audiobook

• Time outdoors

• A snack and a cuddle

• Just being near a trusted adult without talking
  
  

💡 Tip: Many children need 20–30 minutes before they’re ready to talk about their day.

Talking Can Wait 

Instead of:

“How was school?”
“What did you do today?”

Try:

Connection-First Statements:

“It’s nice having you back home.” 

“I’ve missed you today.” 

Observational comment:

“You look really tired.”

“It looks like today took a lot of energy.”

Often, once children feel calm and connected, they’ll share naturally later on — sometimes at bedtime or in the car.

Why This Helps Anxiety 

When children know they’ll be met with:

• Understanding

• Predictability

• Low pressure

Their nervous system learns:

“I am safe. I don’t have to hold everything in.”

Over time, this reduces anxiety, supports emotional regulation and builds trust.