Narcissistic fantasy results from being unable to process the terror of abandonment. 

Winnicott observed, though, how playful relating turns imagination into a power of wonder for independence, recalling and admixing the presence of those who are gone, proof of a depth and resources of ourselves.   

As we grow, morality becomes the infrastructure for playful relating, internalizing ways to both hold it and make it possible.  Morality is a relational bond that reasoning people must have with others and concerning themselves as an other.  This bond presumes that we are never alone and then promises the world to establish this assumption.  A moral person can keep others in mind wherever they are, wherever that person is, subject to morally necessary forms of self-critique, humility, and epistemic moderation.  Doing so opens the space of society, which Winnicott realized is essentially playful relating.