Challenging Behaviors
Parenting-Zero to Three Resources
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Temper Tantrums: Why, How, and What To Do
Why is this important?
Temper tantrums are upsetting for both you and your child, but they are common for toddlers.
To minimize their occurrence, pay attention to triggers and do not give in to your child’s anger.
Angry Times
Tantrums often happen when a child is overstimulated, overtired, hungry, or bored. When a child has a tantrum, they lose control. With limited language skills, toddlers have a hard time expressing their needs.
During a temper tantrum:
Stay calm. Focus on what you are teaching the child, not on what others think.
Clearly and calmly tell them this behavior will not work.
Give as little attention as possible to your child while still keeping them safe.
Do not try to reason with the child. They have lost control and are too emotional to listen to you. Try saying, “I see that you are very upset. You will need to calm down before we can talk more. Can you take a deep belly breath?”
Speak in a soothing voice to help them calm down.
Remove your child from the situation gently but firmly.
After a temper tantrum:
Comfort your child. Feeling out of control is upsetting, and they will need your comfort to feel safe again.
When they have calmed down, explain that the tantrum was not okay, and they will not get what they want when they behave this way.
Do not bribe or give in to your child! This reinforces negative behavior and encourages tantrums.
The best thing you can do is to prevent temper tantrums before they happen. Notice what frustrates your toddler, and think of ways to prevent that frustration. Try using a "temper tantrum log" to keep track of what might cause your child's temper tantrums. Once you see a pattern, it will be easier to prevent tantrums in the future.
Positive Parenting Approaches
Helping Young Children Channel Their Aggression
Setting Limits
How to use Feel, See and Do strategies, using redirection, calming presence and patient parenting methods by Zero to Three
Parent-Child Activities That Promote Self-Control for Children 24-36 months
Red Light Green Light
Acting out feelings
For more information visit the link provided below through the blue button.
Controlling Anger Video
It's normal for children to get frustrated. This short video provides some suggestions for children in how to manage their frustration using self-control.
This video is online through YouTube from We Do Listen organization. Please click the blue button below to visit their website for more ideas in how to manage challenging behaviors.
We Do Listen
The We Do Listen Foundation is a 501 (c) (3) Non Profit Corporation. We create entertaining, educational books, videos, games and songs to help young children become better listeners, learn important life lessons and feel good about themselves. Children who learn these skills will grow up better informed to resolve conflicts and empowered to change the world.
Here are some of the topics in the website...
Being a better listener
Follow your heart and do your best
How to deal with bullying
Making the most of things
Managing anger
Telling the truth
The benefits and importance of sharing
Follow food and screen watching rules
Belonging, special needs
Fair play, teamwork & winning isn't everything
Fear and courage
Trust is earned, it's OK to say no and "stranger danger"
Manners do matter
Get along with others
Loss of pet or loved one
Sesame Street video: When the Monster Gets Mad! Belly Breathe
Cute song video helping our children use a relaxation strategy to manage their behavior. Elmo teaches our little ones how to take a deep breath and hold their belly when they are upset or angry.
Example of a Social Story : Keeping Your Hands to Yourself
Sometimes developing a social story is a way to help your child understand certain rules or expectations. Ask your therapist or educator for more information.
Findings show giving a child a "Time-In" can be a helpful effective way to provide children with a calm, safe space to reorganize their thoughts and behaviors. Some parents call them "cozy corners" or "peace place." For more information visit the Zero to Three website at...